My 6 month old's father is confusing me

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You really need a lawyer since he has one. Generally a mother is favored in a case like this but lawyers know how to work the system.

You really are in a tough spot. You can't keep him from seeing the baby since it is his baby. Even if he wasn't there, or is a jerk..He still has rights to be the father. I'm sure you won't lose custody, but you will have to give him visitation.

that guy is a major assh*le!!!!!!!!!! try and do your best to keep the child away from him!

call legal aid and see what they can do for you they do it for free and be strong he cannt take your childed from you with out cause if you have proof of the violence or can get it do it and have it for court it will help you but be strong i have faith in you

If you live in North America, there are support groups out there that provide free or subsidized legal aid to woman in your situation. Good luck!

Me again, I found this website for you to check out! Its called: Free Legal Information www.legal-definitions.com not sure if it will help, but you never know... keep looking on the net for Free Legal Aid... good luck

Have you actually received anything from the father's lawyer? A letter? Or did you just hear it from your ex? This sounds to me like a revenge situation. He is mad that you filed for child support and had paternity proven, so he decides he will take the baby and not have to pay child support. I seriously doubt he has even spoken or consulted with an attorney. The issue of custody will not come up at your child support hearing. He may try to bring it up but the judge will not consider it. That is a seperate case and will require your ex to sue you for custody. Which means he will have to file (or have an attorney do so) the appropriate paperwork with the court. You would then be served with notice telling you what the case is, who his attorney is, when to be in court, and which court will be hearing the case. He will then have to prove sufficient grounds for removing the child from your custody and prove that he would be the better parent. From what you say of his background and yours, he has very little chance of proving you unfit, much less that he would make the better parent. This guy is just trying to scare you. Keep researching, and talk with legal aid, so that you can be prepared for anything he may try to pull. But I would not worry too much over the situation, the guy really has no grounds for custody whatsoever.

He is a jerk. Do not let him have your child. If you cannot afford a lawyer seek assistance. Get whatever you can get as far as help. This guy has no feelings except for himself

HE HAS NO RIGHT to do that to you, and then try to take your baby after kicking you out of the house!! FIGHT HIM! you seem to have a good case, lawyer up and tell him about his history of abuse, find the people who he's been abusful to or family or friends who know and seen it. mothers have more rights, especially if you're clean with no record. if you're a good mother you shouldn't have much to worry about. just fight it with whatever you want...no judge in their right mind would allow the baby to go with someone who just says they want them without even being there for him!!!

I don't think he should have any paternal rights, period. He gave that up when he kicked you out and turned his back on you when you were pregnant. He hasn't been there for the child thus far, he shouldn't have any rights as a father because he isn't one. He was a sperm donor at best. I would contact some local lawyers and see if any of them handle family law probono cases. (meaning free or cheap representation) If you can't find someone to represent you for free, you may be able to seek some free legal advice that you can use to help represent yourself. Do your homework, research your parental rights for your state and county. Gather as much tangible information as possible regarding dates, times, occurences and proof of his violent tendencies and your past history with him. Gather as much proof as you can now, record your phone conversations with him and document face to face meetings with him as best you can. If he takes you to court, use it all against him. He abandoned his pregnant fiancee, turned his back on her while she fought to successfully carry his child full term alone, and turned around and married another woman and shows up out of the blue demanding his child. I think not. In cases like this, the mother is always in a more favorable light. Take heart, keep the faith and do the best you can. Best of luck to you and your baby! :O)

Sweetie i am so sorry to hear that. Once you are a good mother and the child is being taken care of and is healthly and not forgetting that you are in a stable environment that you should not have anything to worry about

Normally the mother is the first choice, get yourself a lawyer for child support and all the back expenses he will have to pay for the cost of your lawyer. Be on your best behavior your childs life is depending on you! You need a lawyer!

the baby should be in the custody of the mother until his/her 7th year. besides, you're not married right? you are 90/10 have the right to have your baby.

He's a rat of the worst possible kind. Let's hope he is not successful. It's your baby, not his.

That guy is such irresponsible to left you behind for months and not even had the nerve to communicate you and then, what, all of the sudden he just pop-out somewhere just to take your baby and now has married someone....hello he is a devil! A very irresponsible and cruel DEVIL!!! If I were you, I will seek an attorneys advice and protection. He has never been a father to your child. In our country, children below seven (7) years old are under the custody of their mother and then after the childs 7th birthday, then thats the time wherein the child will have to choose as to who he / she wants to go with ... either to his / her father or mother.

Well I see this is a while ago that it was written so I do hope that you still have your Baby and that he lost the case. I guess he only got married to have the Baby, but he obviously was carrying on behind your Back when you where with him.

that guy is totally irresponsible!!dont give the baby to him, and the law states that the mother takes care of a child until he/she comes to a certain age when he/she can decide for him/herself.so fight for your right

dont worry about any think no one can take yourbaby from you. There is rulesfor it you just hav to complaint about it in human rights or women care and they will help you. Your baby is 6 month old sono one can takethe baby from mother till age of 6.

Don't worry. He doesn't have any right. I believe the child belongs to the mother until the age of 7, depends on the country, then the child can decide. There are pro-bono lawyers you should get him to pay child support. Don't let this fool scare you.