Do unresolved childhood issues affect our personalities?

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Childhood is a time when we need to give good support to children. Trauma, neglect, fear or inconsistent support can have lasting impressions and lead to childhood struggles. My friend and wife are undergoing relationship counselling. It is not exactly on rocks. But as we went further understanding the issues- it came out that his spouse had unresolved childhood issues. She was completely restricted from childhood in doing things. Faced most rejections from family and that has caused lot of issues resulting in a personality which is insensitive at times. Add to that there are attachment issues as well. Right now, I believe they are doing fine. The other day, one of my subordinates came to me and wanted to talk in person. As we entered the meeting room, she was crying and jumping up and down -thanking me! It got me into a state of shock! Well, she always had self-doubt and was criticised by her near and dear ones and had low self-esteem. I used to encourage her and never made a fuss even if she made mistakes ( the mistakes were all simple things – it was part of learning ). Her unresolved childhood issues were keeping her down all the time. I used to fear the darkness at night till around age 12. Till then I could sleep only using dim light. This was mostly because of the trauma of watching horror movies with family. Believe self-reflection or therapy can resolve such childhood experiences. But it is essential to resolve them for the betterment of our lives, for fostering better relationships and better state of mind as well. What’s your take?