Bad Morning
By lilacskies
@lilacskies (12739)
United States
March 20, 2025 9:48am CST
Well, I woke up on the wrong foot today because I heard my ex-husband's voice outside my bedroom door. I have no idea if he had knocked previously because I didn't hear it, but I heard his voice and woke up with a start. That's one alarm clock I didn't need this morning. I hesitated about opening the door and stayed still in bed, but he kept going on and on about how he needed to talk to me. I knew my parents were witnessing this in the background so I just gave up and decided to open the door.
He had a thermos of tomato soup that he made for me. I left it on the dresser and had no intention of eating it because it was probably tampered with and I don't want diarrhea. He used to make tomato soup for me when we were still married and he was hoping this would invoke some kind of sentimental reaction out of me, but all I wanted was for him to leave. We exchanged some awkward pleasantries. He didn't ask me for money this time and he didn't gloat about his new lover either.
Unlike usual, he left without staying for at least an hour to catch up with my parents. I discreetly dumped the tomato soup in the sink and tossed out the thermos as soon as he left. I am not getting sick eating that. I wouldn't put it past him to at least spit in it while he made it for me. I need to move out and cut this monster off for good.
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11 responses
@Tina30219 (82822)
• Onaway, Michigan
21h
You did the right thing by not eating it
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@Tina30219 (82822)
• Onaway, Michigan
18h
@lilacskies Right and you do not need that
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
17h
@Tina30219 Definitely not. He has done enough damage in my life.
@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
21h
Thank you. I would've gotten sick from eating it.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
22h
Thank you so much. I plan to move out by next month. I'm mostly ready. I just need to save a little more money for the security deposit and the first month of rent. There's going to be so much paperwork involved. I am so tired.
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@snowy22315 (186836)
• United States
21h
@lilacskies Have you lived independently before? If not, it will be a big adjustment for you. I think you should let your parents know about how you feel with his coming around.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
21h
@snowy22315 I've never lived alone before. This will be my first time ever.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
19h
I know, right? He's more than a loser. He's a monster. He took all my money while we were married. He needs to get a proper job and stay out of my life.
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@AmbiePam (96678)
• United States
19h
@lilacskies I’m so glad you aren’t attached to him legally anymore.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
19h
@AmbiePam Thank you. I'm glad too. I divorced him back in January 2020. I was sick and tired of being abused. I was scared he was going to kill me.
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@RebeccasFarm (93130)
• United States
22h
I am so sorry you have to put up with this.
I wish the time would fly when you could move out.
Yes, I wouldn't eat that either for sure.
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@RebeccasFarm (93130)
• United States
21h
@lilacskies I sure wish I could help you with a little money so you could move out Lilac. He is the worst.
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@RebeccasFarm (93130)
• United States
21h
@lilacskies Yes one good thing..he ought to be terminated from your parents home.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
22h
Thank you. I have been getting harassed by him for the past five years despite us being officially divorced. He visits my parents' house once a week as an excuse to harass me. I wish to move out by next month. I have almost everything ready. I just need.to save a little bit more and then I'm cutting him for good. He even showed up at work last week asking me for money. He has a new lover so he probably wants to spoil her with my money. If he can't afford to date, why does he do it? Oh I know why. He sees me as a weakling who will hand over all my money like I used to when we were married. I threw it out as soon as he left. I nearly puked thinking about what he could've done with it.
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@arunima25 (89488)
• Bangalore, India
20h
That's some sort of harassment, sorry that you have to put up with this. He has no ground to come and meet you, it is mental harassment. You both need to cut off from each other and move ahead.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
20h
Yes, he has been consistently visiting my parents' house once a week on purpose to harass me. He knows that I hate seeing him so he does it on purpose to get under my skin. Thank you. I have been living with my parents for the past five years after divorcing him back in January 2020. He has been coming by once a week every single week for the past five years. He comes to talk to my parents and catch up with them, but that's an excuse to harass me. He is doing this on purpose. I will be moving out by next month and cutting him off permanently. I am so tired. The only good thing that came out of the divorce was that he doesn't assault me anymore. He even shows up at my workplace to ask me for money. My boss definitely noticed so I'm going to have to explain this to him. He saw the whole exchange between my ex-husband and I before we went to the back alley to finish arguing it out. This happened last week. I was so mortified.
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@celticeagle (173038)
• Boise, Idaho
15h
If I woke up hearing my ex outside my door I would probably react much like you did. He sounds like mine. I'm luckier though, he doesn't have any excuses left to come by. I hope you were able to turn your day around.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
15h
Yes, it was a bad start to my morning hearing his annoying voice outside my bedroom door. He is a monster. I always say this, but I will say it again. The worst mistake I made in my life was marrying him and the best decision I made in my life was divorcing him. The only excuse he has left to come by is his closeness with my parents and his friendship with my brother who lives next door. Otherwise, we are basically strangers at this point because we have been divorced since January 2020. He even showed up at my workplace to ask for money last week. My boss saw the exchange go down. I quickly went to the back alley and he followed me out. We argued it out there. He kept asking me for money and I told him that I didn't have any. I spent it all on bills. He kept arguing so I told him to ask for money from his new lover. That made him speechless and he stormed away. I didn't see him for a week and then saw him again this morning. Thank you. I put him at the back of my mind and moved on with my day.
@RasmaSandra (83252)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16h
Maybe he just meant well. Of course, you know better, Sorry you had such an unpleasant morning,
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
16h
Knowing him, he never means well. That's okay. I put him in the back of my mind as soon as he left. He will be back for the thermos next week. I look forward to seeing his reaction when I tell him I threw it out. I want to see if he has the guts to assault me in my parents' house. I doubt it. He's a coward who can only hurt me when I'm completely alone.
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@lilacskies (12739)
• United States
19h
I know, right? Thank you. Things have improved a bit for now.
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