10/13/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (183044)
United States
October 13, 2024 2:42am CST
My husband is home.
He had great difficulty getting into the house. His 2nd and 3rd cousins were here to help him into the house.
We had pizza and Chinese to celebrate his homecoming and a belated anniversary. His 2nd cousin (the ex nurse) helped him to the bathroom, etc. After she left, he had to go again and couldn't get off the toilet even with my help. He decided he would get on the floor and crawl back to his chair. He got about 2 feet and couldn't get any further. The kicker was he was naked as he was changing clothes. I had to call 911 and they got him back to his chair.
This is not good. There is a nurse coming this afternoon; and we will see what services she is offering. On Monday a home health aide will. make an appointment with us. I ordered a new walker that I'm hoping will help him stand up; but his legs are still weak. I don't want to see him have to go back to rehab.
His 2nd cousin (the ex nurse) is coming back today as early as she can manage to help out.
We could use all your prayers, support and thoughts. This is not how I was hoping yesterday would go.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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22 responses
@FourWalls (69466)
• United States
13 Oct
No, this isn’t good at all. Please call the VA (or have him call them) on Tuesday (the agency, not the hospital, tomorrow is a federal holiday) to see if they can help put up rails in the house. You’d be surprised how much they can help. They built a ramp for my neighbor across the street for his scooter…and gave him the scooter, too.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
I will call on Wednesday. I will be seeing Mr. Ohio today..
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@NJChicaa (120389)
• United States
15 Oct
@LindaOHio I would be raising holy hell with them
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
In the discharge papers they put "family's request". Those lying ########.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
16 Oct
@NJChicaa My husband doesn't want to burn bridges in case he has to go back there.
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@GardenGerty (161165)
• United States
13 Oct
Do you have a lifted toilet seat? That would put him in a higher position so he could stand easier. I am glad you have experienced help and bravo for him trying to solve his own problem. You can also get rails around the toilet so he can support himself to stand. There is a kind that are attached to the walls and can be folded up if need be.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
14 Oct
@vandana7 They have bedside commodes. If my husband could have stayed, we probably would have gotten one.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
There was a riser on the toilet seat. I tried to help him up; but he couldn't stand.
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@anya12adwi (10056)
• India
13 Oct
I really wish & pray he gets his strength back! You can use bed pans too if they are available..
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
17 Oct
@anya12adwi He is getting good treatment.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@snowy22315 (182795)
• United States
13 Oct
I hope something or someone will be able to help him and you.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@kaylachan (72456)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Oct
Sending him back to rehab won't do him any good. They've reached what they can do in a controlled environment, which is why he's home. When you switch environments, there's always going to be a learning curve and adjustment period. The first few days he'll likely feel week as he adjust to the home environment.
For the first month, George slept a lot. Now he's doing a lot more.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@rebelann (113053)
• El Paso, Texas
13 Oct
I am so sorry that happened to him and of course to you as well. I hate to say this but maybe you should get him some of those depend diapers that look like underwear, that way he won't need to rush to the bathroom that often.
I really am surprised that the rehab more or less kicked him out when he is not in very good shape.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
16 Oct
@rebelann Yes, I have a supply of pull-ups.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
He has worn them for 8-1/2 months as he was not able to go to the bathroom by himself.
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@Juliaacv (51695)
• Canada
13 Oct
I am sorry that his homecoming wasn't all that it could have been.
They should have had him doing these everyday things on his own before he left the facility.
Hopefully they can place someone to come to your home to assist with this adjustment so that he doesn't have to return to the facility.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@rakski (126829)
• Philippines
15 Oct
@LindaOHio if that is his betterment, I am sure it is hard for you both
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
Unfortunately he has to go to another care facility.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
18 Oct
@porwest He and I both refuse to give up. He says he will be home within that 100 days that the insurance will cover.
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@porwest (93195)
• United States
17 Oct
@LindaOHio Yep. I did read about that. Unfortunately, I think that's the final straw. I wish it weren't, but I am pretty sure that it is. I really do feel for you.
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@Beestring (14721)
• Hong Kong
13 Oct
That doesn't sound good. Hope the home health aide can help.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
He will be sent to another care facility.
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@BarBaraPrz (47814)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Oct
If he has to go back to rehab, is there a different facility he can go to? The one he was in doesn't seem to have done a very good job.
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@much2say (56444)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Oct
I'm sorry the day turned out to be so rough. I hope there can be help with strategizing in managing daily life around the house, or that someone can be there to assist, at least for now. Safety first for sure. May the situation improve . . . keeping my fingers crossed! 
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@RasmaSandra (81127)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Oct
Many blessings to you both, One good thing he is home the rest you will have to see about, I hope you can get home help in some way or perhaps have someone come in to give him PT. I will pray for you both, Perhaps this can help give you an idea of what can be done
https://www.caring.com/senior-care/in-home-care/ohio
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
15 Oct
Thanks for the link. As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@Marilynda1225 (83198)
• United States
14 Oct
Well I'm happy to hear that your hubby made it home but sorry that it didn't go as smooth as you had hoped.
I sincerely hope that you can get into a routine and that your hubby is able to maneuver around the house. Guess you will need some help from home health care aides and they will be able to determine exactly what kind of care he will need
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
14 Oct
As you've probably read by now, he's in the hospital and will be transferred to another care facility.
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@LovesEverybody (4386)
• United States
14 Oct
@LindaOHio I will be praying, I just heard about the latest with your husband. and want to tell you. your husband will get stronger and go home with God's help. Keep the faith (hugs to both you and your husband)
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