divorce or not

Well, if you do decide to get a divorce then it's good that you're kids are grown. But I think that if you've been married for 38 years, surely you can work things out. 38 years is alot of time, experience, memories, hard-work, and love to give up on. However, it's not my marriage, so I don't know what's been going on. I wish you all the best, just don't give up too easily. I'm sure the two of you can get through these tough times. :)