When kindness means more than manners
@1creekgirl (43313)
United States
April 8, 2025 4:44pm CST
I don't think I'm named after Queen Victoria, but I love the story of when she showed kindness to a dinner guest.
After a formal dinner, a foreign visitor who didn't know that the small bowl of water was to be used to clean one's fingers, drank the water.
To keep from embarrassing her guest, the Queen drank from her bowl. Of course, no one would dream of not following the Queen's decision, so everyone drank from their bowls, too.
I think that is one of the nicest gestures I've read about.
How many of us would choose to have "good manners" than risk being ridiculed?
When I first started working at Curves the fitness center, my co worker showed a kindness to me. I forgot to write down a deposit and when asked about it, instead of saying, "Vicki forgot it", she said, "We forgot it."
It was a small thing, but it meant a lot to me.
Any similar events in your life?
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@Juliaacv (53032)
• Canada
8 Apr
I do love that Queen Victoria did that.
It is so very important to make our guests feel comfortable and at home, she set such an example.
Your co-worker did a wonderful thing also.
I have done that in the past.
I remember my co-worker being told to go out to the boss's car and get the cases of coffee pods out to bring into the office. She did not do it, and I knew that he was getting steamed. I told her that I would get up and go and get them.
I fell backwards while doing that, and fell backwards against the back bumper of that car and bounced my head off of the cement floor. I never worked another full day there after that due to my injuries. I had a concussion, whiplash and a strained muscle on the top of my shoulder. It took that co-worker months to mumble that it should have been her, and 7 years later she never ever apologized or thanked me. I am careful to put my nick on the line for others since then because she was just such a lazy person and had no appreciation for what others did for her.
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@Juliaacv (53032)
• Canada
9 Apr
@1creekgirl It was awful, I literally was told by my doctor and physiotherapist that I should go on disability pension, of course I did not, but it was that serious.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
9 Apr
How cruel and uncaring she was! That was a terrible injury for you. She should have been so kind and remorseful.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
9 Apr
@Juliaacv My goodness, that was terribly serious. Do you still have any issues from the injuries?
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@aninditasen (16982)
• Raurkela, India
9 Apr
I have worked in lot of school but no one ever stood for me or tried to protect me. I had to defend myself.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
12 Apr
@aninditasen That's a good attitude to have.
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@aninditasen (16982)
• Raurkela, India
11 Apr
@1creekgirl I never regret it as it has made me stronger and confidence.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
12 Apr
Thanks for the laugh...you're probably right!
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@snowy22315 (187786)
• United States
8 Apr
She must have had a beautiful soul like Queen Victoria.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
9 Apr
She really was a kind person. Such a small gesture, but it meant a lot to me.
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@LindaOHio (186587)
• United States
9 Apr
No. Anyone that I've ever worked with has been out for him or herself. The Queen Victoria story is lovely. I wish we could all be like that.
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@1creekgirl (43313)
• United States
9 Apr
It's a great example, for sure. Some people are so insecure that they would never risk any ridicule for others.
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