Shoudl I call my father?

Aside from it sounding like he may, indeed, be bipolar, it also sounds like he firmly believes that you have hurt him in some way. Chances are that you did nothing at all to cause him pain, he has simply made himself believe that you have. He may just be bitter about the divorce you all went through and doesn't know how to handle it. He may, deep down feel guilty about the divorce and instead of telling you, he is trying to push you away to avoid the pain himself. Either way, he is wrong for making you feel badly at all. Rather than call him, I would sit down and write him a letter. This way, you can feel more secure about telling him how you really feel. You don't have to worry about being belittled or interrupted, or made to feel bad, for that matter. Once you have the letter written, you decide if you want to mail it or not. Sometimes, writing a letter like that can help you work through your feelings. From there, you have the ability to choose whether you want him to read that letter or if you would rather wait to see if he comes to you. I think that trying to talk to him on the phone would accomplish very little at this point because he is obviously unwilling to listen to you. By writing a letter, chances are he would read it, whether he admitted that he did or not, and he would actually know how you feel. It is hard for me to picture even the most cold-hearted of people not reading a letter from their child. The choice in the end is whether or not you are ready for him to know how you feel. The fact of the matter is that until you get your feelings out in the open, whether you actually share them or not, you will have a hard time moving forward. Putting it all on paper gives you that opportunity, which is the most important thing for you. You will never find closure, new beginnings, or true happiness within yourself until you can move forward one way or another.

Is there anybody in the family that he still talks to? If there is maybe they can be a go between for you and him. He does sound like he may have a mental problem. I've had family members with mental disorders so I know how tough it can be, esp if they aren't willing to get treatment. If you feel strong enough give him a call but if he gets abusive hang up right away.

Honey I am not a doctor so I can only tell you what is in my heart. It sounds to me that your dad might have a mental illness and if he hasn't done anything about it by now, I doubt that he ever will. If you do not want to be hurt again, you already know the answer?

He might be bi-polar, first off. I say that because my mom is too, and it makes for some extra crazy fights and conversations. My mom used to beat me almost daily, cut my hair off in patches, verbally abuse me and she even sexually abused me twice. She apologized over and over again but because of her illness she is still crazy. Over the years I've had nightmares about getting beaten by her and she still tried to control me and my marriage (I'm 30 now). I finally wondered, "Who the hell wrote the rulebooks?" because I finally cut her out of my life about 2 years ago and I have no regrets. My nightmares went away almost instantly and I never have to worry about her being around my kids. It was a hard decision for me because I have a very small family and I really wanted to hold onto her for as long as possible just to have that tie to my past. In the end it just wasn't worth it. You need to do what is best for your safety and sanity and please don't worry what others have to say about your final decision. It's all about you being happy. If you choose to cut him out of your life it will be the hardest thing you have ever done but you will probably feel a sense of relief afterwards. Best of luck!