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i had a boyfriend for 4 years. We were engaged and were in the middle of planning our wedding when one day everything changed. I found out alot of stuff that he had been lying about. First of all he had 2 kids that I had no idea even existed. he also used to be married with the mother wich ofcourse i also didn´t know. When i met him he was in the middle of the divorce.. I also found out that he had been cheating on me with a "friend" of ours and that it always happened in my house whne I was at work. I also found out that he at times were using narcotics and commiting some crimes.. Anyways ofcourse this was hard for me to deal with and i finished the relationship and although he kept harrassing me for about a year i never caved in and took him back... Now to the problem. I have a new boyfriend - since almost a year back. he is the most wonderful guy in the world and I truly do love him. But i can not let myself to trust again. I know that he is not the same person.. hut if i were so wrong before - why not again with this guy.. This is something that really bothers me because i do want to trust him. he knows how i feel - this is something we talk about and somtimes he gets to take alot of crap from me - just because of my own insecurities.. Is there anyone who can give me some advice on how to let go of past events and just be happy with the guy I am with?