Dilemma, and dilemma

How can people be fine with taking away what belongs to their parents, without the permission of the parent is something that is absolutely beyond my comprehension.

But Y is not a party at all....and A has not asked Y to take any such steps. A is not aware of the intended transaction, and Y is forced to keep silent because any such disclosure may lead to arguments and what nots, leading to somebody having major health issues. Y does not want to be the cause of that. She is waiting for P to ask A for signing the Power of Attorney...whatever be the explosion will happen at their end...she would be spared the guilt.

@vandana7 ......Strength and wisdom. I hopeful for you too.

I too felt that...but am controlling my anger. I hope god gives me strength to do that, and gives him some wisdom too, because the old lady is in a position to change her Will, and that means, he stands to lose a lot.

Yes it is. Traditionally, we in India are inclined to obey male members....like chatel if you can imagine...so this lady though a strong willed person will not be able to defy her son. The issue will also not be discussed with others but after the sale, there can be some arguments...which is what is scary. People should stand up what they want upfront, not later.

@vandana7 We have a lot of that here in the U.S. despite women supposedly having equal rights. We do and we don't.

Don't people realize that they are doing something bad...sigh...

Bulldoze is the word. He tends to behave like that in the family. I am afraid I am not gonna express anything like that because all that he already heard from me before. When he was handing over the charge of his mother to me, I had expressed that I will not participate in any sale of properties as it could lead to rifts. He said no no everything is good, my sister and I are on the same page...blah blah. Then his sister asked me for some link document, and I said I don't have it, and not to ask me to do such things as I have told brother upfront that I will not be handling such matters. She didn't like it, obviously. I told the same to brother, he said I am not controlling you, go ahead if you want to. That itself told me that they are not doing it together. Now, the sister is not asking me anything related to property when the brother is trying to sell. So sister is in dark. Why on earth should I help to procure the document? It will cause rift, and I will be the scapegoat so I told categorically that I told you upfront I am not gonna touch your cupboards why are you asking me...he sent a mail...you are beginning to irritate me. I only asked you to give me a document not conclude the deal...as if rift would not happen if I let him get the document and as if I would not be blamed. Sigh...if he wants, he should ask the sister and mother. They will tell me where they placed it, and I will pull it out and hand it over to them. As simple as that.

@vandana7 Ask him to talk to his mother and sort what he wants. Tell him you cannot handle finance part of things. Plus, it is better to stay out of financial troubles of this sort. As you rightly pointed , you would become the scapegoat in front of family. From the descriptions, it does look the brother and sister are exactly clean souls. So , prevention is better than cure. Staying out of it is nice!

That is the plan subject to all other factors falling in place.