The blame game starts.
By Judy Story
@jstory07 (139697)
Roseburg, Oregon
November 13, 2024 3:56pm CST
We were called at 4AM this morning my nephew is gone. There will be a service on Saturday.
My sister in law said everyone is blaming his wife. You can not stop anyone from doing bad habits if they do not want to stop. Why would that be her fault.
I was wrong about two little children. They had a month old baby. I did not know about the baby. They were told after the 13 year old daughter was born that she could not have any more children. Than nine years later she got pregnant again.
So they had four children. The last three four and under.
I hope his wife has family that can help her. We just got back from sending his wife some flowers. I do not know what else to do.
My sister in law will stay until Sunday morning. Than she has to leave to go back to work. I guess from hearing from my other sister in law. She was yelling at his wife with those kids there after he died.
All I can say what is wrong with people????
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21 responses
@BarBaraPrz (47308)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Nov
@jstory07 You don't consider yourself part of her family?
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@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Nov
@BarBaraPrz Yes I meant parents or siblings that live in the same state as her.
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@snowy22315 (180670)
• United States
14 Nov
I am sure she feels bad enough without people blaming her for what happened. Some people just take out their pain on other people
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@kaylachan (69646)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Nov
Grief makes people behave in usually agressive ways. His now widow is the closest adult in the family to them, so she's the target.
Humans in general have a habit of hiding parts of themselves from their loved ones so often don't get the help they need. The thing is, in this case, it's no one's fault except his own. And, even then, he was pretty young. So he could've easily had an undiagnosed underlying condition or abnormality that caused his symptoms to progress once he started the drinking and such.
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@kaylachan (69646)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Nov
@jstory07 And, now you'll never know. I am sorry about the loss, even if you knew it was coming.
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@luisadannointed (6189)
• Philippines
16 Nov
Condolences.
I hope people will stop blaming her, specially when she is all by herself, I hope too she have a family who can help her not only financially but a family support for the situation and emotional stress.
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@xstitcher (32461)
• Petaluma, California
15 Nov
So sorry this is all happening.
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@FourWalls (67986)
• United States
14 Nov
I don’t know what’s wrong with people. It’s been going on since Cain and Abel, which is hardly any comfort that we’ve never learned.
I’m sorry for your family’s loss. I’m more sorry for them that they can’t mourn in peace. All the bickering won’t change anything, it just makes the present and the future a lot worse.
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@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Nov
I called my sister in law and asked what stores she shops at and will send her some gift cards.
@Dreamerby (5104)
• Calcutta, India
14 Nov
This is such a difficult situation for everyone. Wishing you strength and comfort during this painful time.
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@grenery8 (10592)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Nov
this thing is mostly done by women and i don't like it. he was an adult man and you can't change people and i also don't like how sometimes society dictates you need to babysit adult people. i am sorry for your nephew's passing.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
14 Nov
Sad that the wife is blamed for his lifestyle.
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@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Nov
I hope his Mom does not take it out on the wife anymore. She needs to think about her grandchildren.
@2ndchances24 (8927)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
14 Nov
Some people just have no respect for others
I don't know what makes them do the things
they do, All I can say is God help them.
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