Help me kick my annoying housemate out!

@SirPyan (429)
Malaysia
December 4, 2006 6:56am CST
This is the problem. I rent a house with 5 other people, that make us 6. One of them, the oldest one, is very annoying. He's been living there in that house longer than most of us, now he think he's the big boss. He always leaves dirty plates in the kitchen sink even though that is his. Our house has 3 bedrooms, so each bedroom should be occupied by 2 person, right? WRONGG!!! He occupies the master bedroom, and his used-to-be roommate sleep in the living room! These are just some of his mischiefs, so we decided to kick him out of the house. We already told that bas*ard that we dislike him and wanted him to move out. But he refused, saying if he doesn't want to move, we can't do anything to make him move, what will we do? Now we do not prefer violence, as it would only create other messy problems. But his annoyance has reach far beyond limit. So, any suggestions?
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@platypus (334)
• Italy
4 Dec 06
when things get so wrong there very little chance to solve every question and go back to live in peace. you do not need to use violence or break any laws, it would be much worse for you than for him. if you are 5 and he is alone how could he do all these things? you need to take action immediately. for examples, take away every dish and food in the kitchen, and store them in one of the other bedroom (locked, obviously). take him away his bed and place it in another bedroom (locked, obviously..). lock the bathroom door too, and don't give him the key. make shift so that there qould always be someone preventing him to sleep at night. how long could he stand this situation) remember, i do not know exactly where you live, and i do not know if some of these things may be considered illegal there. mines are suggestions, if you want to do that, think before. i assume no responsibilities!! :P
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 06
Yeah, I thought so. He probably think he's big because he is 5-6 years older than us. I kinda like the idea of 'sabotage' though. He annoys us, we annoy him back. I'm pretty sure these kind of things aren't illegal here. :D
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 06
HEY GUESS WHAT? THAT HOUSEMATE HAS GONE!!!! :D First of all, I wanna say thanks to you all for all the suggestions. You guys are great! So, what happened? Nothing surprising. We all gather together, we told him about the problem, the reason why we want him to go out, and we can't stand having a selfish housemate like that. At first he just gave excuses. It seems that he is that type of person, just don't care about others. So after he can't stand our pressure, he moved out. :) Pack your bag and going home. No violence involves, diplomacy shall prevail. :D Again, thanks everyone.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Why dont the five of you find another house and leave him alone for him to pay the rent by himself. You cant kick a person out. But you can go out if you feel its not the place for you any more. Tell me what happens. Good Luck.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
14 Dec 06
Thanks so much for your suggestion. As I said in the previous post, it's all well now. He has moved out. Thanks again. ;)
• United States
5 Dec 06
One this this guy that I was with had a roommate. I stayed there for the weekend and ended up kicking the roommate out myself, he was so disgusting. I just took his clothes and loaded him up... Never saw him again...
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Cool! I wish I had your bravery. :D But, I might be doing the same thing soon.
• India
6 Dec 06
BOYCOTT.... never mind him, no matter what is he doing.... you guys be enthusiastic and make him curious about your doings and this will let you the way.....
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 06
HEY GUESS WHAT? THAT HOUSEMATE HAS GONE!!!! :D First of all, I wanna say thanks to you all for all the suggestions. You guys are great! So, what happened? Nothing surprising. We all gather together, we told him about the problem, the reason why we want him to go out, and we can't stand having a selfish housemate like that. At first he just gave excuses. It seems that he is that type of person, just don't care about others. So after he can't stand our pressure, he moved out. :) Pack your bag and going home. No violence involves, diplomacy shall prevail. :D Again, thanks everyone.
• Pakistan
6 Dec 06
apartment - apartment
THATS A SERIOUS PROBLEM!one thing aam sure is that this man will never give up annoying u!that's for sure!only way as i see now is that either u should leave or make him leave!u both cant live together (something from my personal experience).now of course u dont want to leave! U start doing the same as he is doing that is i mean to say start using the same weapon against him to annoy him just as he annoys u. And remember! u are 5(as u said) and he is one.Take a unified stance against him,plan properly and aam sure when he feels lonely and feels so much opposition he will leave! aam lookin forward to ur reply!
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 06
Thanks for your advice. Actually that guy already left after we decided to stand together and tell him that we don't like him and we want him out. :D
@teeth0 (21)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 06
hii sirpyan.. i have little bit extrem idea for you. why dont u move out all his stuff in front of your house while he is not around.then when he comes back, dont let him enter the door.enjoy your day, may my opnion will be useful for you
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Thanks for your opinion, we'll probably do that when we lose our patient.
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
5 Dec 06
In some states, you are required to go through the court process in order to kick the person out of your house so you may want to check with your state laws and see what the procedure is if any. Otherwise you need to tell him to get out and give him some kind of notice so that he can find another place to live. I have had to kick a couple people out before and gave them at least 30 days notice to leave and they had no problem with that.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Court order, yes, that sounds interesting. I never guess it can get that far, but if there are no other solution, this is it. I'll keep that mind, thanks for the idea.
• Singapore
5 Dec 06
BoyCott - boycott
make him as miserable as possible...all of you should start to boycott him, refuse to talk to him or even help him up. leave his things to himself and keep all those toiletries, kitchen utensils in your own room so that he will have to buy those stuff if he wants to use it. but i think when all of you start to boycott him, it's miserable enough...
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Keep our all the things for ourselves, right, good idea. Why can't I think of that before. :D Even the TV, the radio, we'll keep it in our room, if he wanna use it, he must get past us first. We'll see how these things going.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Well just make his stay very unpleasant. Ignore him as if he does not exist. As long as he gets attention, even negative attention, he will stay. When everyone acts like he does exist then he may decide to go away. Or you can always find someone to hook him up with that he will fall in LOVE with and they will take him away. Stack his dirty dishes in a pile for him to clean later. buy paper plates if you have too. Just make sure all 5 of you ignore him together or it will never work.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Actually, it seem he doesn't mind even if we ignore him. He himself indirectly creates problem, even if we leave him alone. But I think the paper plates idea is nice. We would also probably stack the dirty dishes on his bed instead. :D
@YoMomma1 (922)
• United States
5 Dec 06
the only way to legally remove him from the property is to have some noted violations of the lease such as his refusing to share the master bedroom with his roommate and then going to the court house to file a legal eviction. If this person is current on rent then you cant kick him out because you merely dislike him. I agree that he is behaving selfishly and like a jerk but Is there an owner involved, or a landlord? what do they say on this issue? because if you are not the owner or landlord, you have no grounds to evict this roommate regardless.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
We can't depend on the landlord because he doesn't care, as long as he got the money every month. But one of us has signed the house agreement under his name, so he can be assumed as the head of the house. We might use this as power to kick him out, if no other available option. I hate to bring this issue to the court or authority, but perhaps this is the only way. Thanks!
• India
5 Dec 06
hey its not a big problem .u r free birds so u have a chance of flying somewhere else.so u just take the best of ur friends and move to another place and say a good reason to him that we r very sory to aviod u
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Thanks for the advice. We'll see first how it goes. ;)
@profclark (512)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Life is too short. You guys find another place and leave him there.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Well, that's true, but the house we're currently living is quite good, reasonable renting fee, comfortable, nearby our workplace. Moving out and finding a new house might take a some time.
• India
5 Dec 06
Six people are living in three bed room house on mutual understanding basis. It is not clear whether the owner has permitted all of you to stay, because you may be bachelors or forced bachelors. Normally, the owner of the house before letting out enter an agreement called 'rent agreement', wherein the clauses between the two parties are mentioned. It is also not clear that the six people are friends or relatives. When more than one person live in the same house should have made specifically very clear the do's and don'ts preferably in writing. Those who voilate the understanding will certainly attract the penalty of vacating the house.Do not take harsh action immediately. First try to explain him to stop the nuisance. Next time warn him. Finally take stern action. In case you have not entered into such agreement in writing, it will be a difficult job. If all of you jointly ask and press him to vacate the house in a polite manner, he may vacate the house. I suggest you to initiate action step by step as explained above. If all the remaing five fight jointly, he has to vacate the house.
@SirPyan (429)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
Well, good idea. We will try doing this step by step. There is a chance that he might move, the only problem is he like to delay his decision. But, we'll see how this goes. Thanks!
@vikceo (1301)
• India
18 Dec 06
everything has a proper time.. just check who is the owner and talk to the owner too that this is the problem. also try to convince owner saying that else all 5 will leave the house and that person is so irritating that he will not let even others to accomodate. may be this helps
@ondo1015 (1884)
• Philippines
5 Dec 06
He has the rights.
5 Dec 06
yeh id make his stay as horrible as possible. dont let him use all the luxurys like tv , toilet roll etc..and ignore him. then if he still wont move out after a few months i would suggest the 5 of you finding somewhere else to live and just leave him to it.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
Check the law in your country as it pertains to sharing houses and tenancy. Then take appropriate action to evict him. If this is not possible or too expensive you and your good room mates should leave and find another place. From what I read harassment of the guy will not help solve the situation and will make everybody else fee uncomfortable.
@calvin222 (1606)
• India
5 Dec 06
Take turns to irritate him. throw his clothes out put water in his food. basically irritate him. but i think he kind of dominates over the rest as is evident from his having his own bedroom. who cooks? basically irritate him till he decides to leave. violence might be the best way
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
i think you should look for another place to live, why continue to live that house when you just suffer such kind of mess, the problem is his attitude, and for me it's hard to change an attitude..it's better to avoid trouble, i have a feeling that many of you will insist to kick him off, it cause trouble, better look for another place.. peace be with you..and have a nice day..
@binodkari (174)
• India
5 Dec 06
He is old, So annoying is his charecter, this is very normal in most of the old persons. He could be removed from the house by doing the things he doesn't want in the house. May be you may not want to do such things but to get him out, do it.