11/11/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (181642)
United States
November 11, 2024 4:01am CST
I visited my husband yesterday. He seemed fine and only had a minute of confusion; so it looks like he has sundowners.
His care is terrible. He still hasn't had a shower (he's been there 3 weeks); and he was lying on a soiled sheet. I will be calling the nurses' station today. I'm looking for a place for him; but so far the places I've looked at have 2-1/2 or 3 stars. It won't matter if they don't honor his insurance because it will be self-pay.
He said he's not doing as well in physical therapy. That's not good news.
Thank you for your continued support, prayers and thoughts.
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@FourWalls (69005)
• United States
12 Nov
@LindaOHio — and this is a “4-star facility”??!!?
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
Yesterday my husband was way down in the bed and all crooked. I hit the call button to have someone come and help him move up in the bed. All she did was tip the bed. He had to do most of the moving himself.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
14 Nov
@FourWalls Except on the BBB. The BBB rates them at an F with 14 1-star reviews.
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@MarieCoyle (38704)
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11 Nov
Very concerning. He can easily get an infection with the catheter in anyway, add in the fact he is not given showers and has to lie in soiled bedding is unbelievable. Call the social worker, the person in charge, anyone else you can think of!! At this point, I would call the TV station there and have them do a story on the neglect!! I hope you can get him out of there, today. This is heartbreaking and terrible. I am so sad for you and for him.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
The social worker is going to tell the administrator plus we complained to one of the nurses.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
12 Nov
@MarieCoyle They showered him yesterday! On the BBB website I found that other people complained about residents not being showered, terrible food, etc.
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@MarieCoyle (38704)
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12 Nov
@LindaOHio
Oh, good. I would think the administration would not want to be out of compliance and would know that cleanliness is crucial when someone is as frail as he is.
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@snowy22315 (182193)
• United States
11 Nov
Why can't he go back to where he was before? Even if he doesn't get PT it seems his overall care was better. I am with Chicca I would have insisted he get a shower while I was there. Unless you make noises his care is never going to improve. If they think you don't care, they certainly won't.
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@snowy22315 (182193)
• United States
11 Nov
@LindaOHio Right, but I thought they said he progressed as far as he was able to.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
He got PT at the old place. I complained to the social worker who will tell the administrator.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
12 Nov
@snowy22315 Yes they did. He is getting PT at the new place; but my husband says he's not doing as well as he was. He has to keep up the PT if he has any chance of some day coming home.
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@jobelbojel (36041)
• Philippines
11 Nov
I am sorry about his situation. I hope you can find a better place for him with higher star rating.
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@LadyDuck (472097)
• Switzerland
12 Nov
@LindaOHio - He would be better where he was before.
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@much2say (56050)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Nov
The care there is indeed awful . . . I hope you can find a better place for him and asap!
My dad was rushed into a terrible rehab facility (the hospital case worker told us that's all that was available and insurance was about to run out). After about 2 weeks, he had to go back to the hospital. Talking to the hospital head and another doctor later on, they themselves could have recommended better facilities that they personally dealt with had they known at the time. I am hoping you can find people/professionals/advocates with inside info who can help you with this important search - it'd probably go a lot faster anyway.
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@much2say (56050)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Nov
@LindaOHio If you can, please do go visit them in person too .
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
I am looking for another place. It's hard to find those with a decent rating.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
14 Nov
@much2say He may have to go back to the old facility.
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@FourWalls (69005)
• United States
11 Nov
I wish you could find a senior residential apartment place where you could both live together. 
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
12 Nov
@FourWalls I told him to move over and that I was going to stay with him at the facility. Except that they are really terrible with taking care of the residents. He finally had a shower yesterday after 3 weeks! But I had to complain 2x to get them to act. 
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@Tampa_girl7 (50528)
• United States
11 Nov
What a nightmare of a situation. I pray he gets relocated soon.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
Thank you. I am looking for another place.
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@1creekgirl (41750)
• United States
11 Nov
Oh my goodness...no shower in three weeks! I sure hope you can get him transferred soon. I know this is so stressful for you both.
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@Marilynda1225 (83118)
• United States
11 Nov
I'm totally at a loss for words reading that your husband is laying on a soiled sheet and still hasn't been showered. It's beyond disgraceful
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@Beestring (14693)
• Hong Kong
11 Nov
I'm sorry to learn that your husband is not well taken care of in the facility. Better find another place for him.
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@shaggin (72238)
• United States
12 Nov
@LindaOHio gosh I don’t realize sundowners happens yo those without Alzheimer’s and dementia. Interesting to learn.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
12 Nov
No. Back in February he had hospital delirium; and he got over that.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
14 Nov
@shaggin It may just be the start of future problems I'm afraid.
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@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Nov
I would think that how well his physical therapy went would be determined by his mood. Poor guy. I hope you get him in a better place real soon. My thoughts are with you both.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
Thank you. I'm looking for another place.
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@kaylachan (71766)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Nov
I'd say sue for neglence but that costs a lot of time and money and takes forever.
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@kaylachan (71766)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Nov
@LindaOHio That won't help. Those do nothing to help anyone.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
11 Nov
I can leave a bad review for them when he leaves.
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
12 Nov
@kaylachan Turns out they have an F rating at the BBB and have 14 1-star reviews. I'm getting him out of there.
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@RasmaSandra (80748)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Nov
Obviously, he needs a different facility, Blessings to you both. I don't know if this can help you but here it is
https://www.inpatient-centers.org/treatment/ohio/
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@RasmaSandra (80748)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Nov
@LindaOHio that is too bad, You have to do a search online and see what is closer to you because I don't think he should be left where he is,
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@RasmaSandra (80748)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Nov
@LindaOHio sorry about that, I try to help when I can, How about this?
https://www.newsweek.com/best-physical-rehabilitation-centers-2021/ohio
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@LindaOHio (181642)
• United States
14 Nov
@RasmaSandra Thank you so much. Unfortunately the ones listed are 40 miles or more away from us.
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@lovebuglena (44721)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Nov
This place is terrible. Don’t want to pay out of pocket for a crappy place. Wish there was a better option.2 people like this
@lovebuglena (44721)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Nov
@LindaOHio hope you find one.
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@Dreamerby (5867)
• Calcutta, India
11 Nov
Oh my God that's horrible. They couldn't even change the sheets?!
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