Good morning, friends. / myLot

Chile

January 3, 2025 6:43am CST

I´m having my morning coffee with you in bed. I´ll get up and take a shower (and wash my hair) in 30 minutes. I was going to do that yesterday but my 60 year old baby called me to cry. She needed her mom. Moms will be moms until they die. She lives very far away from here (thanks be given to whatsapp) but she had a PROBLEM. She is trying to add a room to her house. And she made a mistake, the same mistake she has been making since forever. She did not get real workers but "friends" who "said" they knew how to build. And she did not check what was the real price of the job but gave them most of what they asked. The friends did not know how to do things and later she asked some real workers for the price of that and it was less. Now she lost money, friends and she is stressed. Mom offered money and told her to get real workers to finish the job. She will live many years in that house and she will need a good one. What she lost is lost. What happens to children when their 100 year old moms suffer dementia or Alzheimers?

I am glad that I still can find what I need thanks to the web. See you later.

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7 responses

LindaOH

@LindaOHio (183266)

• United States

4 Jan

She learned a hard lesson. I hope everything works out for her. Have a good weekend.

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marguicha

@marguicha (224079)

• Chile

4 Jan

I´m afraid that Tania will never learn. She has always trusted people too much.

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LindaOH

@LindaOHio (183266)

• United States

4 Jan

@marguicha I'm sorry to hear that.

Anna

@LadyDuck (472253)

• Switzerland

3 Jan

Your daughters are lucky, you are a very good mother.

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marguicha

@marguicha (224079)

• Chile

4 Jan

I think that it is because I was very young when I had them. Although my body is old, there is only 20 years of difference between them and myself. And as I was raised in a house where my parent´s friends were intelectuals, the generation gap is minimal.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (472253)

• Switzerland

4 Jan

@marguicha - The age gap is important but there is a lot more. The mother of my husband was only 20 years older than he is, he loved his Mom.

Four Walls

@FourWalls (69567)

• United States

3 Jan

I’m almost 65, and there are days when I wish I could get the wisdom and advice from my dear mother of blessed memory. Just as mothers will be mothers until they die, children will be children until they die.

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marguicha

@marguicha (224079)

• Chile

4 Jan

I agree. And as mothers we know our children. And children no matter what age don´t believe in what mothers say until something wrong has happened. What happened to Tania now is a matter of spending too much money and receiving a bad work. I´m sorry for her but other times it has been worse. Because she has always trusted people too much and sometimes she has had horrible BFs that have destroyed her.

And after everything happens, she comes to me and I open my arms and my heart. But when I say "beware" she won´t listen. Claudia is the same.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (81226)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

3 Jan

Yup I will forever be missing my mom. Even at 67 so much easier to have my burdens laid on her and she helping me resolve them, After she passed it took me a long time when something happened and I though OK I will go home and toak to mom and then I would stop in my tracks and think Talk to who? Mom is gone,

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (342668)

• Rockingham, Australia

4 Jan

Shortcuts rarely turn out to be shortcuts and the old adage 'you get what you pay for still applies'.

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marguicha

@marguicha (224079)

• Chile

4 Jan

She paid more for their bad work than what she would have paid if she had looked for "real" workers. Tania´s problem is that she has always trusted too much people. It has happened all the time, including with BFs and she won´t learn.

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