your advice needed

depends on ur determination...iam fat,but had a friend who was real fat...he couldnt sit on these bi chairs....but abt 2 yrs after schoolin when i met him,i couldnt recognise him.he goes for jogin and all..7kms...he was real determined and chaned his state

You’re fat; admit it, before you can do anything you need to admit to yourself in a non-malicious non-beating on yourself way that you are plain and simple fat, you need to take into account why you got into this state, why are you fat and deal with any emotional issues you have. Overweight people tend to ignore the way they look until they’re bluntly faced with it by ‘jokes’ and special occasions, you obviously aren’t happy so it’s time to do something serious about it. I don’t recommend subscribing to any fancy diet, losing weight is hard in the first place why limit yourself from eating certain foods and then have something to ‘beat yourself’ up for when you slip (which you will; it‘s natural) and decide to give it all in. Eat in moderation, I don’t know if you over-eat, if you care to give more information then do so. Though I was a serial eat when it’s dark fat chick, I never ate in between meals during the day and I justified my night binges by ‘Oh I stay up until 2am it’s a proper meal’ when it clearly wasn’t. I went cold-turkey on it, yes it was hard and yes I think I woke up the whole street with the way my stomach rumbled at times where I’d go have something to eat, but I realised that I had to get a control of those feeling and did, after a week I didn’t have the stomach rumbles or cravings! Exercise is something I never had heard of! I gave it up complete after leaving school, I wish I had taken it up earlier but I was self-conscious, I wanted to go swimming but felt like a beach whale, I thought everyone there would be skinny wearing bikini’s and it’s just not true, in the end I realised “Yes I am fat, but if I go swimming at least I’m doing something to get rid of it and if anyone has a problem with that, maybe they should re-evaluate their outlook on life as mine is fine!” Turns out it was all old people and people just trying to get fit and no bikinis! I started running, which is the best exercise for muscle strengthening and gaining fitness, and not to mention confidence. I was losing weight, but if I played football with my nephews I’d be out of breathe, after I started running my breathing, I suppose it’s cardiovascular soared; I felt fantastic. Exercise will lift the cloud of depression, I don’t ever consider myself to have had depression though I had some pretty rough consistent times, and I’ve rarely been that down now I’m on this exercise and fitness track regardless of the fact I’m still overweight, I think on the BMI scale I’m ‘obese’ but closer to the 'overweight' scale now however I was ‘severely obese’. I weighed 258lb I now weigh 178lb though as I’m a short dinky thing (5ft2) I have about sixty more to go, I was originally put off by the size I‘d have to lose, though now I’ve seen the improvements and how I feel I could never consider being that weight again or even giving up, what exactly would I be going back to?