have you noticed the lack of gentelmen now?

i guess women nowadays kept on fighting for equality in both men and women that when the men try to be gentleman, they might think that women will be offended. however, i have a lot of guy friends who are still a gentleman and my bf is a true gentleman that not only he holds the door open for me, but he will always make sure that i'm safe and cared for wherever i go, even to the ladies..he will wait right outside for me :D

I know what you mean. Sometimes I wish there was romance and old fashioned polite men but things have changed. I can honestly say at this point in my life I MUCH prefer taking the man out and paying for the meals and such as that which sometimes isn't received well so I don't complain to much when they don't open doors and stuff. Traditions are changing and while I miss some things I'm also happy about some of the changes.

Chauvanism has replaced chivalry in the south. It's very, very sad. They will talk down to you like you don't have a brain in your head. Maybe no one is around these days to teach the younger men how to act.

yes this is a problem with modern generation

hey bascially every body is good,some times pepole forget the basic things in this machanical world,it dosent mean that suddenly every man has become bad.

Well, I guess that's one of the "drawbacks" of wanting to be treated equally. Acutally, I don't think men need to hold doors open for women, I actually told my husband to stop doing it while we were dating. Actually, what happened was he'd open my car door, I'd get in and he'd close the door, go around, let himself in, start the car and off we'd go. Now, it's 90+ degrees outside and he has a black car with electric windows. It's stifiling in there and I can barely breathe. I finally had to tell him to get in and start the car so I can put the window down and get some air... As for being polite, women are just as bad about that as men. People barely acknowledge each other's existence any more. It's kinda sad, but I will continue to hold the door for the person walking behind me or coming in the opposite direction. It's the polite thing to do - regardless of being male or female.

I have seen that a lot too. However, I must say location and breeding has something to do with it. Also, the new world is in such a rush and so self centered. I am lucky to be married to a man for 30 years, and he still opens doors for me, and for anyone male or female if he is going in or out a store. He is from the N.E. and I am from The S.

yes, i used to love that,the door been opened and you sit first. i guess they are just more comfortable and not been rased with those manners any more. everyone else is not ,so why should i

I think the answer is clear from the posts Im reading. Yes men have changed how courteous they are to women, and speaking as a man I agree it's a cause/effect of the womens lib movement. I have held the door for people, male or female, and have had them reciprocate. However, there are times that I feel unsure whether it would be considered improper to do this, not dwelled on mind you but the thought has occurred to me. This, for me anyway, is indecision that I consider a result of women's complaints that they want to be treated equally. There is soooo much information from tv, newspapers, magazines (womens) that men do read and sometimes dont understand. (although Im guessing thats the point) that it's less stressful to just treat women as we would expect others to treat us.

This is a trend that I have noticed. I really think there are many factors that all interplay, but being a gentleman is not natural, but has to be taught. Where are we teaching it then? Certainly not much at school these days.

Most people, men and women alike don't even notice the worls around them anymore. I would say men more so then women because women often tend to notice the little everyday details a lot more then men. The point I am trying to make is that many people spend much of their life going from point a to point b and not noticing what goes on around them. When you are out doing your holiday shopping this weekend watch how many people's eyes are looking down at the ground. People don't take the time to notice if there is someone coming in or out of a door anymore. They are lost in their own bubble and have forgotten that the rest of the world really does exist. If we all took a little more time to fully appreciate all of the little things in life and took the time to notice all of the people around us then we would have more respect for one another and be more polite and courteous in social situations.

oh you can say that again! men don't even stand up for women on trains, and im telling you, they even pretend to be asleep! there was one time when i rode with a pregnant woman and i had to stand up myself and offer my seat and there are guys around us. they don't seem to care, what more open doors?!

I see this type of behaviour in both men and women. Many times I have held the door open for someone too and they just walk in and barely even look at you. That's certainly not how I was brought up. Makes you wonder where they learned their manners. When someone does this to me now and doesn't say Thank You, I'll just say "You're welcome" anyway. At least it gets their attention and makes them notice or think about how rude they are acting. Here's one way of dealing with this issue. One time when I was out shopping with a friend, she held the door for someone coming in behind her and let this person go first. They didn't say anything at all and practically pushed her over on the way in the door. My friend said "Excuse me, may I have your autograph." The person stopped and looked at her puzzled. She then said "Well you must be a very important person to not need to use manners and common courtesy."

Wow I could not have said it better myself. I think there is an epidemic of men who do not know how to be men. This has been the topic of may conversations that I have had recently. There are so many reason I would just like to touch on a few that I really think are true. Depending on your age, most of the "men" are from a generation that is fairly needy instant gratification so they don't take the time to think of others, ie. women. Secondly there are not enough real men teaching the younger boys how to be men. With the divorce rate as high as it is more and more boys are living with women. I don't care how good the mother is she will never be able to teach her young son how to be a man. To solve this sad and disheartning epidemic we must first look a the society and the over abundance of divorce. Then maybe just maybe men will act like men

oh i know what you mean..but i have to agree that these things happen because of women's demand for equality.i have many guy friends who has stated their confusion as to what women really want them to do.but basically, if you can do things for yourself then there's no need to wait for men to be gentle enough to assist you.although nowadays, a gentleman is a rare find

well that is a small population yea ... they are still many gentlemen around the world , there are so many out here in mylot isn't it agree everyone ?

Sometimes people are in a hurry and can't hold the door open for everyone, but still that shouldn't be an excuse.

Politeness as a whole has gone down the tubes in recent years, and it's not just the menfolk. Things have changed, and not for the better. Men used to be gentlemen and ladies were ladies. Now and days, things seem like a free for all. People are so self centered and rude now and days that it's pathetic! Women are far more independent and strong willed and men in turn seem to dote less and less on women like they used to - probably because of it. My husband has seven older sisters and a loving mother and was raised right. He's very sweet and loving, he holds doors open and not a Valentine's goes by that I don't get flowers and candy. I think it just depends on the man and how they were raised. I guess it's just up to us to teach our sons to be gentlemen...and our daughters to be ladies. Manners all around people!! Please and thankyou...:O)

yes i have seen this many of times, and even my bf, has changed, when i first met him he would open door for me etc, now doesnt matter who opens the door etc. and well i have walked through a door and held for a guy and no thanks or anything.some males and manners just dont mix i think.

moreover all people r not like this.this world have some really nice and polite people too.If u r lucky u will come in their contact..