Letting go

I have never been a parent yet but I have been a teen long time ago. I could remember how I wished my parents let me go earlier and trust my decisions. I feel like because you are asking these questions you are on the right track. No parent can ever fully let go. You are doing marvellous!

I don't have children. However, I'm going to give you the same advice I'd give anyone because it could relate to this or any other aspect of life. My mother used to tell me, treat others how you want to be treated. Next year, in the eyes of the law, she'll will be considered an adult. If you've set, rules, limits and bounderies she should grow to be a well-rounded adult. If you have concerns about what she might be into or what she's doing, talk to her. Just like you would want to be talked to. Like the adult she'll soon become. If you have mutual respect for each other, you have no reason to be concerned. And, if she sees you're open and honest with her, she'll hopefully feel she can talk to you. Stay calm. It doesn't mean if they are a little kid, or a soon-to-be adult, they will still feed off of you. If you lose your cool they'll be more prone to do the same.

I have a 17 year old daughter. I'm glad that I don't have problems with her. She is matured enough to understand it all. She is going to college soon and I just guide her with her decision. I trust her. She has plans for her future.

you said it yourself - i give her a lot of freedom because she's earned it. i'm not a parent but i remember my parents used to let me do my own thing, but we had a "rule". we had to be honest with each other - if there's a problem - okay, we'll solve it / you did something you were not supposed to do - okay, let's talk about it and see how to do better in future. it worked pretty good for me