12/17/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (181393)
United States
December 17, 2024 1:00am CST
I spoke with the social worker. My husband has an appointment with a urologist this week; so I will be able to get answers about his condition/diagnosis. I hope they will be taking the Foley out.
Tried to get in touch with my husband all day. Tried his room phone twice too; but an old woman resident answered the phone. If someone will answer tomorrow, I will get the correct number for my husband's room. I ordered him a new cellphone yesterday. It should arrive in 2 days.
We have a house full of clutter. Will probably continue giving items away or to Goodwill/Salvation Army. I may have to move at some point.
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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26 responses
@vandana7 (100558)
• India
17 Dec
It is hard to like your posts because they are filled with pain and fear of loneliness as well as concern for the plight of your husband. The only reason I like the posts is there is so much love in this that touches my heart. Love, hugs, tc...Linda...praying for you sweetie...
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
I hope so too. He's very uncomfortable.
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@snowy22315 (182065)
• United States
17 Dec
Can you get them to pick up? I think you might find life interesting in a senior complex.
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@snowy22315 (182065)
• United States
18 Dec
@LindaOHio I thunk I would stay put for the time being.. You have enough going on.
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
Finally was able to speak with my husband. I guess. I hate leaving our home though.
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@much2say (55974)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Dec
@LindaOHio Although I don't know much about it, I have read there are places where couples with different needs can live together. I wish that for you two .
@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
Unfortunately my husband needs more care than an assisted living situation could provide; and it would be too expensive for me to live where he is. Thank you for your support.
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@kaylachan (71660)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec
Are you paying a mortage? Do you own your home If you moved, where would you go and with what money?
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@kaylachan (71660)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec
@LindaOHio Maybe you should consider that. That way you could have your husband back. Depending on what he can do, will determine what kind of help he could actually need. And what type of person to provide it. Nurses are only needed for certian kinds of medications. That's really it.
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@LeaPea2417 (37371)
• Toccoa, Georgia
17 Dec
@kaylachan maybe you and your husband could end up at the same assisted living facility together, @LindaOHio
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
17 Dec
No mortgage. I might go into assisted living if I can afford it.
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
In assisted living I would have regular meals. I would still rather stay here.
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@jobelbojel (36028)
• Philippines
17 Dec
I hope you can get the correct number. When you visit, you might have his own cellphone.
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
I was able to speak with him. His new cellphone will be here today.
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@Juliaacv (51523)
• Canada
17 Dec
The lack of communication between the 2 of you is so disheartening.
I hope that you can reach him, or him you, today.
In the meantime, get what needs to be bundled up.
When we downsized almost 8 years ago, I would sort and stack boxes and totes to be donated, and then get on the phone and there were a couple of organizations that would come out and pick up the goodies. That was amazing because we were not in town and my husband was living up here during the week and working. He'd come home on the weekends and see more and more donations picked up.
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@Juliaacv (51523)
• Canada
18 Dec
@LindaOHio I donated furniture to habitat for humanity as well as some building materials that we had in the garage up in the rafters and didn't need.
@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
I was able to speak with him yesterday. Yes, I think Purple Hearts will pick up. So does Goodwill or the Salvation Army.
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@lovebuglena (44719)
• Staten Island, New York
17 Dec
Oh no. Where would you move? Did they try to locate his phone there? And why has the foley not been taken out all this time?
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
I have no idea where I would move...maybe assisted living. His phone was found at the laundry and was totally unusable. I guess they were waiting for his urology appointment to assess his condition.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84209)
• Rupert, Idaho
17 Dec
I am sorry to hear about all of that, again...I wish I knew more to say
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84209)
• Rupert, Idaho
19 Dec
@LindaOHio No problem, though I know I am not much help
@BarBaraPrz (47646)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
17 Dec
If the foley isn't attached to a drainage bag, why have they left it in? I would think it might cause an infection, be very uncomfortable at the least. I know when a friend's mother had a bladder infection, she'd get very erratic. Could this be happening to your husband?
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
It is attached to a bag; and he's very uncomfortable. He had a UTI in the past. I suppose it's possible.
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@FourWalls (68945)
• United States
17 Dec
I hate all of this so much. IF — I know, big if — you “have” to move, could you find a facility where you two could live together?
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
No. He needs more help than a facility such as assisted living could provide.
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@RasmaSandra (80686)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec
I hope you get in touch with him soon, Many blessings to you both,
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
Thank you. I was able to talk to him.
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@Marilynda1225 (83094)
• United States
17 Dec
You're in my thoughts and prayers every day Linda
Hope you get some answers from the urologist and they can get that issue resolved.
Hopefully the new phone will help you keep in touch.
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@LindaOHio (181393)
• United States
18 Dec
Thank you very much, Lenore, for your support.
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