Update on Friend
By snowy
@snowy22315 (180398)
United States
November 12, 2024 4:15pm CST
He was only at the ER for a couple of hours. They did some tests which came back inconclusive I think. His BP was 180 over something which is terrible, but had come down to about 160 by the time he left. I told him to call his doctor, eat more fruit, drink more water, I should have added get more exercise..because he just doesn't walk because he says it hurts his back. He just makes it a habit to eat out twice a day, which I have discussed with him cutting back on that, restaurant food is full of sodium. The thing about him which drives me insane though is he won't follow up with things. I asked him if he called his doctor, he said "I will tomorrow." 
. Also, I have been giving him beetroot down here in capsule form and asked him to buy some. He has not. If I ever confront him about not following through with things it is always manana. In fact, he does thing to avoid doing the things he should do. I bought a six pack of water for him as he is always drinking stuff like zero sugar gatorade..or other drinks that probably aren't as good as plain ol water for the body. He doesn't drink water often. It is just so frustrating.
. Also, I have been giving him beetroot down here in capsule form and asked him to buy some. He has not. If I ever confront him about not following through with things it is always manana. In fact, he does thing to avoid doing the things he should do. I bought a six pack of water for him as he is always drinking stuff like zero sugar gatorade..or other drinks that probably aren't as good as plain ol water for the body. He doesn't drink water often. It is just so frustrating.12 people like this
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
12 Nov
He thinks no one really cares that much about him, but I tell him it is hard to care the way he wants someone to when he demonstrates he doesn't care for himself. He does have a lot of people that care about him anyway..alot more than I have!
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@AmbiePam (92401)
• United States
12 Nov
@snowy22315 Don’t forget to add us to your list.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
12 Nov
@AmbiePam 
There are a few here who I consider to be friends.
There are a few here who I consider to be friends.3 people like this
@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
Yeah.. he's pretty good about paying bills, and obeying traffic laws other than that he isn't too good with the overall personal responsibility thing.
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@much2say (55512)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Nov
I'm curious if ER recommended anything for him . . . sometimes it takes a medical person or scare to make them get proactive about their health. I know you're trying to get your friend on the right track (and you're right about all those points) . . . he just has to care enough to get on that train. I forgot where I read this recently, but as we get older, the thing in our brain that tells us we're thirsty kinda stops working. So yah, it's VERY important we be conscious about staying hydrated - with water. Hope your friend is ok for now . . . we all know this health stuff has to be worked on and maintained. 
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
12 Nov
Yes, I read that too. I was going to get him a wallet for Christmas but now I am wondering if I should get him some kind of water bottle with markings on it, like I have. Not really sure if he would use it though..He super needs a wallet however..maybe I will get him both..if I find something suitable.
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@much2say (55512)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Nov
@snowy22315 If you can swing both, that'd be great! The wallet sounds like a definitely need - that one for sure. I truly hope he takes charge of his health . . . drinking more water would probably help with a lot of things!
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@Juliaacv (51045)
• Canada
12 Nov
I wish that he would see someone that he knows who has suffered a stroke and see the irreversible life changes an event like that brings on. That may make him take his health more seriously.
When I think of what my brother-in-law went through after his stroke, it is very sobering.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
12 Nov
His aunt had an aneyursm. I think the only reason she survived was that she was with her daughter in law who was a nurse. She wasn't physically disabled afterwards but she was left with some fairly signficant brain damage..and would make things up when she didn't know..who people were..I became her daughter's 5th grade teacher.. Kind of funny, but very life changing nonetheless. Also, some can't walk,talk or speak and are trapped in their bodies.
. Kind of funny, but very life changing nonetheless. Also, some can't walk,talk or speak and are trapped in their bodies.1 person likes this
@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
@Juliaacv Just because something is comfortable for you doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
@Juliaacv (51045)
• Canada
13 Nov
@snowy22315 Yes, many are trapped in their bodies.
The only blessing in such a case is if they also lost some of their mental capacities.
I do hope that he looks after his health.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
It is frustrating. I guess we all do things that really aren't in our best interest..but not as blatant as something like that is.
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@MarieCoyle (37105)
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12 Nov
Unfortunately, some people do not even try to take care of their health, and nothing we say or do makes much difference. I am glad they got his BP down a bit, but the problems aren't solved, I get so upset when someone says oh, I will call tomorrow...and they never do it. I'm sorry.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
@MarieCoyle Yep, he is extraordinarly l lazy..I hate waiting on him.
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@MarieCoyle (37105)
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14 Nov
@snowy22315
You may have to make a new set of rules and stick to them...not easy to do.
@MarieCoyle (37105)
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13 Nov
@snowy22315
No, you do not need a permanent couch potato. It’s nice that you care, but you would end up waiting on him and it’s not in your best interest to do that.
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@luisadannointed (6015)
• Philippines
13 Nov
You are such a good friend. I hope he gets better but I think I hope he do what's best for him.
Exercising and exact amount of water intake everyday is a must.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
I think he just isn't motivated and is fearful about getting to the root of the problem. Thanks.
@1creekgirl (41387)
• United States
13 Nov
I'm sorry to hear this, I hope he's doing better. He needs to listen to you.
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@snowy22315 (180398)
• United States
13 Nov
I know he does, but he wants to do his own weirdo dysfunctional thing.
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@Deepizzaguy (102523)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
12 Nov
I know that feeling since when a person does not want to take the advice from doctors and nurses to take care of themselves. It is frustrating.
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@LindaOHio (177898)
• United States
14 Nov
My husband is the same way. I used to always make his doctor appointments for him. Have a good day.
