The world went on but not for me
@shaggin (74007)
United States
March 10, 2025 5:51pm CST
When my first husband died in 2011 after all the services and everything were done I felt like the title. I thought of him every minute of every day and felt like I was the only one. I’m sure it wasn’t true but it was a very isolating feeling.
Since my father in law from my first marriage died I have thought about his wife every day. I always worry it’s a bad time to message her so I say oh I’ll do it tonight or tomorrow when she isn’t working etc. That’s been going on for almost two months now and I realize this is probably how others thought of me after my first husband died.
It’s hard to know what to say there really is nothing you can say that will make them feel any better. It’s just always nice to let them know you are thinking of them though. I need to message her and the song title by weezer “The world has turned and left me here” running through my mind the past two days hopefully will help.
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@snowy22315 (186341)
• United States
10 Mar
Yes, it would be nice of you to reach out and let her know that you care. I hope your kids will too.
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@shaggin (74007)
• United States
21h
@snowy22315 my kids are even more awkward socially then I am.
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@allknowing (141962)
• India
11 Mar
You just have to be there for her and as many have suggested just call her.
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@DaddyEvil (142990)
• United States
11 Mar
I know exactly how you feel... When you think she's home from work, just call and visit with her. I'm positive she'd be happy to hear from you. 
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@wolfgirl569 (112748)
• Marion, Ohio
11 Mar
Just call her. You know just hearing a friendly voice can help
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@lilacskies (9556)
• United States
11 Mar
If calling is difficult, then try sending her an email.
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@much2say (57334)
• Los Angeles, California
4h
It'd be good to reach out to her in whatever way is comfortable for you.
I realized that feeling when my father passed away a little over 2 years ago. Although most of his siblings sent or left a message of condolence to my mom, since then no one has ever checked in on my mom. I just felt so disappointed at my family - I still feel sad for my mom.
@LindaOHio (184128)
• United States
16h
Even with his indiscretions, I think about my husband every minute of every day. I miss him so much. I totally understand. Yes, the grieving person does not want to think that they're been forgotten. I hope you get in touch with your MIL.
@2ndchances24 (10056)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
11 Mar
I know just what you mean, you don't know what to say
or really how to say anything cause it may make things worse
but to not say anything makes it just as bad too, so the best
thing to do is at least contact them & ask how their doing
do they need some company or some help with anything.
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