My husband says I'm difficult to buy for/ I don't want much
By Sissy15
@sissy15 (12324)
United States
December 23, 2024 4:55pm CST
My husband always claims I'm difficult to buy for. Most people claim I'm difficult to buy for because they don't really know me. I don't want much. I honestly don't get upset that I don't get Christmas presents. I don't want anything. I mean there are things I want but I don't feel like I have to have them. I'm ok if I don't get them. I always think it's incredibly kind for people to think about me at all.
I've always been a bit of an old soul. I love old music and movies. I read a lot of non fiction books. I am simple. I'm happy spending time with my husband and son. I don't want or need much. I always tell my husband books and movies when he asks what I want. I struggle finding old movies on streaming services. I can find some of the classics on some of them but they're limited. I also use TCM to watch some old movies but I have to wait forever for some of them to play so I always tell him to get me some of my favorites on DVD but he never does.
I have a love of old movie theaters and houses, I love history, I love learning about things, and I love trivia games. I have been on a Dean Martin kick. I've been listening to his music and watching his movies. My son and I have been watching his movies with Jerry Lewis even though Jerry annoys me. My husband doesn't particularly care for Dean's music but my son and I enjoy it. I love taking adventures with my family. I told my husband I'd love to eventually check out Steubenville.
I have always had interests that don't exactly line up with most of the people I know so I typically don't talk about them much. I've been sharing these interests with my son and he and I will watch old movies and listen to music together. My husband always complains when I want to watch an old movie but he usually gets into them he just doesn't like to willingly sit down and watch them.
I always tend to tell people about the things I like that are more "normal" and leave the other things out because they never know what to say about those interests. I only find a handful of people who like the same things I do especially the ones who are around my age. I think it's funny how much I know about some things that people at work have no clue about when it comes up but I don't say anything. I just kind of leave it but once in a while some of what I know slips out and they are surprised I know about it. I could tell people all about some areas we are studying but I don't. Sometimes if I'm talking to the kids I'll tell them more about it if I know they're interested in it. I have a kid I google stuff for all the time because he's so fascinated about certain things and I also enjoy learning more about some of it.
Whenever someone says I'm difficult to buy for I just tell them not to worry about me at all and I don't mean it in a sarcastic way but in a genuine way. I don't want anything. I always tell people I have everything I need and that's enough. I always tell my husband after almost 16 years together he should know me well enough to have some idea what to get me but he doesn't. I never understood why he struggles so much with getting me old movies and books. My friend who lives in California bought me a Dean Martin/ Jerry Lewis set and I loved it and thought it was an incredibly thoughtful gift from someone who genuinely knows and understands me. I told him he just needs to message my friend the next time he wants to get me something. I honestly think he overthinks it. I am pretty simple but again I don't actually want a lot. I'm just content with what I have which I never felt was a bad thing.
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@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
13h
Maybe, my son does have some different interests than me which I always try to encourage. He's big into computers, pokemon, and Japan. I love that he's gotten into learning about some things and that he's loving some of the same movies as me. He's my movie watching buddy and I love that I can share that with him. He came home from school the one day and was like "mom no one knew who Doris day was" and I laughed knowing exactly what he's going through when trying to explain his interests to people who don't understand him.
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@celticeagle (168369)
• Boise, Idaho
12h
A few pointed questions during the rest of the year could let people in on just what you like. People don't seem to take the time nowadays. It is rather sad. And over thinking is something I think a lot of us could do less of. It can sure cause some issues.
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@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
11h
No one really does take the time anymore to get to know someone but for the most part it doesn't bother me that people don't know me. I definitely overthink at times but I am also an observer I like to sit and listen as people talk so I typically do learn a lot about people. In high school people finally realized I was listening when they were talking around me and they were shocked how much I knew about them all but I never talked about them because that's not me. I find it interesting to learn about people but I don't use it for anything other than figuring people out.
@marguicha (223825)
• Chile
12h
My husband loved to buy clothes for me and I would have to go after the holidays to change them for something my size. He never understood that I´m large and NOT petite.
@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
12h
That's super sweet. I think it's funny how someone who can know you so well in some ways doesn't always know you in other ways. He clearly saw you in a way that you didn't see yourself and in a way that maybe doesn't always match up with reality but that's not a bad thing. My husband tries too hard and makes things more complicated than they need to be which I think is cute and kind of funny. He just wants to do something different but ultimately overthinks it.
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@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
9h
@marguicha yes, I think it's great that they care enough to want to get you something perfect to the point of overthinking it. I always try to remind my husband I'm much simpler than he thinks I am. I'd be happy if he just bought me some of my favorite candy or sat and watched one of my favorite movies with me without complaining about it. i really don't want much. He always gets upset when he can't afford to get me more and I always remind him that we have plenty.
@kaylachan (71860)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13h
Part of it, is that since he's so close to you, he'll know if you really like what he gets you or not. secondly, when you say books and old movies, th at's too braud and confuses a lot of people. Addationally the older a movie is, often the harder it is to fine. If it's not avabile on streaming, then chances are there's not a dvd copy of it. So it helps to know exactly what to look for on dvd, because it can be like ripping your hair out. Trust me. Even before my husband's stroke he'd ask me to find old t.v. shows and movies. Even knowing what I was looking for, I found it hard to find. Example: I've been trying for at least five years to find Santa Jr. I finally found it this year on upfaith and family.
@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
13h
Actually my husband knows what I'm into. most of the old movies I like can be found on DVD. My friend I talk to knew exactly what to get me. I think my husband just wants what he gets me to be deeper than it is. I think he thinks books and movies are too impersonal but honestly that's what I love and I've told him as much. Almost every movie I like can be found on DVD on Amazon. You just can't find them on streaming unfortunately unless you pay for a digital copy of them.
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@kaylachan (71860)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13h
@sissy15 Depends on what it is. But it still means a lot to someone to hear you say, I want : Gone wwith the Wind" Vs.... I just want any old moview on dvd. It's just important to sepesfiy whith a loved one, because it shows you care and put thought into it. Plus, your friend doesn't live with you. If you are disappointed she can walk away from it, he can't.
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@sissy15 (12324)
• United States
13h
@kaylachan I've literally made an Amazon list of things I wouldn't mind having but he doesn't check it. A lot of the movies I love are on it. It really comes down to him wanting to get me something special I think. He overthinks these things way too much. My friend also hears me say my favorite movies whereas since my husband doesn't enjoy them doesn't listen when I talk about them. my friend and I have a lot of similar interests so we enjoy talking about those things. I have no problem finding things for my husband but by nature I'm an observer and I listen when people are talking.
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