Betrayed By a Fake Friend
By lilacskies
@lilacskies (6479)
United States
February 27, 2025 12:28pm CST
I am not talking about myself. I don't have any friends. I am talking about my mama. She has been betrayed by a fake friend today. Someone she thought was her real friend all along turned out to be anything but.
My mama is a sweet and sensitive woman. She is a social butterfly. She loves to make friends. She loves to laugh, smile, hug, and just embrace life and all the good things that make life worth living. She loves to get along with people. She's always making new friends. She loves to talk and just be out there socializing.
Well, six months ago, she made a new friend. The friend doesn't speak very good English and has a thick accent. My mama doesn't mind and just like she does with everyone else, she embraced this woman and allowed her into her life. Things were going great. They were the best of friends. Everything was perfect. Starting a week ago, this friend started being "off" with my mama. She started being passive aggressive with her. My mama let her be thinking she was having a bad day and this was just a phase she will get over and then they can be best friends again.
Unfortunately, today she betrayed my mama. She insulted her in front of a large group of people and called her names I won't repeat. She made fun of her, put her down, and humiliated her. My mama came home on the verge of tears and went to bed. She won't come out of her room. That woman hurt her badly. I am shaking in anger. This is why discernment is important and we shouldn't befriend and allow everyone into our lives. Just because someone smiles at you and is nice to you to your face doesn't mean they are actually your friend. Unfortunately, betrayal is common in friendships. I am still angry though!
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@lovebuglena (45659)
• Staten Island, New York
21h
I wonder what led her to act this way toward your mother. Hope your mother will be okay.
I have no real life friends either, by the way.
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@lovebuglena (45659)
• Staten Island, New York
20h
@lilacskies anything you can do to cheer her up?
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
20h
She was being passive aggressive a week ago and then this happened. She escalated fast. I'm not sure. I don't know the woman. She never came over and I never saw her before. My parents know her and mentioned that she made a new friend. She usually makes new friends anyway so I didn't think anything of it and then this happened. Me too. She's still in her room. Friends aren't a necessity in life. It's better to be alone.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
20h
@lovebuglena Knocking on her door doesn't help. She has her door locked. I will leave her alone until my papa comes home. My brother is working right now so he can't help with this situation. She's really sensitive and took this hard.
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@Tampa_girl7 (51701)
• United States
22h
I’m so sorry that happened to your mama. Tell her not to let that woman win. The woman would be happy knowing she had hurt your mama that badly. Hopefully your mama will come out of her room and realize that the other woman lost out of having a good friend in your mama.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
22h
Thank you so much for your kind words. Even I want to cry myself. Some people are just horrible. I told my mama to come out of her room and forget that woman, but she wants to stay in bed and cry. She's super sensitive and cries easily when someone hurts her. I'm so angry right now. I wish she would learn in life that this will keep repeating. Some people just use other people and take advantage of their kindness. I hope we never have to see this woman again. At least my mama won't talk to her anymore.
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@popciclecold (39841)
• United States
20h
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. But discernment is a must. Hope she will be ok.
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@popciclecold (39841)
• United States
19h
@lilacskies I know how she feels, it happened to me, I kept seeing things and feeling things that wasn't right. Now I know, and she is no longer my friend.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
19h
@popciclecold I've never had any friends in my life before, but I've witnessed people get betrayed by their fake friends all the time. I'm sorry that happened to you as well. I truly believe it's best to just be alone. True friends are really hard to come by face to face. It's better to befriend people on here. I noticed there are a lot of really nice members on here. Do you have any friends on here?
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
19h
Thank you so much. Exactly. Discernment is a must. I wish she would just learn this fact and stop befriending anyone and everyone. It's not safe. It's starts with betrayal and ends with assault or worse! I know I sound cynical, but people are not to be trusted. It is important to be careful out there. Stranger danger is a serious matter. I hope she will be okay too. She's still in her room with the door locked. I hope she will recover from this, forget about that woman for good, and move on.
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@FourWalls (71675)
• United States
12h
I’m so sorry for her. I hope she feels better soon.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
22h
I agree. She is out of my mama's life for good.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
12h
@jstory07 Thank you! She is doing much better now.
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@1creekgirl (42591)
• United States
18h
That's so sad...I sure hate that that happened to your mother.
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@1creekgirl (42591)
• United States
18h
@lilacskies I've found it's better to totally cut loose someone like that and not give them the chance to hurt you again.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
18h
@1creekgirl I completely agree with you. I told her to cut ties with that woman completely. Hopefully, she will move on from this quickly, take this as a lesson, and not just befriend anyone so that next time, this doesn't happen again.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
18h
Thank you. Me too. I'm so angry for what that woman did to her. Now she won't come out of her room. I think she's going to spend the entire day in there. It has been hours. That woman had the nerve to call my mama again three times. She is delusional to think my mama is ever going to talk to her again.
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@sjvg1976 (41813)
• Delhi, India
10h
That's a very common thing these days. I have been betrayed by friends many times in my life, and every time I got a lesson from it, but maybe I am vulnerable so I could not change my nature. 
. Some people use people and we should try to avoid it. That's life.
. Some people use people and we should try to avoid it. That's life.1 person likes this
@sjvg1976 (41813)
• Delhi, India
8h
@lilacskies it's easy to say but it is difficult to implement in life. I have been trying to do it from long but always find one or two person like this.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
10h
True. There are too many bad people out there who take advantage of people's kindness. It's not good to allow just anyone into your life because you are bound to be used and betrayed.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
7h
@sjvg1976 I have never had any friends so I have no direct experience with betrayal.
@MarieCoyle (41252)
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11h
Yes, it's sad about your mother's fake friend. It sounds as if she uses people to gain attention to herself, and may do this to others in the future, I'm sure your mother will be better off without her. Not everyone is as bad as your mother's former friend.
The saddest part of this conversation is that you said you have no friends. I would be so very lost without friends. Some have been friends for so long, we are all like family. I hope someday you have a friend or two to visit with and do things with.
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@MarieCoyle (41252)
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10h
@lilacskies
Well, those old bullies are not in your life anymore. Try to forget them if you can, and start over. Maybe make a friend at work sometime, start slow. Everyone needs some friends for sure.
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@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
10h
@MarieCoyle I have CPTSD so it's difficult for me to make a friend at this time. I have never wanted friends and still have no interest in them to be honest. I feel lonelier when I'm with other people than when I'm alone. I prefer being alone because that's when I'm the happiest. Some people are just happier without any friends because they prefer their own company instead. Maybe I will have a friend one day. Not now, but maybe later in life.
@lilacskies (6479)
• United States
11h
Yes, this isn't the first time something like this happened where a fake friend ended up betraying her and making her cry. I just hope this will be the last time and we can move forward from this without something like this holding us back. She had been upset for hours before she went downstairs and started cooking which is her pleasure in life. Unfortunately, due to her open personality, lots of bad people are drawn to her and betray her like this. It's sad, but it happens often and the pattern is too obvious to ignore. Oh, yes. I have no friends.I never did. I was bullied and ostracized in school growing up and didn't have any friends in or out of school. I still don't. Maybe one day!
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