I can’t even with these people

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Somehow I became like a non-entity in the family while going through a divorce. They stopped inviting me places and including me in things. It was hurtful especially since my heart was already breaking. But whatever I’ve gotten used to it over the past 5 years. My mother lives with my sister and her family now and my parents’ best friends are all wrapped up with them, my mother, and the kids. Me? I’m just over here hanging with my cats. This morning I was scrolling through Facebook while I was making copies. I saw a post by my second mom thanking people specifically for all of their love and assistance over the past couple of days. I had absolutely no clue what she was talking about. I called her but no answer. I called my mother but no answer. The third call was the charm—my sister answered and filled me in. Apparently my mother’s best friend has breast cancer (didn’t know that) and the medication she has to take causes kidney stones. She wound up in the ER in excruciating pain in the middle of the night. The next day my mother had to take my dad’s BFF to a hospital up north for a heart procedure because he had had a silent heart attack (didn’t know that). For months he hasn’t felt well and he keeps saying he thinks my dad wants him to join him. (didn’t know that) My sister was with my mother’s bestie and was wearing a mask because she is recovering from walking pneumonia (didn’t know that). My mother wanted to go visit but my sister said no because my mother has some kind of nodules in her lungs (didn’t know that) that would make the hospital risky for her. By that point in the conversation I was so disgusted that I didn’t even bother to ask about the nodules. So all of that went down in a 2 day period with apparently everyone scrambling to help while I was completely clueless and had the days off and could have helped. I’m not even an afterthought with them. They don’t think of me at all. I was recently talking to my ex about the situation and he said he is surprised I even talk to any of them any longer. He’s watched how they’ve treated me for 22 years so it isn’t even like I’m being dramatic. Sad but true.