he is cheating on my friend
By rms2727
@rms2727 (815)
India
December 5, 2006 2:38am CST
this is about a dear friend of mine, she is overly sensitive and the time her first boyfriend left her she was miserable for nearly an year.
just last year she met this guy who seemed to be all so wonderful. she is very happy and he really seems to be taking care of her.
but just three days back i landed up at his door just to discover him sleeping with a different girl. he pleeded that i should not tell my friend about it. its three days now i am really feeling bad for hiding this from my friend, at the same time i am worried whether she might just get miserable once again.
do you guys think i should tell her the truth? and how should i do it i dont want her to end up in one more year of isolation, she is just too sensitive... guys please advise
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9 responses
@kahheng (281)
•
21 Dec 06
She deserve to know! you should not hide it from her. Already she has been betrayed by her boyfriend, she does not need another friend of her betraying her information. Imagine if she finds out later that she was cheated and that you know about it. Chances are you would lose a good friendship.
Her boyfriend does not deserve her. Cheating like this and then have the nerve to coax you to keep silence. She deserve a better guy than that one. You need to help her help herself now..
@mkup30 (494)
• United States
6 Dec 06
yes you really must tell your friend about this. And then be a good friend and support her through the tough time. You must think about the long run here and in the long run she will be better off. Also you will do the right thing and have no possibility for feeling guilty, especially if something happens when she is more attached to this guy in the future...speak up and do what's right...good luck to you both!
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
6 Dec 06
you should tell your friend now, dont hide it from her. things will be worse when she found out eventually....it's better to sit her down at a quiet place and tell her everything you saw. then, just be there to comfort her and shows that you care..but dont say anything bad about that guy, just tell her everything you've seen. Good Luck!
@hererufina (23)
• New Zealand
5 Dec 06
If you were a true friend, you would of told her right away. Of course her feelings will get hurt. Whos feelings wouldnt? But from my point of view, it'll be better comming from your bestmate first, than to have to find out by some one else. And as for her boyfriend, it'll be his loss. She'll find some one out there just for her. And who knows, these experiances may make her stronger, not weaker. There is also no easy way to tell anyone that kind of news so just be straight up and tell her what you saw and why you didnt tell her earlier. One thing i would like to know is, what were you doing there in the first place without your friend?? Also expect that reply coz to me, your a suspect too. Just tell her and get it out there. Stop hidding. She may have a relapse of last time, then again, she may not.
@tanujarneja (2829)
• India
5 Dec 06
well if you don say then whne she will come to knwo about it she will have 2 shocks together and she will not trust you anymore, tell her all truth and be with her in all her good and bad times, hiding it is no solution .. truth ahs to come out 1 day.. so tell her about it, and help your friend come out of it and stand by her side
@tanujarneja (2829)
• India
5 Dec 06
Dear I must suggest you that go and tell your friend about this
Very frankly and truly whta you have seen
see dont think what will be the future because the thing you gonna do is nice and obviously has to be done
you make up your mind and tell that girl each and everything and even give her your company, support and allow her to trust you and u understand each other
you never play with her emotions always try to cooperate with her
it will take a time dear but she will be settled soon
even a lesson should be taught to that guy as they have started playing feelings and emotions of gals