Wow...what an admission...my views on parenthood and marriage

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Working 70 hours per week..you bet I worked more than that so there simply was no time for anything else. Target enough money. I came from impoverished set up, even had to fast three and a half days per week, before things started looking up. So yeah, the ambition was never go hungry to bed, and have a house to save on rent, and a house to generate income that keeps pace with inflation, and some savings for emergencies...simple easy targets....right? Wrong...I had to slog my way to achieve that. Could I have managed married life? Nope. I would be too tired to be of any use in bed. Could I have managed to bring up kids well? Nope. I would be snapping and scolding, being tense about schedules and what not, if my husband does not stray. I don't say everybody would be like that. People differ in how fast they can do things, and plan things. I maybe good in planning something, you maybe good at planning something else. I am also tardy. Health also matters, and other stress too. Talking to my parent is time consuming and exhausting, and demotivating many a times. So there have been crests and waves to this life... I would hate me if my son raped or abused a girl/woman. I would hate me if my girl ended up as a drug addict. And the probability of my kids turning out like that was what 90 percent!!!! Considering my working hours, my responsibilities, etc. So, I love me, for what I am. Unmarried, childless, having enough food on my table, and enough for my old age, and medication, and managing to take care of my parent, and enough to clear my debts. Unusual. But right under the circumstances. In my era, nobody would have accepted this truth. But now, I am glad somebody has opened up. This should help more girls to live the "no marriage" and "childless" life, without feeling as if they are outcasts or god wronged them. If they succeed, god has loved them more than those whose kids have grown up to kill them or rape others, etc. God is great...I am able to say that. How many can say that given what is on their plate? That to me ..defines success or failure.