11/5/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (176794)
United States
November 5, 2024 5:56am CST
My husband said he wants to come home for Thanksgiving. That is impossible. He said he would be very careful; but we all know that wouldn't work out. Very sad.
He said that he hasn't been showered since he got there. I will call the social worker today and get this taken care of.
Don't forget to VOTE today. My husband voted by Absentee Ballot a couple of weeks ago.
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
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20 responses
@NJChicaa (119381)
• United States
11h
This has gone on long enough. It is time to start looking for a GOOD long-term facility for him. It will take some time to do the research but you need to start getting into it. He needs to start talking to a social worker/therapist/advocate so he can start coming to terms with the reality of the situation and what his future looks like. It sucks and no one is happy about it but it is reality.
It is sad that he won't be home for Thanksgiving.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
I am looking into other options. Yes it sucks that he can't come home for Thanksgiving.
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@snowy22315 (179768)
• United States
11h
Holy Crap I thought this place had 4 stars! In alot of ways it seems worse than the last one! So who exactly is giving out these stars?I guess you will have to bring Thanksgiving to him.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
Yes, he really doesn't like it there. His cousin will be making dinner and bringing it to him.
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@snowy22315 (179768)
• United States
1h
@LindaOHio Are you going to go too? I hope
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
@snowy22315 Yes. We will eat dinner together.
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@marguicha (222389)
• Chile
11h
I hope that you can find a place where he can stay near you. You are both in my thoughts.
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@BarBaraPrz (47143)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
9h
It would be better if they could get into a place that takes couples, as Linda needs some help too.
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@LeaPea2417 (37337)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4h
@BarBaraPrz yes, that's what they both need (together).
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
2h
@BarBaraPrz My husband would require 24/7 help.
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@wolfgirl569 (105305)
• Marion, Ohio
9h
Could someone be there with you on Thanksgiving to help him.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
We could hire someone; but he is too much for one person to handle.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
I don't know how they got a 4-star rating.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
Thank you so much, Amber. I love everyone here too.
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@BarBaraPrz (47143)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
9h
I was wondering if he got a chance to vote.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
Yes. I made out his Absentee Ballot for him a couple of weeks ago with the people/issues he voted on.
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@much2say (55330)
• Los Angeles, California
2h
There must be an organization/service that could help with pointing you in the right direction for what options would be possible for your husband - and you. I realize the kinds of costs that you may be paying after those 100 days are up . . . I just wish for a better quality of living for you both. Thanksgiving at home could be doable if there was an aide that can be there throughout the whole trip so all the logistics are covered.
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@much2say (55330)
• Los Angeles, California
1h
@LindaOHio Oh my goodness - is it 30 days already - where you'd have to pay $200 per day co-pay? I was thinking about that last facility where it was that self pay $9000something per month. I wonder what it would cost for you both to be in a good facility together . . . how wonderful it would be for you both to be together and enjoy life and not have to worry about all this stuff.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
@much2say It's the 21st day that we start paying. $240 per day. Yes, the last place was $9,000 per month. So far I've been cheated out of 9 months with my husband. It's not fair.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
We start paying on Friday. I don't know what the charges will be after the 100 days.
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@kaylachan (68556)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4h
You can take him out for the day, or should be able to. Or, just let him come home. Honestly, this has gone on far to long and I'm concerned that you're setting your expetations far to high. Not keeping them realistic. You should enjoying your remaining years together, not fighting over weather or not he should or shouldn't be home. Do the research into home health care for you and your husband that would provide 24 hour nursing and care. It does exist and you should be looking into it. For you, for him. So he can be happy with you.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
Yes, we've lost 9 months of being together. It's sad. I am looking into other options.
@FourWalls (67403)
• United States
4h
I voted by absentee, too, because my back wouldn’t allow these three-hour wait times. I can barely stand ten minutes in a grocery checkout!
Praying for you. You SURE you don’t need me to come up there and show them why Karens and ex-postal employees have bad reputations? 
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
How can you walk with a bad back? I couldn't do it. Yes, you need to come up here and tell off these so-called 4-star people.
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@Marilynda1225 (82598)
• United States
6h
I know this is a far stretch but would it be possible for him to leave for just one day? What if he came home by ambulance and then returned the same way. It certainly would be easy for them to get him in and out of the house. Just a thought.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
He would need an aide there to help him to and from the bathroom. Even then, he's a handful.
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@lovebuglena (44433)
• Staten Island, New York
7h
Wow! Terrible place. What do they do there if they leave a person without a shower for a long time?
It’s sad that hubby won’t be home for Thanksgiving but better safe than sorry.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
I called the social worker today; and she assured me that he would get a shower today.
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@Juliaacv (50866)
• Canada
49m
They do not feed him nor allow him a shower, that is so sad.
I cannot understand how this facility came so highly recommended.
He must just be in such dire straits that he cannot dwell on them and dreams of going home, which I understand will not happen. That is just so sad, I feel badly for you both.
I hope that there is a place that you can seek out assistance in relocating him to a safe place that will look after all of his needs.
@RasmaSandra (79370)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12m
I wish he could get home for Thanksgiving but perhaps you can take him a Thanksgiving dinner, Blessings to you both,
@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
I called the social worker today; and she assured me he would get a shower today.
@JESSY3236 (19892)
• United States
6h
I'm sorry that he can't come home for Thanksgiving. I already voted.
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@LindaOHio (176794)
• United States
1h
Good for you! Thanks, it really sucks that he can't come home.
@MommyOfEli2013 (83871)
• Rupert, Idaho
5h
Sorry to hear that, about all of that...
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