Aita?

United States
April 3, 2025 3:16pm CST
It took me forever to figure out what in the world these letter mean.(Aita) For thoughs of ypu much like myself. It stands for "am i the axx hole." Now that we know. Here is why i ask this. My husband and i got a puppy after our youngest left the nest. He got Punk ( his name) from a home that was abusing the puppies. Punk was the last one they still had. As a puppy he just loved everything and everyone. As he started to get larger he startedto become aggresive. Nothing dangerous. When one of the grandkids came over he would complain or growl when we would tell him to get up or move to make room on the couch or in my bed for one of them to sit. We discouraged this behaviour and really tried to get him to understand that those spots may be where he was laying but those were not his. He has a kennel that he never used in another room. Where he can have a safe spot. But so long as we let him lay by us he continued this behaviour. Also i have tried since he came to our home to potty train him without any positive results. As a matter of fact this has gotten so bad that now we will take him to our big empty field to run for at least an hour. We get home and within an hour he has went in my kitchen floor. Like he holds it to go inside. We love the little sucker. Im just tired of my floors veing his personal trash can. He still shreds and chews like a puppy. Also his anxiety makes him want to suck and chew on my blankets. We hope and pray that getting hum nuetured will calm him down and get rid of his aggressive behavior. So when he turned a year old we do just that. Forgive me for my vulgarness but he had the biggest tightest couple of balls ive ever seen on a dog. Had i been a breeder he would have been prize stock. The vet mussled him as soon as i walk in with him. Hes low growling the entire time. The only thing this accomplishes is that i learned i never eant to take him to the vet again. He stiill goes in the floor, stillgrowls when hes disturbed, and still gets irrate while riding with us in the car if amyone wslks by us at all. Hed never been denied or teased with his food yet he growls when anyone except me or my husband happens to need to walk passed him. Once under my supervision i had my oldest grandson feed him some leftover boston butt fat and the entire tome Drew was dropping the meat in his bowl he sat and growled. So yesturday we were expecting some bad weather. Well there were a few things in the yard that needed tightened down. Without us even realizing he was gone we hear screaming coming from across the road. Punk has walked off and stumbled on a boy of around 10 years old that completely panics woth good reason and for the first time Punk bites the child not once but twice. I fell like i have failed him that child myself my town just everyone. I go speak with the folks whose child that got bitten. And they were irrate with perfectly hood reason There was noreason to be swinging the bat as Punk was already home in my house. Bur hey if it made him feel better then so be it. And i get it. My middle child was bitten at the age of 2 by a dog. I wanted blood. But i promised to the child the dog was gone. Having already in my head decided to take Punk and have him put down. A lot of people dont believe a bite equals a life. But had that kid not screamed and his father not come out with a bat who knows what would have happened. Im forced to walk away because the childs father is trying to make matters worse by offering ways in which he will handle putting Punk down. So i once again apologize to the child and his mother then i make my exit to handle the hardest thing ive ever had to do. I get back yo my property and holler for my husband to get Punk. Punk has to go. He calls punk to the car and quickly drives away. The grieving sets in where i just howl in pain because we love this dog. He"s our new kid. And we have to take care of this. And i hate everything about what has to happen. The police pull in and im sitting on tailgate smoking and sobbing. I tell him everything, apologize to him. To everyone that is involved. Tell him i know what has to happen and i tell him i belive my husband is handling that as we speak. He takes my info and says he has to make a report but it would be up to the prosecuter whether charges woild be filed and he leaves. I geieve this dog for three hours. Before my husband returns alone. At which time i hand him a glass of wine and hug him. Nothing is said. Later on i see him searching online for electric fence. Underground electric fencing. Im livid. He was gone for three h ours the dog is not only alive but he plans on bringing him home. We have three grandkids that are here at any given time and he thinks an electric fence is going to stop this visous dog from attacking them. Two of the grand kids are under the age of 5. Today when he says how he needs to pick up the fencing and go feed punk. I cant handle it. He is slowly pulling a bandaid off that is shredding my heart. Yes i still love punk but will not risk my grandbabies. I never want to see him again. Ive tried to make Punk listem to anything i say. I tried to teach him to be civil. I tried to love the stupid animal unconditionally. But i will not allow an animal that has bitten a child mo less to live in my home. So tell me. Am i the Axx hole for standing on this?
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@paigea (35832)
• Canada
19h
Heartbreaking, but you're right
@kaylachan (76482)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20h
No you're not the a-hole. You're doing the right thing as painful as it might be. There might be something medically wrong with him, or his scares might run to deep. And, unless you've got bill gates kind of money you'll burry yourselves in debt to find out, and might wind up putting him down in the end. It's not worth it.