Regrets...

well, that sounds like a good plan.

I have thought about it more often than I can possibly imagine. I have tried to get all my ducks in a row to do so, but it always seems like something gets in my way and I stay. Whether it's his mother's health or one of his sons causing problems or his inability to stand on his own at times. My parents have been a factor as well. I guess I try to make everyone in my life happy. I do things for myself, but to say that I am 100% into my marriage , I can't fo that. I try to get by day by day. Thinking and doing other things so I don't dwell on the situation. Now, his health is in question. If tests prove he has cancer then I can't just walk away. Stumped I guess.

Any one of these reasons as to why you stay are not your problems. Life is too short. You need to give everyone else their problem back and move on. You will never be able to make all the people happy all of the time. If you aren't thinking about youself, think of what this relationship is teaching your daughters. All they learn about relationships, is copied from mom and dad. I don't think what you have in your relationship, is what you want them in the future. If you can make yourself happy, the rest will come together, and from what you tell me, I don't think you can be happy there. Many people make many mistakes choosing mates. It doesn't mean they shouldn't have a go at changing these mistakes. Go for it. What do you have to lose? Everything to gain. Really!!!

It's funny what a woman will tolerate to keep a man. I've been there. I too have regrets. Have you thought seriously about leaving. Talk to me...

Sillygrl162,U are so right, I think that i'll adopt your approach

That's good to hear. It works trust me. You feel bad about your mistakes but once you realize that other ppl have made the same ones and if you learned from them then you will be just fine and life goes on!

wow ur absolutly ryt

Hi prince.....Thanks I have thought alot about it over the years as i had alot I could have regretted but I so learned to see the other side of it!!!!!

My husband is reading your response in horror!!! You must be young and not experienced yet. "What were you thinking, my boy? You never tell any woman about your intimate life with another woman." I, myself had a comment before, and sent it, but it didn't go. After reading it again, I'm just too amazed at your honesty. 'too' being the important word here. Got to go , Good luck

Ohhh, really? What makes you say that? I think most people think it is a glamourous profession. Not so? Let me know, please.

Sorry you feel that way. Bye,bye....It's been a slice...

i'm glad i've stirred something iside you, it sounds like you've had the "wherewithall" in your decision making throughout your life to make the right ones at the right time, to know exactly what you want and to go and get/do it,it takes a strong will and for that you have my respect.its so easy [i think] when you're younger to get sidetracked and before you know it 20 years have passed.your right its not to late to go back to school.....i've been in college since april [part time]and its going well. thank you for my renewed inspiration HerShe!

Oh no, I am sorry to hear that. I was the same way; drove people crazy. They should have seen me, then they'd know crazy. ala. You think long and hard and think some more and you are sure you're making the correct choice of action,... but later you see it wasn't, Again. I've done that all my life. Even now, if it weren't for my husband I'd still be 'all over the place', mentally, I mean. I'm I making sense to you? I just don't how what to say. Maybe you don't have enough good information before you decide. Maybe input from other people would help hearing before you make your decisions. I don't think impulsive people are the best listeners. It takes a lot for them to focus for long periods of time. So keep the conversations short and informative. Get explanations for everything, that way you will understand the reasoning behind the advice. I guess that's all I can say....Good luck... actually, I'm sure your local library will have books on that sort of thing. Thank you for responding.

Congratulaions! I'm glad to here it!! Your academics must have been very important to you. Coping skills are so important when you are lost. Maybe some one here is interested in 'hearing' your tips on coping skills. If they worked for you, they may work for someone else. Would you consider sharing them? Thank you.

Hi. Don't give up. You're are still young. Remember the KFC guy was sixty-seven when he opened his first Kentucky Fried Chicken store. Stick with it! You'll get there. Good luck

Thanks Hershe, I'm making up for lost time now..no regrets ;)