Deceased.
By Margajoe
@Margajoe (4746)
Germany
November 18, 2024 2:57am CST
Hi all, My friend just told me , his friend has died this morning. The poor man was very ill. So , it was expected.
But, what is the right why to react when someone tells you , someone has died?
For me, it is very simple. The person who dies is set free. No more pain, no more confusion. Goes on to a new beginning. Like being born again. Rest is peace.
I envy them, they get to see what is on the other side. But I understand I cannot say this to others. What am I to say? I am sorry for you? I find lots of people to be very selfish when it comes to others dieing, others, meaning people who are very ill. Should they not be releived for the person who has died? This man could no longer walk, could not go out of the house. Could not eat much anymore, he looked like the walking dead. Poor man lungs were finished. He could hardly breath.
My friend said I should call his son. But if I do that he will come here to my house and cry his eyes out ( a man of 45) , what am I suppose to say?
He never looked after his father, he was to busy getting drunk because he could not take the stress. He did not want to visit his father in the hospital. It was to hard for him. What I do not understand.
Am I such a terrible person??
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
18 Nov
Yes, I am trying to learn that in all interactions with people around me. At least in My Lot I can speak my meaning.
Sometimes it is hard not to say what you mean, when you think you can help. But most of the time they do not need my help. I am learning that too. People are so difficult to please. What ever I do , it is always wrong. hahahaha!,
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
7h
@grenery8 yes I agree. Funny thing is, my mother used to warn me all the time for people. I did not want to beleive her. Maybe if I had taken it more seriously, I would be able to handle it all better. I thought she was just unhappy with her own life. But she was right. But, I still believe there is good in people. When I stop believing this, I will have no reason to go on. We just have to be careful. And keep our thoughts to ourselfs. Have a nice day .
@much2say (55601)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Nov
I suppose it depends on how well you know this person. The other day I met a stranger at the store - he told me his best friend just passed away a couple days ago. All I could say was I'm sorry for your loss and how difficult it must be to lose your best friend. I didn't not know him at all to make any other comment. I do think keeping it short is appropriate - unless that person really wants to have a deep conversation about it.
On that note, I don't know how well you knew the man who passed away and his son. But if it's too hard to speak, maybe sending a sympathy card would be good. Again, keeping the message short.
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