If you found out...

Well I wouldn't have become her friend in the first place based on something like a job, I would still be her friend because her job doesn't change her personality or the qualities I see in her. I would actually really feel for her because I know how hard it is to make ends meet and it sounds like she was just trying to go somewhere with her life (med school)..plus she had a young child to support so that just adds to the expense.

What your're friend does as a job doesn't matter, if you need a friend's shoulder to lean on, would it really matter what she does to put a crust on the table, i think not. Tax men, Repo men, lawyers etc. all have friends too, i would be a bit suprised that she lied to you, but judging by the way you ahve reacted ask yourself "can you really blame her?" if you are a true friend then there are worse professions A Lot worse.

this can happen wid me2 so i need to support

I wouldn't be upset. As long as she isn't doing something illegal, I don't care what her job is. She probably lied because she was embarassed but she shouldn't be.

I think I'd be more upset that she would think I would judge her instead of telling me the truth. I'd also wonder why she felt this way and if it points to you being too judgemental of others you may want to address that. I think she obviously has morals since she doesn't flaunt her job in front of others and must feel some shame in it. If you could end a friendship over something like this then it's not a real friendship at all.

Hey if she has to make a living that way then let it be!!!!!!!!!! ya i would get mad that she lied but shes trying to provide foe her kid!!!! yes stay friends!! its not worth it!

I am one of those "friends" who has told new friends/people that I am a waitress rather than a dancer at a club. When I first meet people, I want them to know me, not automatically make assumptions, so I can understand your friend's feelings and concerns. When I have told people upon first knowing them, I would usually get one of two responses-they'd either be disgusted or overly "enthusiastic" about my job. Either way, the relationships didn't develop further. I think now that your friend has told you, she's comfortable enough with you that other "more important" issues will not be a problem in the future-she'll be able to be open and honest with you about things in her life that she may be embarrassed or confused by. I think you are a mature and decent person, and this new information is just a "bump" in the road, so to speak. Perhaps now that you know, you can talk with her openly about your own concerns as far as her fiance and future career are concerned. They're both probably issues that she is concerned about too, but wouldn't know how to bring them up without first letting you in on her "secret".

four weeks I would probably overlook, but 4 years? That is too long to be mistrusted.

if u r really a friend u would understand her situation. or u may help in the way u can. we don't just accepts friends because they are nice and good. they still have flaws because they are not perfect humans. well, if u think u do not want her to be ur friend anymore because she is not a perfect friend then leave her alone. have a nice day!!

umm i think i would be mad for a while but if they were a good friend i would have to forgive them and move on but make it clear that i cant have a friend that thinks she should lie because they worried i would judge them. its not a very good friendship if the people are worried about being judged

there are many ways to make money with your body and stripping is one of the best is you ask me .she doesnt catch any disease that way and she doesnt sleep with anyone and she pays her bills isnt looking for a handout has a child to raise and was going to school ? bravo let her live her life its none of your concern and i wouldnt have gone around telling people i am a stripper either not when you have a child so dont take it so personally its jus one of those things you dont just announce

I would feel bad that she didn't think I was a good enough friend to stand by her regardless of her career choice. I think that she didn't tell you because she didn't know how you would react and had probably lost friends before because they looked down on her being a stripper :(. I think it is good that she is trying to make it and I think being in any form of adult industry doesn't have to be about "not having a choice" we all have the right to do what is best for us but I guess society is good for judging still. Anyway I think you should still be her friend if she still wants you to be her friend but if it bothers you enough that you are questioning the friendship maybe not. If anything I would just help her get rid of the guy she might be supporting and try to figure out why she didn't trust you enough or believe in your friendship enough (since you were best friends) to tell you.

i would give her plenty of distance. i would respect her but i would try to stay away from her.if you continue to talking to her you might even end up like her.

I would surely respect her for what ever she might be doing. Cause she is doing it to fulfill her needs. and it perfectly normal for anybody to anything to earn a living.yes you should still be friends

i go with her. if she doesnt want to get on with her job, i wud help her to a new job. but i dont break up.

yes you must respect him,that is also work

i dont think that's a thing to make you stop being friends with her. she might have lied, but she didn't have any responsibility to tell you anything about what she did. you might not approve of what she does, but its her choice..she is still the same person, but now you just know that she's a stripper. she was probably scared that you would react in this way, wondering if you should respect her or even be her friend anymore.

I dont see why you should think any different of her. She is doing what she has to do i would imagine to go to school and support her child. It may not be your preferred lifestyle but if that is what she chooses to do you shouldnt think nay less of her. As long as she has self respect than she deserves respect from others.

i would respect her no matter what she's job.i think she doing that for the best. and i think you sould still be friends. would friends dont have limit?

If you're going to end your friendship because of what she does for a living, then you're the one that needs help. I mean ... it's not like she's a hired contract killer or something. She takes of her clothes for a living. Would you end your relationship with her if she appeared in "Playboy"? Probably not! In fact ... you would probably brag about it. Her job doesn't change who she is!