Would you still be friend with someone like this?
By Diana
@dya80dya (36775)
December 9, 2024 2:00pm CST
I have an online friend. He helped me with several things. But at the same time, he annoys me every day. We talk daily on social media. He can't accept any arguments, he can't accept what I am saying. I showed him pictures and videos, I explained again and again the same thing. I explained that my computer wouldn't turn on the last time we talked. He couldn't understand this sentence. He asked if my laptop had problems. I explained again that my computer doesn't turn on. He couldn't understand this. I was shocked. I told him I didn't want to talk to him anymore. He didn't understand this.
I said that I had written in the Romanian language (my native language) and I asked him to read again the message if he couldn't understand. And he asked: ''What message?'' I couldn't believe this. So I decided to stop talking to him. I can't explain daily the same things. Even a child would understand. I don't want to judge anyone, but I am tired. I need positive friends, not people who annoy me daily. And he judges a lot. He isn't a positive person. I feel like he is like my dad or maybe worse. I noticed that he made my anxiety worse. He even said I would die very soon if I continued to stay indoors.
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11 responses
@snowy22315 (182167)
• United States
9 Dec
It sounds like he is more trouble than he is worth, or do you think it might just be a language barrier?
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@jefferson126 (3319)
• Shenzhen, China
10 Dec
I don't think the problem is language barrier,translator can fix language barrier.The problem is about mindset or different personality.
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@dya80dya (36775)
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10 Dec
@jefferson126 We are both talking the same language. He doesn't know English at all.
@somewitch (1417)
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11 Dec
His behavior sounds weird, I'd probably start avoiding him at some point, especially since it worsens your anxiety. Friendship isn't always easy but if you disagree so often and they act manipulative, then the best thing is to point that out and slam the door. I don't think he doesn't understand what you're saying, he just doesn't want to. I'd tell him so, and if he keeps on acting like a fool, I'd block him.
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@somewitch (1417)
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12 Dec
@dya80dya It doesn't sound like he thinks of you as a friend but more of a puppet, I read your other comments and he seems so selfish and entitled.
I'd say he doesn't deserve your time, at all.
@much2say (56002)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Dec
@dya80dya If it were me, I would ignore him completely. But if it's too much, I suppose you can always block or delete him. Sometimes, if it is worth it, I will give an explanation and then say bye. However, it sounds like this person doesn't understand how to communicate - maybe he is not worth explaining to.
@Deepizzaguy (104108)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
9 Dec
I know that feeling dealing with some persons on social media that are easily offended over words I use like "Cretin' to describe persons who act dumb toward me. I shut them out.
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@jefferson126 (3319)
• Shenzhen, China
10 Dec
If you feel hard to explain clearly only by text,you can send a picture to explain.It must be clear then.But i think the crux between you two is not about explaint.you two are not on the same page.Or he was pretending not understand you.Anyway,it's not worth keeping contact with him.just cut off from such a man.
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@jefferson126 (3319)
• Shenzhen, China
13 Dec
@dya80dya ,i doubt he was playing you,actually,he completely understand.Whatever,it's not worth keeping in friend with him,
@kaylachan (71747)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Dec
You have the power to block him if he's really bothering you. But, I don't think language is the problem.
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@kaylachan (71747)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Dec
@dya80dya Launage has two meanings. It's not only what you speak, but how you say it. Someone can get the wrong idea if they think you're saying one thing, but you mean something else.
@freelancermariagrace (28679)
• Philippines
10 Dec
I have learned to walk away from people who disturb my peace. Now, I live a happier life. It is best not to talk to him anymore, especially since he judges often.
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@aureategloom (11404)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
9 Dec
it could be some sort of bug with messages and maybe that's why he didn't see what you said before. also, maybe he wants to know what could be possible reason for your laptop not working, did it show any signs before it stopped working or anything.
now these are my understandings of what could've happen. i don't think that's a good reason to stop talking. but that's just me.
on the other had, comment about dying was unneccessary and rude. if he bothers you - you should stop talking to him. do good for yourself
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@dya80dya (36775)
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12 Dec
It could be a bug with the message, maybe he didn't receive my message, but it seems a bit weird. My laptop works, but my computer stopped working. He couldn't understand this. His comment was rude indeed, but it made me laugh. I didn't take it seriously.
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