should i ever forgive my mum?

missy this is a very sad story, and I don't think what anyone says to you is going to ease your pain. As for forgiving your Mum, I cannot say to or not, as my Mother walked out when I was 3 and I never forgave her! Maybe one day your Mother will realise what is important to her, and you may get her back! In the meantime maybe live your life the way you want it, and just see what happens.

If your mom doesnt say she has realized what a bad mistake she made then I pity her. First of all you should be happy that she ran away with him thus preventing him from ruining your life. Now you are safe from his uselessness and your mother is the one who saved you even unintentionally. I think this is grounds for forgiveness. Now I suggest you need to be a bit more deceitful if you want him out of her life. A direct confrontation with her got you no where last time. Try reconnecting with her and listening to what she has to say. Dont judge or complain, just listen, betcha you will hear some info you can use to plan an escape for her. But one that she needs to decide for herself and not believe you are pushing her. Again, time for some deceipt.

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Unfortunately she has given you up. She will have to change her ways before she is ever mature to be there for you. I am a mother myself and would never choose anyone over my babies. When you talk with her does she acknowledge you? You carried her granaby and she still didn't help you through a time of need? Has she ever apologized for that?

I'm sorry I really don't know how to help. I have a good relationship with my mom. She and my dad have been together for a long time. I do hope you can work things out with her. Have you told her how it makes you feel having her husband around??

That is so sad. I think you have to forgive her but I know its not easy. If you don't forgive her though it will eat away at you more. She's bound to realize that's she has messed up bad by now but is probably too proud to admit it. I don't know what you can do. You can't force her to change. Did you get any kind of counseling to deal with this? I don't think I could deal with this on my own. You must be a very strong young lady.

I am so sorry to hear this. Forgving someone is very hard to do, You mom put you through hell. It is your mothers loss because now on judgement day when she needs to face GOD with this he will punsih her, its up to you to forgive but sweetheart let me tell you GOD never forget and it his his place to judge them. What goes around comes around believe that! I hope you can move on with your like and overcome this, there is m ore to life then any man, and if your mother picks him over you, then thats her lost!

If it was me that this happened too, i would never forgive her. She hurt you in ways that cannot be explained of a mother. Your time of need and the lose of her grand child. She is only looking out for herself and i would move on. you have alot to give and must be a very nice person to want to forgive her in the first place. I think let her be and in time things ight heal themselfs and she will come and ask for forgiveness. dont put your self out there to get hurt more if she is not willing to meet you half way. move on, and i wish you all the best...

I don't understand how any woman could do this to her daughter. You can forgive her because she is a very sick woman. I would not associate with her though, which is sad, but she sounds like she has not sense about her at all. Please go to counselor for yourself. Do things with your life that you love and move forward. Help other unfortunate children and get all the love you need from them, that would be a reward for you in heaven. God Bless YOU with all my heart.

You need to get your mom alone and talk to her.

really bad...this was not expected n your mom should not hav behaved the way she did and your bf was equally at fault and which simply means he is not the one for you ..u shoud be thankful you show the true nature of your lover....so go on and find your true lover and things will improve .....in the mean while forget all these and ive life 24X7

Really it's up to you. She chose him over her own daughter though. I hate to say it, but she's not much of a mom.

First of all, I am so sorry that is terrible of your mother. Also, can you forgive your mother? Do you still hold it against her? She chose him over you her daughter, and she took him away from you. I would not forgive my mother, but you still love her and miss her. Talk to her, see how you feel and take it from there. Best of luck.

this is a very sad story that happened and im sorry that is has happened to you. but im gonna let you knoe one thing a mother is the most important thing that a girl can have. i think you just might have to deal with the fact that she married a 27 year old lazy jerk. you want your mother in you life then it may be the only way to do it

What i think that was the mistake done by her wat ever be the case may be..but nw if she feel sorry for wat she hs done thn u can also forgive her and meet her and try to be like wat u was before tht thng happen

since she has given you up,you need not miss her again.as a mother she should regret all her life for her mistake.

as for your original question "should i forgive my mum" it sounds like you already have or else you wouldnt be saying you want her back. In your shoes i wouldnt be able to forgive, im sorry but she doesnt love or miss you as much as you do her or she wouldnt have done what she did to her daughter and yes its harsh but its the way it looks to an outsider. It sounds like you should move on from your life or your always going to be held back in your own life because your waiting for someone who left you for a man who was your fiance and when you were going through something tragic she didnt show up to support you, that is not love. Hopefully you can move on and find people who are in your life to love an support you the way you deserve to be loved and supported, even though she is your biological mother she is obviously not your mom in the way you want her to be and it doesnt sound like she ever will be. She chooses to work and let him do nothing and you have no obligation to continue trying to worry about her she doesnt deserve it. Hope you find your happiness. take care

try to forgive and forget he is not worth your time but your mom is try to send her pics or letters try to explain to her how you feel maybe that will help you and her. I hope it does will be praying for ya'll

Dear Missy24 Yes, you should forgive your mom, not just for her sake but mainly for yours. Hate and unforgiveness just robs us of our own joy and we are stuck. You have lost a lot don't loose you ability to have peace and know joy. It is not easy, I know from personal experience, but I also know we don't really begin to move on until we forgive our parents or anyone who has hurt us. Emotional scars take a long time to heal, but it doesn't even start until we forgive. And I want you to know the same joy that forgiving my father brought to me. pdp5419

don't do anything forget about the past and you should start your life fresh. Take lessons from your past and experiences and start your new life. But its upto you whatever you choose, Choose it wisely by taking pro and cons.