The Other Woman

I don't understand why people keep fed up with this, neither man or woman. Why would you cheat with someone who's married? It's obviously clear they are not impressed or committed to a promise, so why should it be any different when you eventually get together? I think most people like the excitement of might being get caught on the act or the mystery and taboo about it. I guess they might get a kick out of it. Also, there are people luring others into this. A woman might really fall in love with a guy and people in love are blind and do foolish things... For anyone who has been cheated on with another woman/man, I'd say not to get angry at the other person (or at least not at first). Your partner made a commitment to you and he shouldn't ever have done that and be strong. The other person might not even have known your existence and be just as fooled, so be there for each other untill proved the other person just didn't care about your marriage.

I am not the other woman. But I am afraid to be in your shoes someday. I'm so sorry to hear your story but I don't think you deserve him anyway. I also wonder why these women do things like this. What do you mean that she does not live with your husband but she pays for him to live? Where does your husband live and how did their affair work?

I think he is so irresponsible, and I wouldn't blame the other woman for her misbehave, i would rather blame your husband for his careless attitude, when he is committed to you and has children from you, he shouldn't go with the other woman, no matter what are his justifications (money, fun, love) but this is reality, he acted according to his instincts, you should be strong and try to move on with your life, sure it's hard but you can survive by yourself, there is nothing impossible.

This is a sad situation you are in... I have been the other woman once - and I didn't know about it. When I was nineteen I was dating a guy. He told me he and his ex had broken up 7 months ago. I believed him. I knew she was pregnant - but from what I understood she had kicked him to the curb. He came to my house from the hospital the night his son was born. I later learned when she called me at my job that he was a liar. I broke off with him immediately.

i'm a man, i think women cheat eventhough they are married because they might may have found qualities that they are looking for in another man, which, her husband lacks. you should show the man that you love him very much to prevent him from looking comfort from another..

Hello gknott! First of all I'm sorry for your marriage, but if what you said it is possible ,than your husbund must be a punk!...my opinion is that you don't have to let him to see your children anymore and you don't have to see him anymore too.I think you have to find a new good father for your children, you gotta have a men who wants to love them and take care of them! I thinck this is the kind of men that you supose to share your life, because if you love your children you gotta give them a better life, a life that they deserve it About your ex-husbund: you gotta forget him and imagine that he passed away

Hi, I totally understand if you still love your "husband", but what i want to know is, do you want to get back with him after all that he has done?? I suggust maybe hiring a detective..might sound silly, but I think, for your childrens sake and welfare, it will come in handy. If you can prove where he lives, what he has, and what he does "job wise" (which is nothing) I believe you could take him to court, and the judge would absolutely be stupid if he/she didn't make him start paying up...also back pay. He left you...his wife..married as one by God. you have the right to stand up, for you and your boys and get what you deserve... He doesnt have to answer to you, because he has to answer to God , He will punish him...trust me!! God doesn't stand for Infidelity... Take him to court, it'll be the best thing you could do!! Good luck and God Bless xo

This all are art of life... Why not you file a court case against your husband and ask for compensation and for your two sons... That can make his life miserable

Well, Ladies. Men will never learn to conduct themselves better if we continue to accept their behavior. If you agree to be 'the other woman' in some joker's life you diminish the status of all women. If you take back a straying husband you are sending the message that it is OK to treat women like garbage.

I think he's a smart guy who has things worked out and is having a good time. since he does not work well you cant corner him. all i will say is that in a few years when he has no woman to take him on as he grows old he will crawling back to you.

no im not other woman i m first one

very sad... but life is like that..

I have been into bad relationship also. My husband before always hit me and hurt me and he has many gf thats why we were separated. But now he is already living with his gf. and its ok becoz i already move on.

hi. i had my heydays and learned a lot from them. i was more than once the other woman and to this day, it still brings me guilt especially since i have met one of my exes wife and she was a very kind lady. i will never have the answer to some of your questions, nor do i intend to justify a mistress' actions, however let me just tell you that some women do it for heavier reasons. if it brings you comfort, a mistress will always carry the guilt in her heart and will always feel inferior than the wife. she knows that if not for whatever ware she was willing to sell, she will never get the man to lay down beside her. she is also aware of the fact that her relationship only lasts until her well has dried up. i sincerely hope that your husband gets bumped on the head soon... regards!

Im a Guy, but take him to court.Make him pay for his kids or go to jail.He is not much of a man if he doesnt take care of his children.

I have never been the other woman, but have been cheated on, so I know how you feel. I do not understand why anyone would get involved with someone who is married. They clearly have no respect for others, and are only thinking of their own selfish desires. I have absolutely no respect for people who cheat, and that includes the other women/men.

My sister has been seeing a man who is married..claiming to get a divorce. I dont know what she sees in him because all he does is lies. Have you spoken with a lawyer? My friends childrens father didnt work and she got the right lawyer and a judge who wasnt having such a good day...He didnt care to hear that he wasnt working. He gave him 2 options. Get a job within 2 weeks or 2 hots and a cot. And if he is up there living off of her, he is real sad. He should really question his manhood.

i am not the other women and will try not to be one. one must undestand the feeling for other. i beleive a women is ablet o understand another women and they hold try. But the man also plays a part in this. a man can go to any extend to get the women he loves (applicable to women to..) but men do lie about bad relationships and causes. its upto us to make a difference.

Hi there, It immesely troubles me as a woman when i hear such stuff happening. But beleive me , "Never Give up, Please!". Your husband must be utterly stupid to have gone astray, but nevertheless, the realisaton will dawn on him sooner or later and that is when you will have to teach him a lesson. Do not portray to him ever that he having left you and gone is a great loss incurred to u. Play on the reverse Psycology of men. A man will never pay heed to a woman who he thinks is totally lost without him. they do not think like us. Show him that ur life is much better and happier without him and then see him wag his tail back up to you. Tell him in no words that his going with the othe rwoman is good riddance for you in one way. And then watch the fun! But i know that the truth remains of total betrayal but what can one do? And as far as that lady is concerned, she must be a real #@$%& Sorry for using foul words, but that is what they are. They find happiness in god knows what! They are the most desperate people one could find on this planet. And trust me, if your husband has gone behind such a lady just for the gifts and money she is showering on him, then u r better off without him! Remember one thing dear, "If you love something, Set it free! If it comes back to u, it is yours. If it doesn't, then it never was...!" Take care.

You can still go to court and have a child support order in place. After a while he will lose his tax returns, driver's license, passport, you name it. There is no excuse for not paying child support. I have a friend who is owed over 30k in child support because her ex does not work on the books. The man is about to go to jail. Get a child support order and keep the pressure on him. Not having a job does not alleviate you from your duty. As for "the other woman" there would be no "other woman/man" if people didn't cheat. For people who are "the other woman" they often have insecurity issues and like being "chosen" over the spouse. It fills them with some kind of ego boost...but they wind up with idiots who are cheaters. So be it. What he does with her, he'll do to her and visa versa. Just worry about you and your children. Get that support order and let the state worry about its enforcement.