Moving
By Tina
@trbr22 (82)
United States
March 11, 2025 1:42am CST
After 36 years, my husband and I are moving out of our home and into an apartment or a smaller trailer in a trailer park. We haven't decided which yet, but we are selling out place and auctioning off a ton of things and moving on.
My husband has ALS and he wants me to be in town where I have access to more things such as the ability to have things delivered and closer to the hospital and ambulance service. We live in the country right now, but we have a couple looking at the house and property, so we may be moving before I have us completely packed up.
I got boxes that are way too big, and I know I am packing them heavy, but that's what dollies are for. Our son will have his friends haul everything, at least that is the plan for now, we may get movers to come in and do it all, because they could do it in one trip and save the backs of everyone else. We'll just have to wait and see how it pans out.
Packing is hard on me, though. I'm trying to weed through things, put like things together and get rid of trash along the way and set aside things for the auction we will have and really be critical about what I take. We are trying to size down, but it doesn't look like I'm doing much sizing down at all by the boxes.
I need someone to come in and tell me, "no, you can't take that", but there isn't anyone brave enough. ha! My husband knows what all I am giving up and losing and he is going easy on me about taking my craft stuff and art projects because he knows it is what keeps me busy and will keep me busy when he passes.
It's a sad situation, but I'm holding my head up and taking one day at a time and trying to stay positive, even when things are so grime.
Sorry, I just needed to vent a little bit. Thanks for listening.
~Peace
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@DaddyEvil (143228)
• United States
11 Mar
Downsizing is hard and so is leaving a home you've lived in for half of forever. My daughter and I did that seven years ago. While I was putting in loads of overtime to pay for moving, my daughter started getting rid of our stuff... We were moving into a house less than half the size of the one we were leaving so HAD to downsize.
Even after she sorted through everything we own, threw stuff away, gave tons of stuff to friends and to a thrift store in our city, we still had too much stuff for the new place. We still have stuff out in the garage that we haven't even looked at since we moved into this smaller house...
I do remember one thing from when I was in my twenties, unless you have to, don't move into an apartment. Anyone living above you sounds like they're stomping when they walk across their floor/your ceiling and people below you won't believe you're walking normally and not stomping as hard as you can as you cross their ceiling.
You're always welcome to vent here. We all do it one time or another.
Good luck with your move and I hope something miraculous happens for your hubby. 
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@DaddyEvil (143228)
• United States
13 Mar
@trbr22 Good luck with the triplex apartment... It can take months to evict someone unless they're willing to move out without a fight. Just getting them into court can take months.
I used to try to talk to people on YouTube but quickly learned that the only people willing to talk there were bullies or trolls who just want to harass someone for no reason. I stopped trying after getting that treatment a few times. I was being honest with the person I was trying to talk with and they never responded even once. *shrug*
I don't use any other social media sites. I've joined several of them because someone on myLot asked me to but they just aren't for me.
On myLot, we're just people talking to people... Most of the people here I consider friends. Although, there are a few I refuse to talk with unless they need help with computer, tablet or phone... I try to be nice to everyone but... sometimes that doesn't work. It's like friends or family in real life. Not everyone gets along all the time.
I hope your surgery goes well. I'll keep you in my thoughts. Good luck getting help packing for the move.
@trbr22 (82)
• United States
12 Mar
Thank you so much. You are an uplifting person. I'm sorry you and your daughter had to go through such a move. It is hard letting go of things I've had for so many years, but it is for a good cause. To get me closer to town and within an ambulance's quicker reach, where we can have deliveries made and for me to have more of a social life. We have been pretty isolated out here in the woods for a long time and though we like it, it's not good for one person to be along out here and wallow in pity. So when my husband does pass, I need to be in town and have a social setting to be involved in.
The apartments we are looking at are all single story and are for seniors, so we wouldn't have the issue of anyone walking above or below us, our only problem with them so far is getting approved to live there! They require so much info and I hate that.
Thanks again for your kind words and for saying I can vent here anytime, that's a nice thing to know!
~peace
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@trbr22 (82)
• United States
13 Mar
@DaddyEvil Thank you so much. I plan on sticking around, it is so more peaceful here than at Facebook or the other social medial places, you can really talk here and touch base with people and not get talked down to. I like that about myLot.
I don't know where we are moving at this point, but our son works construction, doing odd jobs for people when he is not on duty as a firefighter and he knows a person that has a triplex and they are willing to allow us to rent from them, but they have to get an opening first and that will be the people that are not currently paying their rent, so an eviction has to take place before we can have their apartment. It may work out perfectly though because we are not ready to move at this very moment and they aren't ready for us at this very moment. I'm praying for good timing.
I have my hands full with a bad back and my health issues and then taking care of my husband and trying to pack up the house too, I am praying all of the time, I need help and no one to help me at this time. I will have surgery one Monday and that's really going to throw a wrench in things. We'll get through it, one day at a time!
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@lilacskies (10612)
• United States
11 Mar
Downsizing is the best decision in this situation. You made the right choice. Good luck with your move!
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@trbr22 (82)
• United States
12 Mar
Thank you! I hope that we are able to downsize enough. I have a tendency to hang on to too much. I'm trying so hard to leave things that I truly do not need, but it's hard! I like my things. I'll keep packing and asking myself if I truly need it and keep being honest, maybe I can leave more behind that I ever thought possible.
~Peace
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@lilacskies (10612)
• United States
12 Mar
@trbr22 You are welcome! I wish you the best of luck! I'm sure with enough determination, you will succeed!
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@trbr22 (82)
• United States
13 Mar
@lilacskies Thank you for that. I am certainly determined.
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@RebeccasFarm (92842)
• United States
11 Mar
Don't be sorry..we may be walking down the street soon with a couple of carts and that's it.
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@trbr22 (82)
• United States
12 Mar
Oh I hope not! I don't ever want to be homeless, but if I am, I want to live near a fire station. My son's wife would not have me living with them, so the possibility of being homeless is real! I think I will get by with the money I get each month, but I will be frugal as possible.
Thanks for commenting!
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@trbr22 (82)
• United States
12 Mar
You are right, it is stressful and I used to do it with ease when we were young and looking for that perfect place to live and then we found this place and stopped moving and now we have too much crap! LOL It has taken over our lives and hopefully the auction company will come in and make some a little money for us by selling what we are leaving behind. I'm leaving so much material and I took two tubes of material so far, I'm not taking any more. I think I have enough to keep me busy sewing for a long time.
I'm trying not to stress about giving things up, but it's hard. I'll keep taking those deep breaths though, they are helpful. Thanks!
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