Surprise Sibling?

@MommyOfEli2013 When you're adopted, you become a legal member of the family that adopts you, as if you were born from that mother. So any family they have, you aquire them as family, too.

Never thought of those that were adopted, I guess I just didn't know how all of that worked.

@kaylachan I do understand that part, just didn't know much beyond that.

@MommyOfEli2013 true but if they exist it’s already happened and would be nice to meet them

@shaggin I do get that, I just meant generally speaking

I wonder that too now, are we the only ones? I wanted siblings, but if they came from bad things happening....then that's not something I'd wish for.

Well, the way my family spoke of him I always worried that I was the result of something very bad happening. Well never know, I never would have thought that I had a mystery/surprise sibling.

@MommyOfEli2013 has your mother passed away?

@MommyOfEli2013 I just hope that the people who raised you were loving. That's what matters.

Sorry that you did, and sorry there are no surprise siblings. I never expected this, I guess that should be obvious with it being a surprise sibling lol... I didn't expect them to be older either. I figured if it had, they'd be younger...not sure how I feel with knowing he did whatever he did to my mom to someone else before. I guess I would feel the same way knowing he done it again after if they were younger than me. We have been talking, I just feel bad I can't give more info than I think he had red hair from the one time I saw him 20 years ago.

@MommyOfEli2013 I’m not saying that your biological father is a good or bad person, because we never know all that’s entailed in matters that took place. I would imagine it took a lot of courage for them to reach out to you. One of my sons is adopted. He had a mmother who had him at 14, and my son never knew his biological father. His mother was very abusive and lost custody of him. In his growing up years I knew he would eventually want to know who his birth father was. After his children were born, we had a long talk and he decided to research this, but did not want to hurt me or our family. We encouraged him to follow his heart and search if he thought he should. He wanted medical information as one son had some rather serious medical issues at the time. Long story, he found his father, who had no idea he existed. The mother had disappeared and he didn’t know she was pregnant, he couldn’t locate her. My son met his father, and it went very well. His father married and had 3 daughters who absolutely love having a big brother in their lives. The wild part of this ended up being that my son had his three siblings from our family, three more his birth mother had, and the three girls his father has. So, he has 8 sisters and one brother. He isn’t in contact with his birth mother’s three daughters, but has a wonderful relationship with everyone else. It was a crazy time for him, finding out. I met his father and that family. Very nice people who welcomed him with open hearts. My son got his answers about the medical questions. And my son, and his oldest son, look so much like my son’s biological father it’s simply astonishing!