Learning to avoid some people

@Dreamerby (5756)
Calcutta, India
December 6, 2024 1:08pm CST
There's a guy in my college who seems to take pleasure in disturbing others' peace of mind. I make it a point to avoid him because his conversations either frighten me or leave me mentally unsettled. In the past, I hesitated to avoid people out of politeness, but now I realize it's essential for my well-being. Do you also steer clear of certain people for your own peace?
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@DaddyEvil (137487)
• United States
7 Dec
If/When someone makes me uncomfortable, I avoid them and suggest that my friends also avoid them.
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@DaddyEvil (137487)
• United States
7 Dec
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Yes. I have to learnt to avoid these people too.
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@Deepizzaguy (103991)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
6 Dec
I stay away from persons who have a bad habit of scaring people with threats of harming others.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Yeah some people really are an expert at threatening others
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@celticeagle (168163)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Dec
It makes me wonder what kind of life this person has had to make him this way. I have been listening to a podcast on YouTube about how to positively handle this type of people and other situations. It is very interesting and informative.
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@celticeagle (168163)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec
@Dreamerby ........I suppose. He is evil and nasty.
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@vandana7 (100540)
• India
8 Dec
Can you give a link?
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
His own frustrations with life I guess. That's he goes bombarding other people with rnadom scary thoughts. He wants others to worry and get frustrated with their lives like he does.
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@vandana7 (100540)
• India
8 Dec
It is a stoic response. Go for it girl....nothing wrong with avoiding people who disturb your peace. You will be mentally stronger the longer you can be at peace, and that will make you be rational in all your decisions...there is general thinking that people should socialize, not necessarily....it pretty much depends upon whom and why...nobody should scare you. On another note...why do his conversations frighten you....what does he say or do...that scares you? Are your fears rational, or is there any other childhood memory that is disturbing you. Only you can be honest with yourself on this. Always listen to your heart. And you do need to let your folks know sweetie....they should know why you are scared of this person.
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@vandana7 (100540)
• India
9 Dec
@Dreamerby I see. I am not sure that is something to be feared. It is kinda...he is insecure, and is jealous. And fears unemployment. And suffers with dreadful inferiority complex, and is a liar. Yes, I would steer clear of him. Most of the rapists and acid attackers suffer with 1. Inferiority Complex, 2. Are insecure, 3. Fear remaining behind in the social group, maybe financially, and are 4. Liars. To that extent, you do need to steer clear of him. But for the rest....in so far as your career goes, and education, he is pretty harmless. Deans incidentally never take suggestions from students, unless they have done something for which they can be blackmailed. Suggestion about other fellow student? You gotta be kidding me...LOL. Even if he was having an affair with the dean, dean would inform the student personally through a written letter. So he was bluffing on that. Can he bluff about you having affair with somebody, he can, if he falls for you. Steer clear, let your folks be aware of this guy, but beyond that, I am not sure you should let your fears over ride your studies.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
10 Dec
@vandana7 Yeah I have steered clear of him.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
9 Dec
Like "Did you hear this company is revoking offers after giving the offer letter"(surprisingly that company is the company I got placed in). Another boy had low attendance in another sem and he randomly said "I had a talk with the dean. He will make you repeat this subject you had low attendance in" & many more examples.in the course of 4 yrs.
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@crossbones27 (49703)
• Mojave, California
6 Dec
Have to be careful with that. I try to avoid all toxic people but things so weird in this country, many paint me as a toxic one. I am not the one spreading all this hate, but what ever. That guy you described used to be put on a list . Potential threat as terrorist or mass shooter. Now I think this country welcomes it. Crazy how times change.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
potential threat or mass shooter?
@wolfgirl569 (107932)
• Marion, Ohio
7 Dec
I don't have anything to do with people who I am not comfortable with
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Good for you!
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@allknowing (137590)
• India
7 Dec
I am good at that You should too.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Yes. I have learnt to do that for my own happiness.
@jstory07 (139790)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 Dec
I try to avoid those people that make me feel un easy.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
8 Dec
yeah we should.
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@amnabas (14635)
• Karachi, Pakistan
6 Dec
Yes i do avoid.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
yes that's good!
@JudyEv (341786)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Dec
There are a few people that I try to avoid.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Yes have to do that for own sake.
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@aureategloom (11157)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
7 Dec
what is he talking about that makes you so frightened? i don't mind people, no matter how they are. i can handle it. but i keep only good ones near
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• Bosnia And Herzegovina
7 Dec
@Dreamerby well, maybe it is what he heard. did he know that you got placed in that company? maybe he just wanted to check if that's true and meant no harm. give me another example, please
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
@aureategloom Yeah he knew that I was placed in that company. Another boy had low attendance in another sem and he randomly said "I had a talk with the dean. He will make you repeat this subject you had low attendance in" & many more examples.in the course lf 4 years I have forgotten many. I know what his intentions are because he is my batchmate for the last 4 years. You are just reading about him thats why maybe trying to imagine him as a different person.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
7 Dec
Like "Did you hear this company is revoking offers after giving the offer letter"(surprisingly that company is the company I got placed in). I think he is just frustrated with his own life and thats why wants to see other unhappy and frustarted.
@grenery8 (11100)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
10 Dec
absolutely and you did a good thing. yes, that politeness sometimes makes us uncomfortable and we suffer due to it but no, we matter more and our well-being.
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
11 Dec
Yeah sometimes for our sake, we have to step up our impolite game.
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@grenery8 (11100)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
14 Dec
@Dreamerby of course. Malicious people always want to take advantage of good people or in their eyes, weak people and we need to say no sometimes.
• India
8 Dec
You should avoid him. But if his conversations anytime is going to mentally unsettle you , make sure to unsettle him as well. Need not use any cuss words , but just ask some unsettling ones that should make him think twice. I do stay clear of people who do not treat others well or are saddists. But if they budge , I am not going to back out. They get things with interest. I have also avoided people who are onto selfish side way too far and never bother about others genuinely. I would not say it has been a great strategy but then atleast there is some peace in life in some ways. Well, enjoy your time!
@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
9 Dec
Yeah sometimes you have to do it for the sake of your own mental wellbeing.
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@prexie (360)
• South Korea
11 Dec
if i feel uncomfortable ,i just leave with silence
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@Dreamerby (5756)
• Calcutta, India
13 Dec
that's good policy!
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@LindaOHio (181320)
• United States
7 Dec
Yes, I avoid people that make me uncomfortable. Have a good weekend.
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@Shivram59 (36360)
• India
12 Dec
Like you I avoid such people and maintain a distance from them. They are avoidable. They just waste our time and make us feel bore.
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