Parenting Troubled Teens

Hi there! Your discussion here is probably the biggest concern ever of the past, present and future generation parents!! The best way to get accquinted to your teenage kids is by putting yourself into their shoes or if this sounds too hard to do, atleast pretend before them that you totally are one among their kind. it is only then that they will open up and start relating to you. Please never ever think that by scolding your "adoloscent" kids or trying to prove to them that you rule them, you can get them to do what you want. it seldom happens this way and they start revolting which is the last thing that should be happening..! And for heaven's sake dont expect them to never lie to you. The reason being, see take it optimistically, all our kids love as a lot and can never dream of hurting us. and sometimes situations arise when they feel it is best to lie to you and make you happy rather than tell you the truth and annoy you! So you have to give them a little breathing space at that. But just make sure u judge when they lie to you and only react when u think the lie is unbearable. Do Not torture them on silly lies. Thier whole idea when they tell u silly lies is not to hurt u. Remember that!! And the bitter truth always remains, Which heralds to say that "NO Matter what, No matter how close you get to them and try driving a point into thier heads, they will not learn in until they see themselves suffering its repurcusions". So just keep your cool, let them be, and pray that they quickly get transformed into young SENSIBLE adults, the ones you will be proud for the rest of your life. BELIEVE ME. They r worth every bit. Cheers!!

you are rite that they don`t come with an instruction manuel could you just imagine how big it would be considering how big the ones are for a simple calculator.they don`t even come with an " on " "off " button either ****you have to set the basic ground rules when they are younger and continually reinforce them i have survived three teenagers and have two more almost there they know what we expect from them and all but one is compliant with that but that one child does have a problem so it was to be expected that there would be heaps of resistance

h-e-l-l-o i hear you for i have a troubled teen-ager my-self and i agree it is very stressful for us as parents.well i just let mine lash out just to get somethings off her chest then i tell her this is the way things are rather you like them or not these are the facts.sometimes we just have to let them just be their inner person and go with the flow and bite ourtongues even though it's hard. but evenully they bounce back been there once before,hope this helps.