Has anyone found a way to avoid going to their MIL's house?
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
December 2, 2006 9:27pm CST
I know this is bad. I never minded going to my MIL house until she moved. They moved from an elegant 4 bedroom 2500 sqft home to a 3 bedroom 1300 sqft box. There are 4 people (sometimes 6), 3 indoor dogs, and an indoor cat living in the house. To say the least it is tight with just the people living there, made worse when the three of us go over there. Her kitchen is so small that when you sit at the kitchen table (which is suppose to seat six but really can only handle 4), you can't open the fridge. I am getting claustrophobic just thinking of it! Plus, she is not the best housekeeper. They were out of town for Thanksgiving (5 days) and we went by the house twice ot check in on the cat. They left dirty dishes in the sink and the bathroom was filthy.
We have been avoiding going over there for the last few months, taking her out to dinner or finding other things to do. Now she wants us to go over there for dinner. My fiance doesn't want to go, but his mom is trying to guilt him into it. We would have them to our place, but we have an 1100 sqft apartment and no dining room table (even if we had one there is no room for them to come over). Any ideas of how to avoid going over there for dinner?
2 responses
@sadiechick81 (30)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I live with my mother in law and I love her. We have a 3,300 square foot house and she lives in the basement. I know that sounds bad LOL, but true.
Be lucky you don't have to live with your mother in law. Family is family though, we accept them as they are, weird quirks and messyness and crazyness and all.
Would it really harm you to go sit down eat dinner and leave somewhat early that night?
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
3 Dec 06
It would not harm me (well maybe give me a headache for a few days - I have horrible sinuses and the animal hair kills me), but I am misreable enough that I would rather not go and my fiance isn't thrilled about going either which doesn't help my attitude. When I was married to my ex-husband we lived with his family for 6 months and it wasn't bad. We had to stay at this MIL for 2 months and we didn't have a problem, but we also cleaned the house. I like them all and I want to see them, I just don't want to have to go to their house. I accept the messyness and from staying thier I know how bad it can be (the first day we stayed with them there was a layer of dog hair on the floor), I just would rather not eat there knowing that I don't know IF her kitchen is going ot be clean.
