Can you be fulfilled with having only one child?

My son Logan - this a pic of my one and only
United States
December 2, 2006 11:32pm CST
I have wondered about the difference between having one and having several children. i am hoping to hear from both. i am unable to have anymore children and believe me i am thankful for the one i have, but i have had my days when i am upset because i feel i wanted more. can you be just as happy with only one?
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@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
3 Dec 06
My daughter Logan - My 8mth old daughter
I have four children. You can be happy with the one child.Just think of all the time and love you can give him. You could always adopt.
• United States
4 Dec 06
Yes, you can be very happy with just one.
• India
3 Dec 06
i am not married yet
• United States
3 Dec 06
you're very right! he gets all my time lol. thanks for your comment. logan is beautiful!!
• United States
3 Dec 06
I only have one child. He is 5 years old. . I think that he may end up being my only one because I'm almost 35 and not in a relationship. I think that it would be great for him to have at least one sibling but, I can't just go out and have another. I wouldn't be able to support another child on my own. I am very thankful for him and so happy to have him. He's my little buddy.
• United States
3 Dec 06
thats very sweet. aside from him having a sibiling, how do YOU feel? are you happy with just one?
• United States
3 Dec 06
I am very happy. I think that we have a very special bond because of the fact that he is the only child. I love the way his entire face lights up when we get cozy on the couch and watch a movie together. I think he rather likes having me all to himself.
• United States
3 Dec 06
well sure...i bet he does. thats special. maybe logan feels that way too lol.
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I was never able to have my own children, but lucky enough to adopt one daughter, and I am very happy, she has filled my life with love and I wouldn't trade her for 5 of my own children.
• United States
3 Dec 06
thanks for sharing. thats wonderful...
• United States
4 Dec 06
I too was only able to have one child. I had many miscarriages to even finally have the one I have and could not have anymore because of health problems. Honey, just be happy with the one you have. My son is grown now and has given me two beautiful grandsons which are my pryed and joy. I have enjoyed them so much and my son and I have always had a special bond which would be hard to have with multiple children. You are blessed because you have been given the one child instead of none. God bless you.
• United States
4 Dec 06
i appreciate that very much...
@merlin22 (1111)
• United States
3 Dec 06
i dont know why not hon,sometimes one is a hand full now days, and you have more time for him instead of trying to share your time with 2 or 3
• India
3 Dec 06
i dopnt know what u told
• United States
3 Dec 06
you're right...thanks
• United States
4 Dec 06
I have four kids i would not trade them for the world and i could not imagine life without them.but in your case i believe that one child can fullfill a life it is different to have four children than one i remember when i had my first then had my second things were alot different and alot harder.
• United States
4 Dec 06
i bet you are busy lol...thanks.
• United States
3 Dec 06
I have 3 children I love all my children the same but I have to amitte sometimes I wish I only had one. Have 3 can be such a hand full. 3 kids pulling you in 3 differt directions. You also have to keep in mind that there is also adoption if you do decide that you really do want another child.
• United States
3 Dec 06
i completely understand...you are wonderful for admitting that. i can see how hard it would be to pay equal amounts of attention to each child. im sure you do a great job of it!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Dec 06
Yes you can as you say be grateful that you have the one there are People that can't have any I understand your longing for a second one I really do but be grateful I have 2 and I am lucky I have them as I was told I would never have Kids but even if I would have just had the one that would have been heaven believe me I know how lucky I am Both my Kids are Adults now and they are great Kids
• United States
3 Dec 06
thank you very much
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
3 Dec 06
i think there's nothing wrong with having only one child..im sure it can be a very fulfilling thing. i dont have any kids..and sometimes im doubtful if i even want any at all. if you really think that you want more children, you could always adopt.
• United States
3 Dec 06
adoption, definately...thanks
• United States
4 Dec 06
I would be happy having just one. But I'd love to have 3 total. Maybe you could consider adoption or fostering?
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
3 Dec 06
of course you can...if you are only able to have 1 child, then that's all you were meant to have, and it just means that you can give all of your love and attention to 1. It doesn't matter if you have 1 or 10, and there are reasons we are not supposed to understand. Some of us would have liked to have more children, but your child has a lot of family members and will have other children to play with. Just be happy with the one you have, and understand that there is a reason for this..don't worry about it.
• United States
3 Dec 06
i didnt think of it like that but it sure seems tht way...thanks!
@rms2727 (815)
• India
3 Dec 06
having a single child is an increased trend however it is not a very healthy thing to do,especially from the child's point of view. children always grow up faster and better in the company of other children. they also develops psychological when they have a sibling to share things and thoughts with. a lonely child is always surrounded with too many problems relating to bad health, negative attitude and such other things.
• United States
3 Dec 06
i agree that socializing is important however my son plays with other children in the family and after the holidays i plan to make some play dates with other kids. not all only children are weird lol.
• United States
4 Dec 06
I think you can. But I would prefer to have at least two.
• United States
3 Dec 06
my 4 babies - This is a picture of my four kids. I love them very much!!!!!
I have 4 children. I would never only want 1 child. But if you only can have one that is different. My husband was a only child and he really didnt have a childhood. He didnt have noone to play with. All of my kids love each other and play with each other all th time. I think it will be ok for you to only have one. Like someone else said on here you can always adopt. I know this one women,her kids grew up and she was lonely so she adopted a baby. And she is very very happy about it.
• United States
3 Dec 06
thanks for sharing...your kids are beautiful!!
• United States
3 Dec 06
I dont have any children i want to have one .. in the future.. there seem to be a plus to both ends.. having only one child will allow you to give that child more.. one baby is cheeper then two .. but having two children give those children a brother hood or sister hood which if you have a sibliing you would understand how they can be your bestfriend forever.. i think i will stink with spoling my one baby tho .. we shall see when that day happens ..
@Meljep (1666)
• United States
3 Dec 06
You might be happy, but think of how lonely the child will be. If you can't have anymore then it might be a good idea to adopt or move to a neighborhood where your child can have great interaction with other children.
• India
3 Dec 06
no i cant
• India
3 Dec 06
yes u should be happy with one child onely
@kawillow74 (1416)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I have two Boys I don't see why you can't be happy with just one some people can't have any. And maybe you could adopt in the furture if you feel the need. I think it depned on the person some people have 5 I would be crazy.
@flakom (86)
• Ireland
4 Dec 06
Of course not but if it is something i cannot help like in your case, i will have to be happy and live with it.