Good News
By lilacskies
@lilacskies (1279)
United States
February 9, 2025 6:18pm CST
I have a bit of a good news to share to follow up on the previous post I made about my ex-husband. He is still here and he just came into my parents' house right now with my brother to hang out with my parents. He would've already hugged my parents and made his way over to my bedroom, knocked on my door, and said something very mean by now, but I am hearing him from my bedroom and it looks like he has settled into the living room and is deep in conversation with my family so I don't think he is going to bother me today.
My ex-husband loves to talk. Once he gets going, he doesn't stop unless he absolutely has to because for example, he has to use the bathroom. Since he is deep in conversation, I suspect that he will ignore me for the rest of the time that he is here and then he will leave and won't be back for at least a week based on the pattern of his visits since our divorce five years ago.
I didn't turn on my bedroom light and am sitting in the dark so that it appears that I am sleeping. Unless he presses his ear against the door like a total creep and hears the sound of me tapping on the keyboard as I write this, I assume that he will assume I am sleeping since I don't snore when I sleep.
I also have my computer turned completely away from the door so the light emitting from the screen is facing the opposite wall and will not reach the door. I am being very careful because I don't want to interact with him at all if it is absolutely avoidable and also because I am dealing with chronic pain that is simply not letting up today at all. I don't have the energy to open the door and face him while he smirks at me.
Anyway, I thought I would follow up on the previous post and share a bit of good news with everyone who has read and interacted with me on that post. I will stay in my bedroom until he leaves and then I will grab some fried chicken wings for dinner and settle back into bed to deal with my chronic pain.
I hope you are all having a wonderful Sunday!
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
Me too. He's still here. I can hear him from my bedroom talking loudly. That's a very good question. He's accepted by my family as family so he is welcome anytime. Unless I am financially independent and can afford to move out and live far away, this will continue. I am in a tight spot due to my financial situation that is worsening along with my deteriorating health. So I have to deal with this guy who just won't leave me alone and live his own life.
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@crossbones27 (50033)
• Mojave, California
10 Feb
@lilacskies Thats what it always is money sad to say. I saw it as a kid he is not right being my step dad but mom cannot make money he gets a pass. It drove me crazy. I was like Mom can make perfect money and she did for a while but noise and maybe easier she went back. Twice the violence that time for embarrassing the step dad. Not on us her. Smack around good, how we came to California, Sister don't play.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
@crossbones27 I know. Money is the sole reason I cannot leave my disastrous situation. If I had the money right now, I would leave and never come back. It makes me feel guilty to eventually cut off my family because if I don't, I will always be stuck interacting with this guy and having him in my space. Once I get out, I'll stay out. No other choice for me. I am sorry to hear about your mother. I divorced my ex-husband five years ago and it should be like a divorce where the two spouses are now strangers, but he is always around my family so it feels like we are still stuck together. It's a very torturous situation mentally when you have to keep seeing someone you don't want to see. I need to be financially independent and to do so, I also need to be physically healthy.
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@allknowing (140378)
• India
10 Feb
If this torture is just about once a week I suppose you can go through with it Good that he did not bother you today. Having said that I think you deserve a better way to live your life.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you s much. Yes, just once a week, sometimes more if we are having a family related event. Those are very rare though so I don't bother mentioning/complaining about them. Yes, I am trying to get out of my tight situation.
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@shaggin (73749)
• United States
10 Feb
@lilacskies that is sad I am sorry. Do your parents believe he’s a good person or do they believe you how he is?
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
He is a complete narcissist and is only fake nice to my parents. He shows his true colors only to me.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
@shaggin Thank you. They just love him for being my brother's best friend and they fall for his good guy act as usual.
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@RebeccasFarm (91797)
• Arvada, Colorado
10 Feb
I would not be able for that life..Id have to go live or die in the woods.
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@RebeccasFarm (91797)
• Arvada, Colorado
11 Feb
@lilacskies The Hills Have Eyes lol
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
11 Feb
@RebeccasFarm Hahaha Isn't that a horror movie?
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you! It worked! My Sunday wasn't too bad thanks to him ignoring me. 
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@GardenGerty (161972)
• United States
10 Feb
Maybe you will get lucky and he will find someone who is equally a pest as he is and they will ride off into the sunset together. Meanwhile, I can identify with you "hiding out" in your room.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
11 Feb
Hahaha this made me laugh. Thank you. I have never seen him in a serious relationship before, but who knows? Maybe one day he will find his match and disappear from my life for good. I will stay hiding in the meantime.
@celticeagle (170961)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb
So your family puts up with your ex? It's been 5 years and he's still around? Maybe he will find a girlfriend soon and leave you and your family alone.
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@celticeagle (170961)
• Boise, Idaho
17h
@lilacskies .......Oh, I see. That makes it hard.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
He is considered family in my family so he is welcome anytime. He was my brother's friend first before he became my husband so there is a lot of history between him and my family. I only met him ten years ago and everything just went downhill from there. I have only myself to blame. He doesn't ever date properly. It's always him with a new girl every other day. He just goes through girls like he is changing socks or something. It's really irritating.
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@RasmaSandra (82332)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Feb
I hope you can avoid him as much as possible, It is tough when your family likes him and you don't. I hope you get some relief from the pain,
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
Thank you so much. Yes, it is quite frustrating and hurtful to not have my own family on my side, but I gave up long time ago. Just persevering for now.
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@lovebuglena (45312)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb
Hope he will stay away from you and not bother you.
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@lovebuglena (45312)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb
@lilacskies fingers crossed. And toes too.
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@lilacskies (1279)
• United States
10 Feb
@lovebuglena Haha dont forget the toes!
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