Is it good for parents to choose marriage partnefor their children?

Everyone should be able to choose who they love and marry. No one should be forced into anything like that.

I think it's not a good idea. But it always in my country.

OFCOURSE NOT!!! its awful... u mite think the parents r wiser n stuff the gurl/guy cn learn 2 like the other... just LIKE...there wouldnt b that spark... n 1 of them would end up havin an affair... even worse if they LOVED some1 else before...cuz theyd keep comparin...n woderin how life would b wit some1 they CHOSE n LOVE...

I think it is nice to have your parents advice if you ask for it but I would never want my parents to pick out my husband. They have completely differnt tatse then me. Besides I have to live with that person so I should choose. I know this is the way in some cultures but for me it was never an option and I like it that way! Infact I wonder what happenes if you do not like the person you are matched up with.

I think everyone has the right to choose their own marriage partner. I accept other cultures may take a different view but even then I think the parents could recommend but the final decision should be with the person getting married.

no if your children were to find out that you were just with someone for them they wouldn't like that very much children just want their parents to be happy i know i would never want my parents to be with someone they didn't love

no i dont go with that...according to ita the choice of individual which matters not of the parents afterall its u who is gonna live with the partner not your parents

no i dont think so...parents obiviously are more interested to choose their kids parteners....but i guess it might lead to a disastrous marriage

i think that each person should b given the freedom to choose their life partner ,though parents may mean well it doesn t work that way

I think children should still get the choice of choosing their own life partner.. afterall it's their life and as they get to choose it, they can't complain about their choice after that and will have to learn to live with it and make things work out.

According to supporters of the practice, there are three main reasons why arranged marriages work as well as they do: 1. Reduction or elimination of incompatibilities: Since marital incompatibility has been found to be the major reason for divorce [citation needed], arranged marriages ensure a much higher probability of success because they tend to match persons of the same religion, caste, dietary preference (e.g., vegetarian), linguistic group, age group, socio-economic background, education, professional status, physical stature, etc. (One can argue about the negative effects of this strategy, such as inbreeding, but to the couple concerned, it can represent a net positive. There is still scope for significant differences in personality to make the marriage interesting, so arranged marriages do not have to be bland.) 2. Following one's head is often wiser than following one's heart: Important decisions such as a corporate merger must make business sense to practical analysts and not just appeal to the whimsies of the respective CEOs. Marriages are really no different and no less important. What is idealistically called "love" and "individual choice" is often the infatuation of the moment, which often passes when it is too late and the marriage has already taken place. Having elders vet the prospective spouse and their family is a kind of "due diligence" that needs to take place. 3. Lower divorce rates:Though this factor has been under-researched, many proponents of arranged marriages attribute near zero percent divorce rates to couple that have had arranged marriages (in contrast to a 50% divorce rate for their Western counterparts). In India, the divorce rate is very low, even in love-marriages (although for love marriages the divorce rate is higher than for arranged marriages). This is often attributed to the fact that couples who enter into arranged marriages (in contrast to forced marriages where there is a higher risk of domestic violence/dispute) are usually more "traditional" and less likely to forfeit a marriage. This reinforces the contention that for Eastern societies (India, Pakistan and Middle East in particular), marriage is a vehicle for societal and economic aggrandisement. 4. Low expectations: Neither the man nor the woman knows quite what to expect, and there is a lot of understandable trepidation on both sides. This often works out well, because things turn out to be "not so bad after all". This is largely thanks to the above two reasons. Most incompatibilities have been eliminated, and due diligence has confirmed the suitability of the prospective spouse.

In almost all of the above cases, except the forced marriage and occasionally the traditional arranged marriage, the child is free to ignore the process and find a mate on their own. The parents then tend to take over and handle the logistical and financial aspects of the union. In many cultures that are modernising, children increasingly tend to view arranged marriage as an option they can fall back on if they are unable or unwilling to spend the time and effort necessary to find a spouse on their own. The parents then become welcome partners in the child's mate hunt. In cultures where dating, singles' bars, etc., are not prevalent, arranged marriages perform a similar function--bringing together people who might otherwise not have met. Sometimes, the term "arranged marriage" is used even if the parents have no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. This could mean a meeting through a matchmaking site or third party. In India, "Love marriages" are sometimes called "Self-arranged marriages", perhaps to avoid some of the negative opinions that are still held against young people choosing their own partners. "Marriage of convenience" is a term sometimes applied if a couple decides to marry primarily for reasons other than love. This term might be applied to an arranged marriage, but does not necessarily imply an arranged marriage. The term carries negative connotations and would not usually be used to describe one's own marriage.

An arranged marriage is a marriage that is at some level arranged by someone other than those being married. Such marriages are common in Middle East and parts of Africa and Asia. Other groups that practice this custom include the Unification Movement and royal families. An arranged marriage involves the parents of the married couple to varying degrees: In a forced marriage, the parents choose the child's future spouse with little or no input from the child. In this rare form of arranged marriage, if the child refuses the choice, he or she may be disowned or punished (in rare cases, killed). In most such cases, the marriage simply takes place anyway, overriding the child's objections. Motivating factors for such a marriage tend to be social or economic, i.e., the interests of the family or community that are served by the marriage are seen as paramount, and the will of the individual is insignificant. In a traditional arranged marriage (not forced), the parents again choose the child's future spouse with little or no input from the child. If the child refuses the choice, the parents tend to respect the child's wishes and choose another possible spouse. However, considerable emotional pressure may be brought to bear to make the child "see reason". The main motivating factor in such marriages is the happiness of the child, but viewed from a paternalistic/maternalistic angle ("Parents know best"). In a modern arranged marriage, the involvement of the child is considerably more. Parents choose several possible mates for the child, sometimes with the help of the child (who may indicate which photos/biographies he or she likes, for example). The parents will then arrange a meeting with the family of the prospective mate, and the two children will often have a short unsupervised meeting (an hour long walk around the neighborhood together, for example). The children will then eventually choose who they wish to marry (if anyone), although parents may exert varying degrees of pressure on the child to make a certain choice of which they approve. The happiness of the child is the main concern, and the parents see their role as responsible facilitators and well-wishers. A modern arranged marriage with courtship is the same as the above, except that the children have a chance to get to know each other over a longer period of time via e-mail, phone, or multiple in-person meetings, before making a decision. It takes considerably more courage on the part of the parents (as well as the children) to go through this process. Some girls actually prefer a short (or no) courtship as they fear the stigma and emotional trauma of being rejected after a courtship. Finally, in an introduction only arranged marriage, the parents will introduce their child to a potential spouse (that they found through a personal recommendation or a website, et cetera). The parents may briefly talk to the parents of the prospective spouse. From that point on, it is up to the children to manage the relationship and make a choice based on whatever factors they want, love or otherwise.

I think arranged marriages are an interesting subject. I am Australian so the concept is very rare here but I have read that the success rate of arranged marriages is much higher than that of "falling in love" marriages. Making a marriage work is about commitment to each other. I do not think arranged marriages are evil, particularly if the prospective spouses go into the marriage believing their parents want and have found the best potential spouse for them.

I don't its good, thou parents give advices and or guides to thier children i believed that they have no right choosing partners for thier kids. greetings. : )

actually there are both merits and demerits if your parents choose your life partner..da problem is tat they ll never know your taste in life..but the da advantage is their experience in life..u can nver be better than your parents..its impossible..you might feel you are..but as time goes onn you will realise their value.

i don't think so..it should be totally upto the induvidual as to who he wants as a life patner..

i am totally against arranged marriages...never made any sense to me...never did....why adjust with a person for the rest of your life time when you could find the best person for urself and lie happily....

well, i think its k for parents to advice deir children on maritial affairs..but dey must never compell their kids..thats aweful..

I know that some religions/cultures still do that to this day. I personally believe that it is wrong. Marriage is based on love and happiness. No one can choose who you love. I guess if you had to you could make it work. But in the long run you won't be happy.