Pumpkin's Rant of the Day: can't someone else do it?

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It's nice to be popular. I've had several people ask me to do things this month, which is nice. What's less nice is that I almost always end up doing all of the planning. I don't mind planning things, I'm quite good at it, but it would be nice for someone else to do the arranging! I've arranged various things with different people. My husband and I have a meal planned with another couple. I admit that it was the other couple who did the booking for that. I like going out for meals, and I appreciate that they take the responsibility of arranging, but it would be nice if they'd try somewhere else occasionally! I have made some arrangements for another couple of groups, and I've set a date to do something with my best friend. All of the people that asked me to do something suggested a meal and/or drinks. I made other suggestions. While I do enjoy dining out, there are plenty of other things to do that are local (many of them cheaper, and more fun, than going out for meals). I made one suggestion as I believed it would suit the whole group. There was chaos and confusion for some reason but we are doing the thing I suggested! For another group activity, and for something to do with my best friend, I suggested various activities. The group one, the responses were pretty much that they didn't mind. That's all very well but certain things need to be booked (and sometimes paid for) I advance. I usually end up doing that otherwise it won't happen. I've set a day to see my friend but we've got no specific plans. The last time we had a day out, it was mostly spent drinking cocktails. I had suggested other things. This time, my friend has said it would be nice to do something different. I've asked her to have a think about what she'd like to do. She said for me to also think about it. I really don't mind but there might be things she would enjoy/wouldn't be able to do. But I know nothing will be arranged unless I make all the decisions and do all the bookings. I've also just booked a family holiday for me, my husband, and my two sons. I've not told my husband or youngest son yet. The holiday isn't until July. I've previously asked my husband to think about what he'd like to do/where he'd like to go on holidays. He never makes any decision. He'll tell me he'll think about it. If I waited for him to do that, we'd never go anywhere. It's good, in a way, if other people don't mind what you do. It's annoying when nobody else seems capable of making a decision! What's worse, though, is trying to plan something with someone who says they don't mind but then says no to all your suggestions. Or someone who complains that they can't do things when you're inviting them but doesn't make any attempt to plan anything themselves or give an alternative for their availability and also doesn't turn up for things they can do when they are invited... but that leads to a whole other rant about certain individuals expecting the world to revolve around them, and having no concept of real life or any ability to consider anything other than their specific current situation... but I won't go into that As I said, I don't mind organising things. I do mind doing everything because other people can't think for themselves or because their idea of organising/planning doesn't extend further than picking a date. It would also be nice for my efforts to be appreciated but, like other things, it goes unnoticed. I don't know if that's because I'm so brilliant at stuff that people don't realise what I put into it or if they genuinely believe they're the ones doing all the things (I know that's the case with at least a couple of them). Anyway, I'm looking forward to doing stuff. Just wanted a bit of a rant as I was getting frustrated with all the details of anything seemingly falling on me. I guess it's not too bad if it is appreciated and we all have a good time in the end! So, my questions to you: Are you the organiser/planner of things? Do you have a particular friend/family member who likes to think they're the boss/tries to take over but doesn't actually get anything done? Do you enjoy dining out or drinking? Would you prefer another activity?