Bringing up a child...tough proposition
By vanny
@vandana7 (101585)
India
March 6, 2025 11:19am CST
There is this lady, she has two children, a boy and a girl.
Her husband is a drunkard and he used to beat her up.
She walked out on him, took up a job as a watchman for a building.
Her duties entail keeping the premises clean, ensuring that water is pumped up, from the sump, and in general take care that vehicles are not stolen.
The boy is about 12 years old.
Yesterday, he saw one of the vehicles being left with the key, he and his friend took the vehicle and went out.
He did not return in the night.
Today, he returned and naturally was caught because somebody noticed his absence.
The guy whose vehicle it was, came drunk and yelled at the mother...and also beat up the child some.
Even other men around the building came and yelled at the boy.
The lady is naturally upset. She beat the boy.
I was reminded of @TheHorse ...and the need to keep the balance of a kid on the threshold of teens.
How do I know them? Two of my stray dogs live near that building.
How do we help such kids?
Mother also works in a couple of offices as cleaning woman and earns decent sum.
She is afraid of losing her job, and so was quite violent towards the son.
I don't think the child is telling the truth either.
Time Pony ji completed his books....we all can help resolve such issues.
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@celticeagle (172445)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Mar
I think that beating a child only makes it angry. It does nothing to instill better ethics and certainly does nothing to keep him in line. Sure he will lie. Anything rather than get beat.
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@vandana7 (101585)
• India
6 Mar
It is a frustrating situation for the mother. I was able to prevent some of it...but, I made the child sit down, and listen to me about his mom. I don't think he was really listening though he was kinda nodding his head. When I asked him what I said...he again said, that the friend who took him out said that the vehicle was his, and his family members usually bring that vehicle. I think he was mistaken about the number...but being under aged, he is not to drive two wheeler ...he does not know traffic rules, one way etc...if there was an accident, his mother would have had difficulty in paying hospital bills. I managed to tell him that, though I don't think he really cared about it...hopefully he won't do anything like this ever again.
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@celticeagle (172445)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Mar
@vandana7 .........Kids nowadays. Unless they have good family ties they can be horrible to be around or to deal with.
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@LindaOHio (185427)
• United States
7 Mar
It's tough to reel in a 12 year old; but violence is not the answer. Have a good day.
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@wolfgirl569 (113755)
• Marion, Ohio
6 Mar
Beating a child never does any good. Hope your talk with him helps
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@vandana7 (101585)
• India
8 Mar
I really don't know. I usually speak in English, Hindi, or local language. These people are from a roaming tribe. Their language is completely different from local language. The boy seemed to follow English, but not sure he was nodding mechanically or with understanding. At times children do agree to what others say, just to get the issue closed, and do what they want later on. I think this is going to be that kinda case...hope not, but it seems headed that way.
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@TheHorse (224867)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar
I think it's important for the adults to talk, establish what they agree on about values, and remember that what they do will influence the child's future behaviors. Obviously, physically attacking the child, or yelling at the child, will only teach the child that physically attacking people, or yelling them, is the way to resolve differences. If that is what they want, then fine. But if they want the child to learn more appropriate behaviors, then the have to model more appropriate behaviors.
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@vandana7 (101585)
• India
6 Mar
Talk about what...she is quite affectionate towards both her children. She bought him a bicycle, which was clearly a strain on her budget. But activity that father can do with a male child, that she cannot, partly because of her health and partly because of her busy schedule. My strays...I actually encourage her to feed them, so that they protect her and her family. I pay for the food, milk, meat....and buy biscuits for the strays. But I let her feed them. The daughter is very pretty though plump, and yes, she requires protection. At this stage and age, trusting others is easy. Mom remains busy in offices, so kids are alone after school, others give kids ice creams street food....not ok for them to take...but when they are there alone....my dogs should be around. That is how I began feeding these two strays anyway. On Sundays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays I give half liter of milk, and some meat to the lady for the dogs. Monthly I pay her for rice. For now, only that much.
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