I found out a friend is cheating on another friend of ours. What would you do in my place?
@bellaisa (17)
November 17, 2024 9:40am CST
I was with a group of friends at a dinner party yesterday. We were all laughing and chatting, when something I never imagined happened: my friend Daniel, who is married to Amanda, was exchanging discreet messages with another girl, and it wasn’t just a friendship. The conversation seemed quite intimate, and I even felt uncomfortable seeing it.
I know Daniel has always been super loyal and trustworthy, but at that moment, all I saw were messages that suggested something very different. I got the feeling that he was cheating on Amanda with someone from our own friend group, and I felt completely lost.
At that moment, I decided not to say anything. After all, should I get involved in their personal lives? They have a close friendship, and what would be worse—telling Amanda or just staying silent? But the guilt of keeping such a serious secret has been eating me up...
The question is: "What would you do? Tell the person who’s being cheated on, or keep the secret?"
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@bellaisa (17)
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2h
I get what you're saying, but I believe that if it's something that affects everyone, it’s important to talk about it. Of course, no one wants to interfere in someone else's life without being invited, but when it comes to something serious like honesty between friends, it's hard not to be concerned. What do you think? How far do you think we should get involved in other people's issues when we notice something wrong happening?
@NJChicaa (119568)
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2h
@bellaisa I don't think you should get involved. Yes it can be concerning and upsetting and confusing but ultimately it isn't your business. You don't know what the whole story is. You could be wrong. Your friend may already know. Your friend may lash out at you if you tell her.
@bellaisa (17)
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2h
@NJChicaa I understand your point of view, and I agree that it’s complicated to get involved in something so personal. We don’t know the full story, and our intervention might not help or could even cause more problems. However, I think the question that remains is how far our responsibility as friends goes. If we see something that could potentially hurt someone, is it worth stepping in, or is it better to stay out of it?
I know that in the end, every situation is unique, and I could be wrong in wanting to get involved. The last thing I want is to make things worse or cause any conflict. Maybe the best thing is just to support my friend in other ways and be there for her if she wants to talk about it. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
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