I'm scared to have a baby........

Hi, I feel for you. The best thing to do right now is wait a while until you are emotionally, physically and financially stable to have a baby. If adoption is being considered, talk to your husband about it and who knows, maybe he feels it will be safer for you that way too. It will also help if you have regular consultations with your OB Gynecologist. They will determine when you are ready.

I would say definitely go the adoption route. Women who are afraid of pregnancy and who have complications can come to resent their children. And there are so many unwanted children in this world that need a family. Give one of those poor kids a loving home. And besides that, I don't blame you. I never plan on having children at all. But pregnancy does do a number on the female body. I'll spare you the gory details, but it does do a lot. So yes, my suggestion is to talk to your husband about adoption, and look into it once you're financially stable. Good luck!

Modern medicine is truly amazing, and things that could have caused problem pregnancies 25 years ago are no problem now. I have 2 stories to tell. The first is about a girl who had Krohn's disease. Shed lost her entire colon and had had a cholostomy. Her doctors told her not to get pregnant, but she did it anyway. She insisted on carrying the baby to term, and she had no problems at all. Her daughter is 26 now. The other story is about a gal who was pregnant when her doctors found ovarian cancer. They wanted her to abort her baby, because she would not be able to have cancer treatments while pregnant. She refused. She came through the pregnancy just fine. They did whatever they had to do for her cancer, and a few years later she had another baby. She's still fine, and both of her children are almost grown. You will be a good mother if you want it badly enough. It's your heart that determines the kind of mother you are, not your body. Of course, adopting would be good, too, because there are so many children waiting for parents.

i think every mother is frightened to some extent not knowing if the can cope with the changes that her body goes through not to mention the pain but as a mother of five it was well worth it the pain is managable and while the bodily changes are dramatic your body will adjust to them . You are wise waiting until you are more financial but don`t leave it too long .motherhood is really wonderful

Dont be scared of having a baby after all its nice to have a baby and its good to be a mother.

First I would like to say in my opinion it is very positive that you are thinking about consequences BEFORE the actual decision. That is rare in today's world. Second, I think you will be fine. Really. Women have done this for countless years and everything goes fine! It's very natural and normal for a woman to become pregnant and have a baby. In fact when my wife (at the time) was pregnant, I have 3 children, she was healthier and felt BETTER most of the time! I would recommend talking to your husband about all this and also dealing with the military issue, but other than that . . . relax!

why you scared, should be you happy, because I have friend until now the can't not get children, they have married for 10 years, congratz to you god bless you

You should wait till you are ready. You just have to search your heart and find out what you want. Adoption is a great thing so many babies are unwanted these days.

The thing with adoption is that you know that there not your own and the parents (Depending on the circumstances) could always want to get in touch again. I myself am put of having children by the thought of giving birth but think about it, if your that sick then there's loads of possibilites that can be used. I mean there's cesarean, water birth, natural birth, anestetic birth etc.

Ive taken care of 2 girlfriends over their pregnacies, and believe me, even doctors havent listed down every reaction somone might have to pregnancy. Sickness, bloatness, cramps, mood swngs, etc, somehave them,some dont, some get unrelated illnesses. The first few months are a kind of clinical grey area, every body reacts differently to the pregnacy, give your body some time to adjust, then do a full medical checkup around the 3rd-4th month of pregnancy. And I can tell you, when that baby is born, its gonna be worth it! Have a nice day!

there is no greater feeling than carrying a life inside you. yeah u will gain weight and yeah the birthing process is painful but sweety, trust me as a mother of 3 when i tell you that minutes after your child is born, all the bad things about pregnancy are forgotten as you have a precious new bundle of love to care for, and that is one of the greatest things about being a woman, and mother

I had major medical issues being pregnant. Was on bed rest with both babies. Didn't mean to get pregnant with the second and she caused lots of health issues. One of my kidneys started messing up, and I stayed in lots of pain from it. But I wouldn't change a thing about it. If you really want to adopt talk to him about it. It may be what is best for you. After everything I had to go through to have my babies I wouldn't change a thing. I was so glad to go through labor cause then I knew my health problems would soon be over.

well as per my suggestion u shold hvyour own child , cos ur capable of doing and u and your husband both are planning for it after some times, so i guess that time will be enough for you to understand you are not physically weak, and in case doctors will be there for you all the time,, and if your husband is also home at that time then there will be no problem, just wait for the right time and you can have your own child

I'm sorry. I understand that must be frustrating. It is amazing what our bodies can do though. I have an 8 month old son. Luckily we are both healthy, but the pregnancy and birth actually weren't all that bad. I felt fully recovered and back to my same weight around 3 months after birth. I think adoption is wonderful if you can't or do not want to have your own baby. There are so many kids that need good homes. good luck!

generally what i have seen is that women who are to conceive for the first time always are nervous but not only women men too sometimes get nervous, but i think you are not wrong in being nervous as your health doesn't seem to be that good. but with proper help i do not think you will have any complications.

Same here with me too! i m realy very scared of the pragnancy! once i had lost a baby on my 2nd month of pagnancy.

I would wait until you financially healthy to. I would listen to the doctor on having a baby. adoption is good to. There is so many kids out there that needs a loving home.

I was scared when I had my first child. I ended up having a C-Section and it really wasn't that bad. When it came time for our second child I requested another one because I was a little aprehensive about being in labor. One suggestion, however, don't wait too long, if you are waiting to be financially ready, it will not happen. What I mean is, I don't believe that many people actually ever feel that they are financially ready. Good luck, you will do fine.

Sounds like your not mentally ready yet. Cause if your doc saying its ok. then it probably is. I have also ammune problem and pain all over. I have ebstein barr. The pregnancy is a bit more painful then normal. You do sling back but you need rest and your vitamins after.

I'm sorry you're scared to become of mommy. :( I had my first son nine months ago and becoming a mom was the best choice I EVER made in my life. He is my world! If you're waiting until you're financially ready, it'll never happen. I mean, if you're in major debt, then maybe you'll want to hold off until you get it taken care of. But you'll never have a baby if your only reason is waiting to be financially ready. Good luck!!!