2/9/25 - Update
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (183889)
United States
February 9, 2025 7:55am CST
First of all, let me express how much I appreciate all the support, prayers, cards and love that you have given to me over the past year. It means more than you will ever know.
As you know, I was sick when my husband went into the hospital this last time. When I finally got to see him, he didn't know I was there. I took his hand a couple of times; and he pulled it away. At that time he had pneumonia (even though he had received 2 different pneumonia vaccinations), extremely low blood pressure, AFIB, no urine output, he was unable to swallow liquids or solids, had low oxygen and he had sepsis (the infection had spread to his blood). They said he was in a terminal condition. I made the hard decision that a food tube would NOT be inserted and he would NOT be resuscitated. I let Hospice take over. My husband had been through SO MUCH over the past year; and he would never be coming home and he would have to endure the long term care facility, going in and out of the hospital, crappy food, sitting in bed all day, only seeing me once a week, etc.
They were going to send him back to the facility; but I thank God that they kept him in the hospital. He had a large, private, clean room with soft music playing and beautiful pictures scrolling on the TV screen. When we went to see him he was not conscious and was kept comfortable with medication. The next day he passed away.
I loved this man with every cell in my body; and I know I will never experience love like we had again. I was with him for 58 years, 54 married. I wish we could have had 58 more. I pray for him every day and tell him that I love him.
I'm sorry it took me so long to give you an update; but I just wasn't ready to be social.
Thank you again for being my friends. I cherish each and every one of you.
Photo Credit: Mine - He grew a beard after we were married; and that's how I remember him. He looks so stiff and stern in the picture; but that's not how he was.
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38 responses
@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you so much for your prayers. You are a good friend.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Everyone here is so special to me. I don't know what I would do without all of you.
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@FourWalls (71430)
• United States
9 Feb
He was a sweetheart. When I got ready to leave he offered me an entire bag of apples to eat along the way. 
I’m “glad” you’re back. I wish things could change. 
You know I’m here if you need me. 
I’m “glad” you’re back. I wish things could change.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
I'm glad you got to meet him. You're such a good friend. I pray for him every day and tell him I love him. I hope he's in Heaven playing with our dogs.
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@LadyDuck (472489)
• Switzerland
10 Feb
@LindaOHio - I am so stressed Linda, my poor husband memory is so bad and he is not of big help. We should move on March 4, then I hope to rest.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your kind words. You are a good friend. How is your move going?
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@1creekgirl (42400)
• United States
9 Feb
Oh, Linda, my heart breaks for you and I admit I have tears in my eyes. What a beautiful bride and handsome groom you all were! You were blessed with a wonderful marriage for so many years. I can certainly understand why you haven't felt up to being on myLot...you know we love you and have been praying for you both.
Take care, get as much rest as you can, I know you'll cherish such wonderful memories. Love and hugs.
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@1creekgirl (42400)
• United States
10 Feb
@LindaOHio I'm doing pretty good, negative reports lately on two cancer tests. Dale has the flu, but I think his flu shot kept it from being so severe.
There's an awful lot of flu everywhere now, I pray you'll stay well.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
11 Feb
@1creekgirl Super glad to hear about the cancer tests. So sorry Dale is ill. I hope he feels better soon. I've had a flu shot too. Have a good week.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your kind words. You are a cherished friend. How have you been feeling? How about your hubby?
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@Marilynda1225 (83766)
• United States
9 Feb
I am so sorry to hear about your husband and I can understand how hard it must be. You made the right decision even though it was probably the hardest decision you have ever made. He is at peace now and hearing how much you cherished him makes me smile.
It's good to see you here today and I hope that you'll be spending more time with us. You've been missed.
Sending you healing prayers and hugs
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your prayers and hugs. You are a good friend. I hope you have a good week.
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@snowy22315 (185247)
• United States
9 Feb
Thanks for updating us. We are so sorry, but at least it is over now. I hope you are taking care of you! . You have a lifetime of cherished memories to look back on, and I hope that helps.
. You have a lifetime of cherished memories to look back on, and I hope that helps.6 people like this
@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
My memories and my friends here are what gets me through the tough times. My husband had it so rough over the past year. I hope he is healthy and playing with our dogs.
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@DaddyEvil (141571)
• United States
9 Feb
I think he was ready to go and I'm glad you made the decision you did. I hope you'll rest and get well now. We all miss you but understand not wanting to be social yet. 
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@DaddyEvil (141571)
• United States
10 Feb
@LindaOHio Thank you. You know where we're at if you need any of us.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Everyone here, including you, is such a good friend. It's easier than it was a week ago. I'm starting to work on all the things that need to get done. They said he was in a terminal condition; so I had to let him go. Have a good week.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
@DaddyEvil You're welcome. I hope to return soon.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your kind words. You're a good friend.
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@sallypup (62821)
• Centralia, Washington
10 Feb
@LindaOHio You're a sister to me.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Please don't cry. You'll make me cry! You are such a special friend.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Good to see you here. I hope you have a good week.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
11 Feb
@andriaperry Thanks. Things are getting better.
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@dgobucks226 (36074)
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9 Feb
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this news, Linda. I know words can't wipe away your tears, hugs won't ease your pain but hold onto your memories. Forever they will remain...
My Deepest Sympathies for your loss. May time ease your pain.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your kind words. You're a good friend. Your meme is very true. I hope he's in Heaven playing with our dogs. We'll be together again sometime in the future.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you so much for your kind words.
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@Beestring (14917)
• Hong Kong
9 Feb
I am so sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace.
Please take good care of yourself.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you very much. I hope you have a good week.
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@kaylachan (75045)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Feb
I know it had to have been hard. Sepsis is almost always fatal, especially when it reaches the blood. So, that's the right thing to have done. I'm glad he didn't suffer long on hospis.
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@kaylachan (75045)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Feb
@LindaOHio I just want you to take comfort in knowing, that the last time you physically saw him, he more than likely knew you were there. I know it didn't seem that way because he quite literally pushed you away, but more often then not, it's to spare the one left behind the last memory of the dying one at their lowest. He wants you to remember him as the healty robust man you fell in love with. Not the frail thing in a hospital bed.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
11 Feb
@kaylachan I take comfort in the fact that the difficulties that he endured over the past year are over. Thank you for your kind words.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
They said he was in a terminal condition; so I knew that it was time for him to be free of any further pain and to go play with our dogs in Heaven. Thank you for your support over the past year.
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@Tampa_girl7 (51402)
• United States
9 Feb
I’m so glad to see you here. That is a lovely photo of the two of you.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you so much, Marie. You're a good friend.
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@wolfgirl569 (111641)
• Marion, Ohio
9 Feb
You look very happy in that picture. So sorry . Thinking of you.
. Thinking of you.4 people like this
@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
That was one of the happiest days in my life. Thank you for being my friend.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate your friendship.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Yes, they said he was terminal; so I turned him over to Hospice, knowing that he wouldn't feel any pain. Thank you for being such a good friend.
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@MarieCoyle (40844)
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9 Feb
Reading this brought tears. To have a love that long and deep is so very special. I know he will live on in your heart forever. And, a picture to cherish.
Linda, you did all that you could, I am sorry you had to make that last hard decision. You truly had a love for a lifetime, and of course you wanted more years. I am glad you felt like coming here to chat and update everyone.
Please take good care of yourself.
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@LindaOHio (183889)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you for being such a good friend. My husband had been through so much over the past year; and it was time for him to rest at peace and without anymore pain.
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@MarieCoyle (40844)
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10 Feb
@LindaOHio
The decision you made is the hardest one you will ever have to make. He did the best he could, and so did you, he was simply just too sick to get well. Now, he is out of pain, and as you said, no doubt playing with those puppies.
And it's an honor to be your friend, Linda.
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