No Dinner For Me
By lilacskies
@lilacskies (9110)
United States
March 7, 2025 8:46pm CST
I am not bothering with dinner tonight so I am only having green tea at a local cafe with no intention of even eating a snack with it. I have no appetite. I've had a bad day all day and my mood has been down since I woke up. I have been dealing with a lot of rude and perhaps even eccentric patrons tonight. It's a Friday so all kinds of people are out and about enjoying the night life so this was bound to happen. I'm not shocked nor surprised. Just annoyed inside.
A couple stood out to me earlier. A short, but buff man and his meek wife came in and asked for a whiskey on the rocks for himself and a margarita for her. He didn't let her order so that was already a red flag for me. I brought them the drinks and asked them if they wanted any food to go with them. He told me to bring a light snack. I brought pistachios and left to serve the other tables.
Afterwards, I had some downtime where I could stand back and watch the tables I'm serving to check if anyone needs anything. It was calm for a few minutes so I watched that couple in particular. The guy was overbearing and the woman was visibly uncomfortable. She was squirming in her seat like she wanted to get away from him. After their drinks were done, he dragged her out to the dance floor and forced her to dance with him. It was unbearable to watch and I went back to serving my tables.
He didn't physically assault her so there was no need to get anyone involved and kick him out. He was a walking red flag that's for sure. I feel sorry for anyone trapped in a toxic and abusive relationship. Anyone who is visibly uncomfortable and stuck with a blatant control freak is unfortunately in such a relationship. I was relieved when they left. I found his behavior unbearable to witness and the little appetite I even had disappeared for good tonight.
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@Ghostlady (1597)
• United States
8 Mar
Been in a couple of relationships like that. My ex husband was physically abusive. I left him, went to a domestic violence shelter. I learned a lot there how to handle situations, and saw that I wasn't the only woman in that position, some were in worse situations. I had felt so down thinking how stupid I was for staying with my ex so long, but the counselors there really turned me around. I felt more confident. Did not let men scare me anymore. Bartended at a Commercial Fishermen's bar, then started driving a taxi. Met Tom...made him mad a few times before we finally got together..knew he would never hit me, and always treated me with respect.
Bartending at that bar there were a lot of RUDE people and fights. But so many good memories...same with taxi driving. As far as this couple you were talking about...pray for her to find help. I will also pray for her.
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@lilacskies (9110)
• United States
8 Mar
You are so strong to survive that and make it out alive. I am so proud of you. I'm glad you were able to get help and start your life over. You worked very hard and even found love again. How wonderful. I am so happy for you. Yes, you see all kinds of things in these kinds of places. A lot of toxicity all around. I sure will. Thank you for your kind words. You are always such a sweetheart. I hope you stay happy and as healthy as possible! I hope every single woman in toxic relationships gets out and lives like you!
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@RebeccasFarm (92716)
• United States
3h
@lilacskies I did when I was young too.
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@lilacskies (9110)
• United States
3h
@RebeccasFarm I lost so much weight last year. I weigh 20 pounds less than my usual weight.
@lilacskies (9110)
• United States
8 Mar
That is true. Thank you. I have 4 more hours until I can go home and sleep. I have another shift tomorrow and then another on Sunday.
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@2ndchances24 (10050)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
8 Mar
That's something that you will see every now & then with the
job your in, & even though it's hard to not get involved it's nice
to just keep your distance but keep a watchful eye just in case
something does comes up, but you can't let it get to you either.
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@2ndchances24 (10050)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
14h
@lilacskies That's why I never took that kind of job.
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@lilacskies (9110)
• United States
8 Mar
Yes, that's right. I witness toxic relationships all the time. I keep an eye out to see if it gets physical and then I have to get people involved. I've witnessed so much while working as a waitress.
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@lilacskies (9110)
• United States
9 Mar
Thank you so much. I have an appetite today so that's good at least. That is true. That's okay. Yes, it's not easy. People make life so difficult. 
