What would you do if you suspected your spouse was trying to harm you?
By Esmy27
@Esmy27 (47)
United States
December 4, 2006 11:11am CST
Okay, this is a real life situation. My mother in law has been having a problem for about a year now. My father in law has always been very jealous, but now that he is older this jealousy has become out of control. My mother in law is an attractive women for her age. She does not work, she stays at home and cares for a physically disabled child. She does not drive - her only outings are when she walks to the stores nearby.
Here is the concern. My father in law went to mexico a year ago, since he came back mysterious things started to happen. This blackish purplish oil/dye has started appearing on my mother in laws clothes. Mostly her underwear. It is stained on all her intimates, her favorite clothes, etc... This does not happen to anyone else in the house. She also has had problems with her makeup - a couple of times she used her mascara and she says it started burning her eyes immediately - it did not stop until she washed it off. She has used her lipglosses and she said it burned and after she washed it off her skin was raw and dry for about a week. She is now hiding her makeup and she throws away all the clothing items that are stained with this strange substance. She has confronted her husband many times about this - he says he does not know what she is talking about and acts offended and angry. They have had huge falling out's over this - to the point where my father in law leaves the house for a week or so. She is convinced it is him, as no one else in the house would do this. The poor thing is desperate. I doubt they would ever divorce, because of there age.
What would you do? What do you think is happenning?
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@mridig (202)
• India
8 Jan 07
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast").
Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. [1] [2] [3] It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old. [4] [5] [6] [7]
It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]
@dnatureofdtrain (5273)
• Janesville, Wisconsin
6 Dec 06
Next time it happens, But the mascara, or lipstick into a plastic bag, take it to the police to have it tested to see if it was poisoned. Next time the substance is found on the clothes call the police, and have then come in and check it out. Maybe it is the husband maybe it is not, maybe it is is a leak of something else in car or somewhere in the house.. or at work. Where it appears to be invisbile until after it has been washed then slowly appears.....
I would imediately get the clothing, and mascara, things tested to find out what exactly is on them, and then go from there.
- DNatureofDTrain
