Your Opinion;; please

@Shivram59 (39322)
India
March 1, 2025 5:37pm CST
I have to arrange the marriage party of my younger brother. But night brought brought s new headache for me. The girl's family is rich. But today I'm told his father drinks. One of her brother drinks; too.I have also come to learn that the atmosphere in the family is very disturbed. If what I heard is write ; I have to rethink my decision. I dont think any of you even think of marrying his brother in such a family. I have told all this to my parents. Let me see what they decide. Your opinion ; please.
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lilacskies
@lilacskies (7384)
• United States
1 Mar
Well, what is the woman like? Your brother will be marrying the woman, so I understand that he has to deal with her family as well, but what is she like? Does she have a drinking problem? Is she toxic? Abusive? If she's a good person, then I think it would be best for your brother to decide if he wants to marry her and join her family. If he doesn't, then it's best to stop this wedding before it happens.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
I know nothing about the girl. But the atmosphere in the family is very disturbing. I guess a girl brought up in such a atmosphere can't be normal. Their family lives in another city 200 kms from here. I'm confused.
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lilacskies
@lilacskies (7384)
• United States
2 Mar
@Shivram59 Maybe it would be best to not go through with this marriage.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
@lilacskies I'm inquiring about the,girl. I have,contacted some,persons in that town. They will inform me about her nature.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (42001)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar
Is it an arrange marriage? If it is so then you should have checked it before the marriage. Also, if the girl is fine then what you have to take with the family.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (42001)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar
@Shivram59 You must do that before going in to any agreement or relationship.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
@sjvg1976 Of course; I'll enquire about the girl.
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
Yes; it's an arranged marriage. I have heard nothing about the girl.I will have to enquire about her.
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rakski
@rakski (133518)
• Philippines
2 Mar
do the bride and groom have feelings for each other or is it just arranged marriage?
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rakski
@rakski (133518)
• Philippines
19h
@Shivram59 oh my. I didn't know that up to now, it is still practiced. What does your brother say about it?
jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
No; it is going to be a arranged marriage They had never even seen each other before.
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Fleur
@Fleura (31114)
• United Kingdom
2 Mar
How was this marriage decided upon if you know so little about the girl or her family? It sounds as though a lot more research is needed, and a serious discussion with your brother.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (42001)
• Delhi, India
11h
@Shivram59 exactly I agree with @Fleura. Your elders should enquired more about the girl. Maybe they lacked it.
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Fleur
@Fleura (31114)
• United Kingdom
12h
@Shivram59 I knew about arranged marriages but I thought there would be a lot more enquiring about the family!
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jaishankar
@Shivram59 (39322)
• India
2 Mar
Most marriages in my family and even in our,country are arranged marriages. Our,parents and elders see the girl and enquire about her family. If everything is ok; then the marriage is solemnized. Without knowing about the girl's or the boy's family; for that matter; the marriage is not finalized.
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