Thank You So Much
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (184041)
United States
March 4, 2025 4:24am CST
Writing the Discussion about my husband's indiscretions was very hard for me.
Reading your responses brought tears to my eyes...both because it brought up a subject which is still raw for me but also because of the outpouring of love and support from all of you. Not one person wrote a negative response.
My husband and I spent 58 years together; and fortunately most of those years were good. I know he loved me a lot...in the last half of our marriage he would cry when he would tell me he didn't want to ever lose me. Maybe some of that was from guilt.
It's been hard handling his death and cheating in a short period of time. I need to somehow get closure.
In the meantime I'm trying to keep his friend at bay. I think I have finally nipped his romantic interest in me in the bud. He's married and has no business pursuing a romantic relationship with me. He's been interested in me for decades now. To answer your question, no he didn't tell me about the cheating or make up stories to try and get me on his side. I asked and he had detailed information, including a name which he had no way of knowing.
Thank you so much for your love and support. I'm glad I didn't lose any friendships in the process.
Photo Credit: Mine - Ozzie somehow managed to get a roll of paper towels off the kitchen table and shred them. He is happily running toward me because I just came home.


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20 responses
@Juliaacv (52375)
• Canada
4 Mar
Ozzie looks so happy to see you, and probably let you see what he was up to while you were gone.
I cannot imagine how difficult it was for you to find this out, so many emotions to manage all at once.
Please don't go it alone, we are here for you, you have an amazingly large, supportive and loving circle of friends.
But you are a wise person, and shutting down this other man during your time of emotional weakness and need was badly needed-good job.


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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
I don't know what I would do without you and all my friends here at MyLot.
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@vandana7 (101423)
• India
4 Mar
Hugs Linda.... if I were the friend, I would not mind telling a lie. That is because this friend harbors romantic interest in you, and has no qualms about it.....right? He is not averse to lying (will lie to his wife), so I would take everything he said with a pinch of salt.
If you do recognize that it was with guilt that your husband uttered those sweet words, it just means he really loved you, respected you, cared a lot for you.
Indiscretions happen. The least that friend of yours could have done was spared you from details such as the name of the other person, and how many times etc. Lied then, one time or not sure...whatever...so that you would not hurt.
I think his attempt was, look your husband had an affair, he was not loyal to you, why on earth are you loyal to him, and grieving so much. Let us get together. He may have added more to it, just to get you in bed in retaliatory mode.
I am glad you decided against this "friend"....he would have discussed your indiscretions with others.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
You're right about his friend. He could have been using my husband's indiscretions with getting closer to me in mind. I nipped that in the bud.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
Ozzie was our favorite dog. He was really special.
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@Fleura (31138)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar
It is horrible finding our the truth at this time - but as you say you did have your suspicions all along. The past cannot be changed, all that can change is your response to it. Remember the good times, and don't beat yourself up about not confronting him. He probably realised that you knew.
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@Dreamerby (6956)
• Calcutta, India
5 Mar
You made the right choice by avoiding this friend. Be happy and hope you can finally get some closure!
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
Maybe with time I will be able to be happy again.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
1h
@Dreamerby Thanks so much for the video. It brought a smile to my face. I love animals, especially dogs.
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@Dreamerby (6956)
• Calcutta, India
2h
@LindaOHio For the timebeing, watch this
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
We had 6 dogs over the years. Thank you for your support. 

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@grenery8 (14204)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
21h
@LindaOHio that's some good number. welcome

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@GardenGerty (162382)
• United States
4 Mar
You are processing so many things at one time. It is good you are keeping that friend at bay and I see people saying that "friend" may have ulterior motives for sharing information with you, and in fact may have made some of it up or at least exaggerated, just trying to get on your good side.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
Yes, his friend could have been exaggerating; but what he said fit right in with my husband's personality when he was away from me and around other women. I saw it first hand a couple of times when we were out at a store, etc. He turns into a different person...very flirty and animated.
@FourWalls (71879)
• United States
5 Mar
Tell the “friend” how deeply hurt you were by the revelation and that you NEVER want anyone else to experience it…like his wife, for instance.
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@FourWalls (71879)
• United States
16h
@LindaOHio — good for you!!! I’m sorry he’s dealing with amputation and diabetes, though.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
Ever since I told him that the only person he should love is his wife, he has cut the conversations short and kept to the subject at hand. He is in the VA hospital and had to have his lower leg cut off due to an infection due to his diabetes. I check on him just about every day.
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@DaddyEvil (142610)
• United States
4 Mar
I know this is a difficult time for you and wish none of that had happened.
I understand the hurt from being cheated on... I guess I was lucky. I walked in on my second wife cheating on me... I didn't handle it well... I yelled at her to get our of my house and told her I was going to stay with a friend for a week while she moved out. When I came home after the week was over, she was still there. I went in and started throwing her belongings out into the front yard, yelling at her the whole time. She called the police. I proved it was my house and she needed to move. The police told her she needed to get out and acted like I was going to attack her. I went back to the friend's house for another week and came home to her gone. She took a lot of my stuff but I didn't care. I just wanted her out of my house and life.
Believe me, I understand. 

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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
I'm sorry you had to go through all that. At least you were able to confront her. It's hard because I can't confront him and get closure. Life really sucks, doesn't it? 

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@RasmaSandra (82887)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Mar
You have all my love and support for sure, I was about to suggest a cat or cats to be a part of your life now. I tell you I enjoy having Tish and Freddie to look after and think about. I hope the days get sunnier as they go by.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
I'm hoping that with time I will find my happy place again.
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@lovebuglena (45767)
• Staten Island, New York
4 Mar
How did I miss that you had a dog? I hope you are able to get closure and not have it all weigh heavily on you.
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@lovebuglena (45767)
• Staten Island, New York
18h
@LindaOHio what kinda dog do you have now?
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
We've had 6 dogs over the years. It's going to be a long time until I can work through my missing him and hating what he did to me.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
1h
@lovebuglena No dogs now. I'm getting too old to be getting up and down letting them out (and I have mobility issues) and taking them to the vet, etc. And I don't want to die first and have to worry about if they will be cared for, etc.
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@lilacskies (8158)
• United States
4 Mar
I hope you ignore that friend and live a happy and healthy life.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
Ozzie was our favorite. Yes, it's the only reason that I would have forgiven him.
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@jstory07 (142187)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21m
Paper towels would be so easy to tear up. My cats love to tear up paper if you leave it laying around.
You were with your husband for a lot of years so you will miss him forever.
@LeaPea2417 (37577)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 Mar
That's so twisted how the "friend" wants to pursue you while he is married! Good for you to stay away from him. Your dog, Ozzie is adorable.
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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
His friend is definitely twisted because I am old, overweight and definitely not attractive anymore...but he still persisted. I'm glad I nipped that in the bud. Yes, Ozzie was our favorite.
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@arunima25 (89290)
• Bangalore, India
4 Mar
Ozzie is all in need of attention and he seems to be boasting of his deed
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I know it must have been hard for you. Time heals. Marriage as they say is not a bed of roses. It's great to see that you had one for almost six decades. It clearly shows that your husband was not happy with what he did and his guilt hurt him enough.

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@LindaOHio (184041)
• United States
5 Mar
I just wish I could have gotten closure. Ozzie was our favorite dog.
