Marriage or living together? Is there a choice?

I'd prefer marriage, but I don't really have that option. My boyfriend lives 2k miles away. If I want to be with him, I have to move in with him. I'm not going to marry him for awhile yet, but we can't live 2k miles apart forever either. We've only been together a few times, so I don't think it'd be a good idea to run out and marry him just yet.

I have been with my partner for almost 9 years now...and living together for 6. We got engaged about 2 years ago and will eventually get married but in some ways we are more together than a lot of legally married couples. Being together that long everything is in joint names...I haven't had a bank account in my own name for about 3 years now...I see it as a marriage. When you have people that don't take marriage seriously (I'm not having a jab at anyone with this - just a comment) and they are married for 3 months before they get a divorce...how can you not say the my partner and I have a kind of marriage? About the only thing missing for us is a little bit of paper that says we are man and wife. The law (in Australia) says we are technically married: if we were to split up, one of us die, etc etc the same rules would apply as if we were married.

I go with marriage too. No living-in together please. For us girls are the loosers for this kind of arrangement.

yes there is a choice. I ahev been living with my fiancee for 3 years together now. However, marriage provides protection (as in insurance, banks, medical programs) and legal rights to your loved one, so I'd say get married when yorue ready, as it will help the other. And jst because one is married, one doesnt belong to the other, and should any man tell you that you belong to him, he doesnt deserve you Good luck Have a nice day!

there is not a really big difference . I lived with my husband for 6 years before we got married, the only thing why we wanted to get married is because I wanted us to be married in front of God - and to be togheter here and in Heaven.. But those papers don't chqange anything...

yes marriage is my choice, i m not agree with living together.

I lived with my hubby for a year before we got married, but we knew we were going to get married, so it wasn't like we were just not sure where our relationship was going. I think that people shouldn't just move in together when they aren't sure if there really is a future for their relationship. And for me,marriage is a must, I need that committment.

I am not quite sure what you are arguing here...it seems you think marriage is better because couples that live together will get in a spat and then what...But married couples also have to deal with this problem. Married couples also have to deal with getting used to living together and compromising. I believe in marriage and I believe it is something to be respected. But I know a lot of people who are living together and are better couples than many married ones! I don't think it is fair to say that marriage is better because the couple's act more friendly, fair, loving, etc... to each other, because that frankly isn't true.

Marriage also is my choice because it is Biblical and it is a formal way of creating a society. I believe that in a live-in situation, both parties are in a risk especially the girl if she will get pregnant and the time comes that they realize that they do not love each other anymore. There are tendencies that they will have a baby. What will happen to the baby? I strongly disagree with living in.

My bet is "Living Together". There are so much space to breathe between two individuals when they live together.At that time they are attached by only love, not by any law or rules. And when they find the relation is just not working, they have option and freedom to quit. But, one thing is must remembered, that, the kids. I think, it's the marriage when you can think about kids. Bringing kids during living together is just lack of responsibility.

there is always a choice when you set yourself free and start looking at different angles. For me to live together does not mean you must be married first. You can marry if you like but that should not be a prerequisite. For me, you will get married only when both of you have tested each other' strengths, love, sense of responsibility, and affection.

Anyday marriage is the best choice! No matter we may have advanced in technology and economy, but nobody can advance us on basic human ethics and culture. Uphold cultures and plz dont encourage live in relationships! They r not worth it! Cheers!

for me.. its living together becasue it's my way of knowing my partners attitude or personality... you wont be able to know his/her personality if you wont stay together in one roof... then after that if you think that he/she is worth for you then go on with marriage.

Marriage or living together.. At the end of the day.. there needs to be good understanding among the two. You need not be under a legal paper to have commitments over each other.. Even after marriage with small disputes also u can walk out and apply for a divorce.. So more than what the society feels towards the relationship.. Its what the individuals feels toward each other that matters.. Be it married couple or living together couples..

i will choose marriage but will not hesitate to live together first until we are better off financially. hmm..on 2nd thought, i will choose to register legally first then only live together, then to have the wedding ceremony once we manage to save money!

I think there is a choice yes and most couples these days are living together and then getting married. I myself would love to move into a place of our own with my boyfriend but we need to be finacially avaliable too first. I would love to get married to him too but not just yet. I'm almost 19 and feel the time is right to settle down just yet. I'd like to be in my mid 20's when I get married and perhaps settle down with kids when I'm in my late 20's.

i feel living together is better.. as there is no comittment, or responsibilities and can be happy also

what do you mean living together?it is like they life as a husband and a wife if it is like that i am not very agree they should marriage first and then living together.

No, i also disagree with this,, Marriage is my choice

I think you also have to take into account which country you are talking about when you make statements such as "financial advantages and disadvantages". In Australia a defacto couple is recognised as the same as a MARRIED couple! I have the same rights in my relationship as any married couple. Also I'm disgusted at the amount of people who have actually said there is no commitment or responsibility in a living together situation! I agree with the fact that you should be entitled to your own opinion and do with your life what you want but don't put down all the couples that have had a long and happy life together without being married!